Sonolumino Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I haven't spoken to my ex in a month, and I haven't tried to make her jealous at all, and I haven't contacted her friends at all. I check her facebook about once every 3 days (I know, but I'm still trying to get over her), and found that I was not her friend. I checked hers on a different account, and she posted "Don't play a game with a girl who can play it better :)". Basically, wtf? I know I shouldn't care, but why would she do this? Also, I'm blatantly not over her so please spare me that lecture, I'm just looking for the reason if there is one?
fivefive Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I can relate to you man. When I used to have a Myspace, my ex suddenly deleted me too. I'm asking the same question your are.
YellowShark Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Guys. Seriously. Grow some balls. The Earth and your self-worth doesn't revolve around Facebook & Myspace. Somehow humanity survived and thrived for centuries before Facebook was invented 6 years ago. ok?
skydiveaddict Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Completely agree w/shark. forget all that crap She doesnt want you in her life. move on. I know it;s tough, but we've all had to do it. fb is poison , stay away from it
skydiveaddict Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Completely agree w/shark. forget all that crap She doesnt want you in her life. move on. I know it;s tough, but we've all had to do it. fb is poison , stay away from it. Free your soul man, go skydiving. Your ex's new bf would probably be ****ting his pants out the door. You're a man. have some real fun for once. leave her to her new wussy bf
skydiveaddict Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 sorry about the double post, but you catch my meaning I hope
LisaLee Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Guys. Seriously. Grow some balls. The Earth and your self-worth doesn't revolve around Facebook & Myspace. Somehow humanity survived and thrived for centuries before Facebook was invented 6 years ago. ok? Agree, people put way too much weight into FB. Like it is the be all and end all or something. But this is coming from a person who checks their FB no more than a few times a month. I think I checked it a total of 5 times this summer. Most people I know check it at least 5 times a day. Insanity.
Username37 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I haven't spoken to my ex in a month, and I haven't tried to make her jealous at all, and I haven't contacted her friends at all. I check her facebook about once every 3 days (I know, but I'm still trying to get over her), and found that I was not her friend. I checked hers on a different account, and she posted "Don't play a game with a girl who can play it better :)". Basically, wtf? I know I shouldn't care, but why would she do this? Also, I'm blatantly not over her so please spare me that lecture, I'm just looking for the reason if there is one? FB is nothing but drama. My ex restricted me. Meaning I'm her friend, but I can't see stuff she post and crap. I took it seriously at first but now it's nothing to me. In fact, I find it kinda immature. Just forget about it. My suggestion. AVOID FB. I use to have a FB addiction. Now, I barely check it. Haven't been on for 2 weeks Good luck bro
skydiveaddict Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 agreed. when your in this situation, fb breeds nothing but misery
Author Sonolumino Posted August 18, 2010 Author Posted August 18, 2010 Thanks everyone, I appreciate it. Basically I come to post on here whenever I feel insecure about the break up, and your advice always seems to help.
goodgrief Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 What you do now, of course, is delete her off YOUR FB.... And e-mail, and mobile, and anywhere else she might still be lingering.
csman1411 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 agreed, your never gonna get over someone if your following everything they do every few days. Also it will make you contact them if you see something you dont like
Gettingtired Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 As said, get shot of Facebook. I've recently setup my account for deletion as it doesn't bring the best out in me and it's caused me more hassle with women than it's worth. I'm 30 now and have done without it for 27/28 years, so I just told myself I dont need it. The people that matter to me most in this world I'm in constant contact with anyway. It will be hard to deactivate/delete your account or even delete her from your friends list, as it was for me, but it is for the best.
DustySaltus Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Facebook has so much success because it focuses on everyone's favorite subject: THEMSELVES. Look at me! Look at my status! Look at my Pics! Hey, let me go look at other people's pictures and comment on them, so they will do the same to me! I have more friends than you, therefore I am cool! GEEEEEZZZZZZZZZ......... This girl decided to use FB as a platform to create drama. She's not beating down your door saying she made a mistake. She's looking for attention....let her keep looking.
cookie2 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 FB is just what you make it. I use it to communicate with my friends, share pics and videos, and arrange meetings. I have zero interest in meeting new people on FB, discussing current events/hobbies, or declaring my every thought to the world. If I want to do those things I will go elsewhere. I only have friends who were RL friends first, in fact less than 35 total. Luckily most of my friends use it the same way. So I am happy to remove the ex, and continue using it.
whatadeer26 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 FB shows the life our Ex's or anyone for that matter want to portray. It does not mean that is actually how they are living and how they feel. I hate FB and I wish I could bring myself to delete it. I am not friends with my ex, but every so often I will stumble into pictures with her in them. Makes me feel bad and miss her for a bit, but only for a short while. My advise to you is to leave it a mystery. Don't look at her account through someone elses.
BeagleGal Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 She did you a favor, trust me. Do you really want to go into her account and see photos of her with the new guy looking happy? Or read her lame status updates about how great her life is NOW. Don't fret over this. I deactivated my FB account shortly after my ex left me and THANK GOD I did. He married the girl he cheated on me with a few weeks ago and I know photos are up AND I know ppl who I am friends with on FB are now also friends with the new girl. I left FB for my peace of mind because I didnt want to further hurt over seeing anything that would make me even more sad and depressed. FB is a crock of sh*t. Let her carry on the way she is. You're better than that. Delete her from it, from email, phone and move on.
YellowShark Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 FB shows the life our Ex's or anyone for that matter want to portray. It does not mean that is actually how they are living and how they feel. So true. Facebook is a sales pitch. When was the last time you saw pictures on Facebook of people doing their laundry? Cleaning the toilet? Paying their car insurance? Fighting with their boyfriend/girlfriend? NEVER! It is a tool to stay in contact with certain friends, that's it. Otherwise 99% of Facebook profiles are a false reality of what day-to-day life really is. Please don't make it a value system for your self-worth. And don't TROLL Facebook seeking EXs to see what they are up to.
Username37 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 People hide behind their statuses ya know? That's not how they really feel. Keep that in mind. People use FB to boost their egos.
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Completely agree w/shark. forget all that crap She doesnt want you in her life. move on. I know it;s tough, but we've all had to do it. fb is poison , stay away from it. Free your soul man, go skydiving. Your ex's new bf would probably be ****ting his pants out the door. You're a man. have some real fun for once. leave her to her new wussy bf I have to say, deleting someone off of facebook does not automatically mean you don't want them in your life. It just means you don't want someone on facebook which is completely different, as you are always bombarded by their statuses and see their life in a different and skewed way not always beneficial to our healing.
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 FB is nothing but drama. My ex restricted me. Meaning I'm her friend, but I can't see stuff she post and crap. I took it seriously at first but now it's nothing to me. In fact, I find it kinda immature. Just forget about it. My suggestion. AVOID FB. I use to have a FB addiction. Now, I barely check it. Haven't been on for 2 weeks Good luck bro I don't understand why people are calling it immaturity. When a person deletes their ex on loveshack, people are quick to say you did the right and mature thing, yet if the ex does it to us its immature and childish? I think its very mature to remove an ex from facebook or limit what they can see; its respecting your privacy and respecting the exes feelings.
Beeotch Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Are you guys friends? If not, then that is perhaps why she unfriended you. She is either trying to "clear you out of her life" to move on, or she is pissed off that you're not trying to talk to her so that's her way of retaliating or some such. The point is though: if you aren't friends in real life, it doesn't matter if you're FB friends or not. I deleted my ex off of FB (he was really annoying though) and he was upset saying I could have just blocked him, but I told him that we weren't friends in real life, we were not speaking, he had a new gf and was flaunting it, what is the point of being FB "friends"? There is none. If and when we become cool again in REAL LIFE then I will add him back. Same for you, if you guys aren't friends in real life then being FB friends is the least. FB will always be there, so if you ever do become cool again in real life, I'm sure you will have a chance to talk about why she did it and be added back.
Beeotch Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 So true. Facebook is a sales pitch. When was the last time you saw pictures on Facebook of people doing their laundry? Cleaning the toilet? Paying their car insurance? Fighting with their boyfriend/girlfriend? NEVER! It is a tool to stay in contact with certain friends, that's it. Otherwise 99% of Facebook profiles are a false reality of what day-to-day life really is. Please don't make it a value system for your self-worth. And don't TROLL Facebook seeking EXs to see what they are up to. LMAO so true though! I learned especially from my ex, not to pay attention to people's FB 9/10 times. He was on it glorious as ever, taking pics, doing this that and the thirs....when his life was/is falling apart.
VeveCakes Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 This post really bugs me. Why do people all seem to assume everything their ex does on fb is somehow related to them, or an attempt to get at them. I heard some comments my ex bf made about my status updates and how "he knew they were direct digs to him to make him think I am so happy without him". Ummm....get over yourself people. The truth was he hadn't entered my mind for at least a month until I heard about him saying this. I thought he deleted me long before when he said he was going to. Anyways the point is, don't assume there is some motive, maybe she just doesn't want you creeping her things or knowing where she is. She's your ex and her life is not your concern anymore. Maybe she has a new bf and out of respect she deleted you. Could be a million things but don't just assume its to get at you.
Author Sonolumino Posted August 18, 2010 Author Posted August 18, 2010 I really do believe it is just to get attention. She was pretty immature when I dated her, only child, etc.. In any case I'm going to keep no contact and move on with my life.
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