What have you done for yourself since the break

[smk]

Since my break up I have done the following things in order to improve my life and help me move on:

 

1) Started Running again

2) Stopped Smoking

3) realised I had some deep rooted issues that needed to be addressed and started seeing a therapist to deal with them

4) Am focusing on my work and have actually had my most productive 2 months (its been 9 weeks since the break)

5) Made lots & lots of new friends

6) Am discovering new things and trying new things that I never would have done before

7) Bought myself some new clothes

 

I am pretty sure that I have done a few more things too, but my question here is after your break up what have you done for yourself that didnt concern your ex at all - even if its doing something that the ex didnt like you to do and you never and now that you have broken up have you gone out and done it??? it could be anything, except it has to be something that focuses on you and ultimately leads to you moving on and living a better life that you did either while or even before the ex...

 

so come on everyone think long and hard and make a list of things you have done for YOURSELF....

[cookie2]

Great thread

 

1) Joined the gym and go regularly.

2) Sorted out my diet. I ate quite well before, now I eat very well.

3) Cleaned up the house - she was quite messy.

4) Cut down on the booze a lot. I wasn't a big drinker before but now it's just socially, hardly ever at home.

5) Rearranged the bedroom. The layout was a bit silly before but she liked it.

6) Sorted out my home theatre system! I can now stream music and movies downstairs to the PS3, and into the bedroom on the PSP. It's very nice!

7) Planned a holiday (in my head) to go hiking in the Pyrenees. Something I always wanted to do, but she'd never have wanted to do it with me.

[smk]

Nice one cookie - reading you thread reminded me of a few more of mine

 

- like u I used to eat quite healthy and have now started eating healthier

- and am planning a holiday too - a weeken of debauchery in either Amsterdam or Prague in November with the lads (now that I am looking forward too)

- and got all my finances in order - my accounts were all over the place

- and most importantly finally opened a proper savings account and am become a decent saver instead of money sitting in my current account.

- and finally cut up all y credit cards too so no temptation to spend on junk...

[Maverick1983]

Great idea for a thread:)

 

1.Am well on the way to getting my 6 pack back.

2.Joined a new soccer team.

3.Cut down on the smoking.

4.Reconnected with old friends.

5.Bought new clothes and started really looking after myself.

6.Got a new car.

7.Confronted some personal issues.

8.Went on a few lads weekends.

 

I'm on month 3 and it does feel nice to look after me for a change!!

[mea]

It is nice to have a reminder of some of the positives to come out of all the sadness

 

1. Started training for a half marathon

2. Joined a photography course

3. Caught up with lots of old friends

3. Started loving to cook again

4. Planned 2 overseas trips

5. Sorted out a longterm plan for finances

6. Started to explore my career opportunities

[welikeincrowds]

Great thread

6) Sorted out my home theatre system! I can now stream music and movies downstairs to the PS3, and into the bedroom on the PSP. It's very nice!

 

Dude are you serious? You can stream videos wirelessly to your PSP? I am so jeal. I've still got a Sony Wega from like 1999. I really want to figure out a home media setup that uses my internet/doesn't include cable tv.

[BeagleGal]

Since the breakup, I've:

 

1) started seeing a therapist to help rebuild my self confidence

2) went back to the gym

3) started eating again. I stopped eating and lost quite a bit of weight. Am now back to a healthy weight.

4) go out with my friends again

5) write a journal about how I am feeling

6) a couple of pedicures

7) bought flowers for myself

8) booked a trip to Cuba to fly out the day my ex married girl he cheated on me with.

9) getting a haircut on Friday! Can't afford it right now but going anyways!

10) figuring how to get my finances in order

 

Its all about ME now. Its been 5 months now and I am just now starting to feel alright again. I know now I'll be okay on my own.

Edited August 18, 2010 by BeagleGal

[EyeAlone]

Excellent idea!

 

1) Spent more time with family

2) Spent more time with friends

3) See the therapist

4) Redecorated my apartment

5) Bought new clothes

6) Go to the gym more often and play raquetball too

7) Bought flowers for myself

8) Watch movies instead of sitting around waiting for him to call

9) Study more for school

10) Went to a Lady Gaga concert

[cookie2]

Dude are you serious? You can stream videos wirelessly to your PSP? I am so jeal. I've still got a Sony Wega from like 1999. I really want to figure out a home media setup that uses my internet/doesn't include cable tv.

Oh yea. You need a PS3 too, though. The media server is a PC running TVersity. The PS3 connects to this and plays the video. The PSP uses Remote Play connected to the PS3. I can even watch all my media remotely, anywhere there is wifi

[Gettingtired]

Great thread idea. I'm not just out of anything majorly serious, but what happened was still pretty heart breaking

 

So things I've done;

 

1) got back to going to the gym [3 times a week]

2) finally getting my finances/debt sorted out

3) back to Taekwondo training at the end of the month [end of the month due to money issues]

4) learned a lot about what I want/need, dont want/need.

5) seeing friends more often [was with her pretty much every night]

6) getting majorly involved with arranging my best friends Stag Do, either going to Amsterdam [for the 6th time] or to Riga.

 

Just generally enjoying my life again. I've found things tend to happen for a reason and more often than not you come out the other end better than before.

[health]

1. Got promoted
   
2. Went to Europe
   
3. Went to New York
   
4. completed a project which made me money and got me respect
   
5. read Rebuilding after a divorce/relationship ends
   
6. read Are you the one for me
   
7. Completed the New Testament halfway through the first
   
8. Went to California
   
9. ......Gotta get back on track now as I almost got fired for poor performace
   
10. dated 3 girls in that time - should have focsued on healing more - as I still have anger and pain from the original relationship..I will heal
    

[skydiveaddict]

started hitting the gym hard

been on four motorcycle trips

took my my skydiving habit to an alarming level

went base jumping in moab

[smk]

Looking at everyone's responses it clearly shows that we have done things for OURSELVES since the break and again judging by everyones responses we have all taken positive steps in our lives as opposed to negative ones.

 

To me that signifies one thing, that without even realising it we are moving on, we are doing these things to make our own lives better and not for the benefit of someone else, be it going to the gym, be it skydiving, be it seeing a therapist, or be it simply reading a book that we would never have thought of reading before.

 

Sure we all miss what we once had but now it is no longer a part of our lives, as someone here on LS once said "Your life is your journey, and there will be lots of people who may walk alongside us through out that journey and sometimes they may leave but that doesnt mean its the end of the road does it?" It simply means that at the point at which they left their lives took a different road from the road they once shared with you.

 

Without realising it, each of us takes one step further away from the past and we do move on, it just takes us a little while before we realise it that we have moved on.

 

Be strong people, life will throw some serious curve balls at you but it only serves to make you appreciate life and love that much more...

[cookie2]

Painted my stairwell last night. No more disgusting PEACH! Woohoo!

[HopeLove]

When I read the post I though, well, I haven't done much but they I realised I've done some things:

 

- went for a week on holidays to London (a city a just love)

- read the book "It's called a breakup because it's over" (highly recommended)

- passed an exam for work which for me was quite difficult and I still can believe how I managed to learn feeling so bad

- just booked a holiday to Cuba (going in a month for just one wk)

 

What I still have to do is start swimming again. A year ago I used to swim twice a week and now I'm not doing it anymore. Want to start belly dance lessons.

 

I'm still heartbroken but as you say smk, we are moving on, much slowly than we wished but eventually we will and on the mean time we try to help eachother and this is a really nice thing.

[Hersheys]

I haven't done much also but here are a few:

 

- cleaned my apartment spic and span

- rearranged the furniture

- put my dog on a diet and now he's in tip top shape and active again

- got in touch with old friends

- quit eating junkfood

 

My next goals:

 

- cut back smoking to just 4 a day

- learn to cook healthy foods

[boosh]

1. Started running again

2. Started focusing on my friends a lot more

3. Realized that the issues that ended things between us, were truly something I wanted to, and needed to change, and have been working hard on that. It's already showing. I've had a few of my friends mention that I seem like a more relaxed, chiller person.

4. Really started getting into playing guitar a lot more frequently. it's my passion in life, and was something that really took a back burner to a lot of things during my relationship, mainly do to time.

5. Quit drinking soda constantly.

6. Quit drinking alcohol everyday (not excessive, just felt like everyday was a problem to a lesser degree).

 

At times these things really feel like I'm just trying to do anything to get my mind off of her, and while that might be true to an extent, it is nice to see some positive life changes.