friends... ex boyfriend... stress :(

[sarahbaby75]

Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago, over trust issues... i felt he gave me reasons to doubt him, and he felt he couldnt be with me if i didnt trust him. The break up tore us both apart, and i was heartbroken. After doing everything NOT to do after a break up, which i felt only drove him further away from me (although we were still seeing each other on a weekly basis - usually when drunk), i started NC as i couldnt continue in that way, as it hurt me too much.

 

Now he wants me back, saying that he cant live without me etc etc, and regrets everything since the break up and how he made me feel. And would like to give things another try.

 

Only now, after 2 months of crying and venting to my friends about him.... noone wants me to be with him anymore, as they dont think of him being this nice guy that he was, as we fought a lot after the break up, and they had seen me upset all the time.

 

If anything it now makes everything that much harder, that all my friends around me dont approve of me even being friends wth this guy now. I'm confused... i love him more than i've ever loved anyone before and would spend the rest of my life with this guy, but dont want to risk any friendships with the people that have stood by me, and have been with me no matter what. Ive been miserable without him, but at the same time i am trying to think with my head instead of heart, as there was a reason we split up in the first place.

 

Any advice would be appreciated... my head is so messed up with this and its now hard to speak to any of my friends since this situation involves them

 

Thanks

[hopeful26]

Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago, over trust issues... i felt he gave me reasons to doubt him, and he felt he couldnt be with me if i didnt trust him. The break up tore us both apart, and i was heartbroken. After doing everything NOT to do after a break up, which i felt only drove him further away from me (although we were still seeing each other on a weekly basis - usually when drunk), i started NC as i couldnt continue in that way, as it hurt me too much.

 

Now he wants me back, saying that he cant live without me etc etc, and regrets everything since the break up and how he made me feel. And would like to give things another try.

 

Only now, after 2 months of crying and venting to my friends about him.... noone wants me to be with him anymore, as they dont think of him being this nice guy that he was, as we fought a lot after the break up, and they had seen me upset all the time.

 

If anything it now makes everything that much harder, that all my friends around me dont approve of me even being friends wth this guy now. I'm confused... i love him more than i've ever loved anyone before and would spend the rest of my life with this guy, but dont want to risk any friendships with the people that have stood by me, and have been with me no matter what. Ive been miserable without him, but at the same time i am trying to think with my head instead of heart, as there was a reason we split up in the first place.

 

Any advice would be appreciated... my head is so messed up with this and its now hard to speak to any of my friends since this situation involves them

 

Thanks

Getting back together is really dangerous, and rarely works out but for a short time. I would advise against it. Just recognize that you had some good times together, and like everyone, you also had some bad times. Learn from it and move on. How much more time do you want to spend feeling like crap because of someone else? Not long! It's time to get to livin' your life! C'mon now, get your head out of your a$$! This guy ain't serious about you! Stop letting his life dictate yours!

 

My recommendation? NC immediately. Disappear from the face of the earth as far as he's concerned. Remove any trigger of his memories from your life. Everything. Try it. What do you got to lose? Not him! He's already gone! $10 says you'll wake up sooner than later and think, "Wow! I feel like myself again!" The other option? Hold on to the pictures, memories, play sad music, wish, hope, etc, and drive that nail in just a little deeper!

[skydiveaddict]

I think you must do what your heart tells you, no one else knows that answer