livelife Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Longgggg story short: Dated this guy, we broke up mid march. Didnt stop talking till late June, he meets this girl that night, goes out with her a week later, and is saying ' i love you' 5 days after. She is psycho, everyone knows it ( even my ex knows it now!) They broke up a couple weeks ago because she is off at college 5 hours away. Anyways, I don't think their love was true, they didnt date for long either. My ex said I was his first love, and we were eachothers first everything, so we have a huge past. He tried multiple times to be friends again ( i called NC and deleted him off facebook) Since they have broken up, i feel like he has tried way to many times to count, probably every other day, ha. Anyways so last night, he starts talking to my best friend asking about me, asking if i hate him, how i feel about him, and if i still liked him, ( she told him she didnt know the whole time, and that he would have to ask me.) He texted me asking if I liked him, I asked him why he would ask me that. He said he needed to know if i still loved him, again i asked him why. He said " please just tell me" so I told him no at first, after the bad breakup with us. He then said he understood and that he was sorry again for everything. I asked him again since i had answered him why he asked me. I told him i wasnt sure if i said the right answer ( I still feel like i love him, of course im not over him, his gf harassed me so he was always on my mind) I told him my feelings were mixed up on if i actually liked him still, or if i didnt because thats how i wanted to feel ( not liking him) He told me " ok i was just wondering:)" So I say, " ok not fair then im going to sleep night." He told me " obviously i'm hiding something duh:) but ill just tell you later, goodnight" I didnt reply. No text today. Tonight i texted him, telling him that he never told me. He said that he knew and he didnt know if he wanted to tell me. I said, " ha, ok i dont care. just let me know if you do" He said , " Im scared of what your going to say" I told him not to be scared and no pressure, he had my number he could tell me. He changed subjects by just saying, I know, so what are you up to? I later brought it back up saying, so im right, your never going to tell me? He said that he might. I said ill take that as a no, and i didnt get a reply. I know this was long and Im sorry. I dont know for sure if i want him back, but im wondering what I can do to absolutely get him back. I know for a fact he is trying to " mack" on this other girl, but he just is looking for a hookup, and I really want to know what he was talking about telling me, I have no idea. I just miss him and i know he can be a player, but i saw the sweet caring side of him and I want to see it again. What can I do? Thanks.
lunita Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Sounds like a lot of game playing to me. Are you sure you want to be someone's second, third or fourth? If you know he's trying to mack on another girl...did it ever occur to you that he is also trying to mack on you...and that that's not so flattering if there are other women involved? I know you miss him and want to get back with him but from what you've said, it sounds like more heartbreak is on the horizon. Be very very careful. I would suggest NC in this circumstance but ultimately, it's up to you. Just make sure you are priority number one and if you're not, then I wouldn't put a lot of effort or hope into this.
Author livelife Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 i know, I agree. Im just not going to bother him until he feels like telling me, because I do know that he is trying to hook up with another girl. Thats why im curious as to what he has to tell me. But i'll let it go. Its funny, when you act like you dont care, thats when they go for you. Makes no sense, but thats what i'll try! If he ever did want me back, i would have A TON to talk to him about
Don Ho Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I agree with Lunita. I was ok with you maybe getting back with him until I reached the end of your thread. Sounds like he's a player and plays games. I would bail out, but you do what you want.
Author livelife Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 I agree with Lunita. I was ok with you maybe getting back with him until I reached the end of your thread. Sounds like he's a player and plays games. I would bail out, but you do what you want. I know, and I want to talk to him about it but i know i shouldn't. Should i just not talk to him and let him come to me? And in the mean time just try to move on.
boltsfan17 Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I honestly wouldn't waste your time with someone like that. You need to move on from him. You can find someone much better. You need to start going NC. Don't respond to him if he texts or calls. If you keep communicating with him, it seems he will continue to just play with your emotions. You don't want that nor do you want to be his 2nd or 3rd option if the others don't work out.
Don Ho Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I honestly wouldn't waste your time with someone like that. You need to move on from him. You can find someone much better. You need to start going NC. Don't respond to him if he texts or calls. If you keep communicating with him, it seems he will continue to just play with your emotions. You don't want that nor do you want to be his 2nd or 3rd option if the others don't work out. I agree with all the advice you're getting here. Move on.
Author livelife Posted August 18, 2010 Author Posted August 18, 2010 I agree with all the advice you're getting here. Move on. I agree with you both. thank you! =/
Don Ho Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I know, probably not what you wanted to hear, but those of us here on LS serve it up BS free! LOL. I don't think he sounds like a great catch. In a few months after your emotions wear off and the fog clears in your mind, you'll think: "WHY did I waste so much time pining away for him". Good luck!!
Author livelife Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 I know, probably not what you wanted to hear, but those of us here on LS serve it up BS free! LOL. I don't think he sounds like a great catch. In a few months after your emotions wear off and the fog clears in your mind, you'll think: "WHY did I waste so much time pining away for him". Good luck!! And thats why I come here!! Oh, and I'm so proud to announce, he asked me to go to dinner with him sometime, I said no!!!! I told him it wasn't a good idea and hes telling me how he was just trying to be nice. I told him that was a surprise because he has treated me like dirt the past 3 months -at the same time he asked another girl to go to dinner. not going to fly with me!! Rejecting someone who deserves it feels soo good.
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