AndrewJDC Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Hi peeps. I have been hanging around these boards since around June. My ex broke up with me in April and my world fell apart, she was the love of my life although we were only together 2 years. The relationship did not run smoothly but we always got through things until finally it became too much, she stopped being in love and so ended things. I was really down, on anti depressants, suicidal and having counselling. I felt this way until mid July. At the Start we tried the friends thing, far too hard for me. Lots of begging her back etc until I went into NC, blocked facebook and stopped communicating with her. Yeah it hurt like hell. I started dating around June, nice girls but no feelings on my part, I thought I could never feel again. Saw one until the end of July, pretty, loved sex etc but didn't do it for me, so I ended it, very easy because I was still hurting from before. Met another girl at the start of August, she is amazing and has made me realise I am over the ex, we are now starting out on something new which I hope will go somewhere, we both really like each other so initial signs are good. I also have tried the friends thing again with my ex, and there are no feelings on my part, so it would be possible to be friends, but then I'm not sure I want to be, she is the past and has no place in my future. I wanted to thank you guys that write, smk, earthfire, username37 and many others. Your journey has matched my own in so many ways, made me feel normal about what I was feeling. For those going through it, it may not seem possible but there is light at the end of the tunnel and it is glorious. Cheers Andrew
howlong Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I love reading posts like this, especially on days like today.....don't see them enough. Thank you for a glimmer of hope through your experience. Good luck to you, wishing you the best!
Author AndrewJDC Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 No worries. For me the pain dulled then vanished, I expect this will be the case for most people, you have to go through it, there is no way round it but the sense of relief is priceless. Until it happens again, but that's life and if you don't take a chance of being hurt you can't ever meet the person who will make you happy.
smk Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Andrew good on you... I am getting to that stage as well, not so ready to meet other people but ready to move on and let go of the past... As everyone here has said go NC and being friends doesn't work... I am not doing both of those things and feel much better... I have actually today gotten through most of today without even thinking of her... Well keep it up and god speed...
earthfireuk Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Hey Andy, Im so glad that you are getting back on form mate! Im getting there myself, slowley but surley:D We have all been on this journey together. A hard journey (one of the hardest I have ever had to endure) but a journey nonetheless. Let's hope it takes us to new unchartered territories, places where we find the happiness we dream of. Really pleased reading my threads has helped you through. Although everyones story is different, the pain we have all felt inside has been the same. This place has been like a rock for me since the split. Good luck with your new ladyfriend mate. Much love.
Username37 Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Hey First I would like to say, THANKS FOR THE NAME DROP! And two. I'm really happy, you're on your way. I'm not there yet. But I'm sure when I get there, it's the greatest feeling in the world. Good luck buddy
Author AndrewJDC Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 Thanks for the thanks, this forum and the people posting on it have really helped me through one of the hardest times in my life. Ironically I have recommended it to the new girl as a way of helping her ex get over her as he is struggling.
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