buckeye Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Today I got an email from my ex. Well it sure didn't take long. My ex W agreed not to bring the MM around my daughter but did so this weekend. I know I don't have a legal leg to stand on and I know I shouldn't be surprised at her breaking her word. What really ticks me off is she felt she had to tell me he's moving to this state to a "very large expensive house", and what a kind and generous person he is. She had to again remind me of my finacial short comings before we split. I simply answered her question about the support check. I didn't write a word about her "friend" or her little jabs. Last week I thought I had made progress on healing, then the weekend came. I had nothing to do or no where to go and got really down. I thought I was getting back on the upswing this week and now I get this email. I can't say I feel overly angry or hurt about it. Just getting numb maybe, I don't know. I do still feel some sadness over this, it's just not as intense.
cookie2 Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Well done for not taking her bait. She obviously wanted to get a reaction out of you, anger, jealousy, whatever. By giving her nothing you proved you are better than that.
GrayClouds Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Today I got an email from my ex. Well it sure didn't take long. My ex W agreed not to bring the MM around my daughter but did so this weekend. I know I don't have a legal leg to stand on and I know I shouldn't be surprised at her breaking her word. What really ticks me off is she felt she had to tell me he's moving to this state to a "very large expensive house", and what a kind and generous person he is. She had to again remind me of my finacial short comings before we split. I simply answered her question about the support check. I didn't write a word about her "friend" or her little jabs. Last week I thought I had made progress on healing, then the weekend came. I had nothing to do or no where to go and got really down. I thought I was getting back on the upswing this week and now I get this email. I can't say I feel overly angry or hurt about it. Just getting numb maybe, I don't know. I do still feel some sadness over this, it's just not as intense. Does it surprise you at this point that the EX is not really a person of their word? You should congratulate yourself for not getting pulled into the mud this this one. Ultimately it give you a great opportunity to reinforce to your kid what you can give them, a safe, honest loving environment that they are always welcome to, and trust if that is what you give them, you will be hero in their eyes. Keep up the good effort, remember some one has to show them how quality Adults behave. And from the looks of things it you and you alone who can do it for them. May not see it at the moment but you are the lucky one because you know this. .
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Kind of funny, that she got the divorce and the MM, whos footing the bill and yet she has to STILL attack you, even though your divorced. Dude you need to tell her to shut the F up!!! If it aint about your kid, dont bother you. I dont think you can legally do anything about the MM, now. because the decree is signed right? Well. just move on with your life. Your free from her and can find a way better woman than your ex. Outta sight, outta mind!
Author buckeye Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 Thanks GC, no I'm not surprised she broke her word. After all, she broke the biggest promise, the marriage vows. Cookie, I know she is trying to get a reaction out of me. I will not give her the satisfaction of acknowledging her attempts to further hurt me. C.B., yes the final papers were signed 2 weeks ago. To get me to do the dissolution instead of filing for divorce, she "promised" not to have the MM around my daughter. I told the ex that I don't want my daughter exposed to people with no moral character. In the end though I know I can't prevent it. I just have to hope that my kids will see past all the gifts from the MM and see him for what he is.
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 They will...just focus on you now, ignore the cow moooing in the background. Just be a stand up man. Sooner or later your ex will crash and burn. by then you wont even care.
Author buckeye Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 C.B. I agree, sooner or later she'll unleash that razor tongue on the MM and that will be the end of that. I know I must get on with making a better me by learning from all the mistakes I made.
GrayClouds Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I know I must get on with making a better me by learning from all the mistakes I made. On the bad days try to hold on to the great perspective, and that is the example you can give to those who you do care about. It will be one of the best gifts they receive.
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