Iselia Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 So, my ex is almost 19. We're both fairly young. The ex been all over another girl for about half a year now. I'm angry and I'm hurt. One of the main reasons we aren't reconciling is because the ex doesn't want me; she wants her crush. I'm pissed off more than ever. Especially since the ex's crush REJECTED her. I don't understand how someone could throw away a loving, 4 YEAR RELATIONSHIP over a damn crush. I don't get it. Did I REALLY date someone so immature and selfish?! Did I REALLY not receive unconditional love?! I wasted 4 f*cking years on someone I thought could potentially be my wife to only be screwed over in the end?! My ex left for college today. You know what? She texted me saying goodbye. F*ck that. Later, someone told me she posted something about "missing her and wanting to hug her again" (I REALLY wish they didn't tell me that!) She wasn't talking about me, oh no, she was talking about her crush!! F*CK YOU, YOU F*CKING B*TCH! Can't you SEE how badly I'm hurting?! Do you REALLY not consider my feelings at all! UGH! How the HELL does someone sit there, love you for 4 F*CKING YEARS and then b*tchslap you right in the motherf*cking face!!!
WolfRouge Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Whoa... I don't know what to say. Someone told me that my ex had her status set to her telling this tart she's with now that she loves her. So I know how much that sh*t hurts!! *hugs to you*
spriggig Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 First off, diggin' your avatar. Second, the lesson here is don't expect more than about 18 to 36 months of happy, solid relationship--that's the typical "honeymoon phase". After that, the woman is blaming you for scaring away the butterflies and she starts looking for the next big thing, i.e. not you. If you take this to heart, you'll be a much happier man for the next 10 years.
Author Iselia Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 I'm just so hurt and angry she was willing to throw me away like this! I know we've been doing LC but it is time to go NC. I'm not taking this ***** anymore! Someone who hurts me this badly shouldn't be in my life unless they are WILLING to stop the hurt and WILLING to make up for the hurt. She isn't doing either. It is time for this to stop!
Author Iselia Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 If you take this to heart, you'll be a much happier man for the next 10 years. I'm not a man. But thanks for the advice.
cucumbernub Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I'm not a man. But thanks for the advice. I was trying to work out which one you were. Sounds like your ex is a bit like mine as well. Saying that she doesn't feel the spark and the butterflies anymore, and that this isn't normal, because all relationships should have those feelings always. I guess we have to accept that they're immature and have a lot of growing up to do. Take solace in the fact that you're better off without these sort of people. And you haven't hit 20 yet! I know you don't want to hear this, but there IS plenty more to come out of life.
Author Iselia Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 Sounds like your ex is a bit like mine as well. Saying that she doesn't feel the spark and the butterflies anymore, and that this isn't normal, because all relationships should have those feelings always. I guess we have to accept that they're immature and have a lot of growing up to do. Take solace in the fact that you're better off without these sort of people. And you haven't hit 20 yet! I know you don't want to hear this, but there IS plenty more to come out of life. How do they not realize that those feelings never, ever last? Sure, you love them. Sure, they make you feel sexy and you find them attractive. But the butterflies never, ever stay! It's horrible that she's so immature. I keep thinking that maybe, maybe when she grows up a bit she'll come back to me. It's hurting me too to have this kind of hope laying around. I'm trying to squish it but nothing seems to be working.
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