xOpinksushixO Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 My no contact started when my ex wouldn't answer my text/calls, and would just inourge me (and would answer me every now and then.). After that I just decided to disappear from his life, deleted him from facebook, and everything else that I had. In order for me to move on. But lately, I been regretting it. I been closer and closer to just texting him. What's the best way to contact them? I'm afraid to do it through a text message, facebook, and email (since he barely checks his email). And, how would you go about talking to them. I was just thinking about asking him how he is, and for him to pick up all his stuf because I'm sick of having it. But I don't want it think, that its an attempted to get him back or anything.
boltsfan17 Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 You can send a text and ask him how he's doing and then ask if he is ever going to pick up his things. Or you can just be straight to the point and text something like "sorry to bother you. I was just wondering if you are ever going to pick up your things."
goodgrief Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I answered you in your other thread. I also reported the stalker. above..
Monkeypants Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Ladybug you have made it this far.. Contacting him is only going to screw with your head.. take his **** and throw it out into the dumpster. dont worry about how he is doing.. he didnt worry about how you have been doing for the last 2 mos.. focus on you.. and write this cat out of your life I know its hard.. i talk a big game but im only 5 days into NC but i realize its what i have to do.. any sort of contact only sets me up to get hurt again or pulled into the same silliness that has me here in the first place Check it out.. my ex has a key to my place and is suppose to me watching it.. I went NC after i gave her the key ( clearly im not real bright).. i could contact her about it but i know thats what she wants and the reason she held on to it... i can replace everything in my joint. my self respect and pride is hard to get back.. dont do it baby girl your stronger than that
boltsfan17 Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 You can send a text and ask him how he's doing and then ask if he is ever going to pick up his things. Or you can just be straight to the point and text something like "sorry to bother you. I was just wondering if you are ever going to pick up your things." Just to add to my post, those are just ideas if you really feel the need to contact him. As others have said, you are better off continuing to go NC. Throw his things in a box and put it in a garage if you have one. Or, just throw everything out. It obviously isn't that important if he hasn't asked for his belongings back.
goodgrief Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 boltsfan17, I see you have posted in both threads. Are double threads allowed then? on another website I visit, it's not allowed. The Moderator there maintains it causes too much confusion. Sorry if this is going off topic, I just wanted to ask.
Don Ho Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I read your other thread to refresh my mind. He's a cheater and player. Remember, we always want the ones we can't have. That's why you still want him. It's human nature. I would NOT contact. I think you should move on in this situation. He's not a good catch and even IF you got back together, he would break your heart again and believe me, the second time usually hurts even more. Go out and date even if you don't want to.
Nappeal Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Can I ask what you hope to get out of conversation w him? What if he ignores you? What if he gets friendly, giving you some sparkle of hope, but then never talks to you again? Then you're back @ square one w your feelings. I say that if there's not sincere and genuine reason to talk to him again, then don't do it. You've already gone 6 weeks w NC...keep it going.
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