Nappeal Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I've been on LS ALL DAY. I'm not having a good Monday - but really, who does? lol Seriously tho, its one of those hard days; I'm expecting to finally get to my car where I hide my phone so that I don't obsess all day, to find text messages of X begging me back...or something along those lines. Sad thing is that I know for a fact there will be nothing but a text or 2 from my mom. Anyway, I'm reading far back in the archives just to see if I can find something helpful, instead, I'm reading how badly sooo many other people are hurting or have hurt, and that combined w what I went thru w my XH, I'm seriously thinking that I don't want to fall in love again. I think I want to be one of those chicks that just uses men so I get what I want but still form no relationship. Why fall in love if they're only going to hurt you eventually? Why put yourself in that position? No one's safe from it. Obviously I took my pessimistic pills today lol I sound angry, but its definitely how I feel...anyone else?
ShannonMI Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I know all too well how you feel. I was dumped by my boyfriend of 8 years a few months ago and I feel like I NEVER want to give anyone my heart ever again. I don't want to feel this pain ever again. When I do eventually get over my ex, do I really want to put myself out there again to get sh*t on? Once my heart heals, do I want to give someone else a chance to break it again? I just don't know. I know this is most likely my broken heart and hurt soul talking, but I really wonder if I'll be able to give my all to someone again. I've been dumped before and when I met my boyfriend 8 years ago, I thought he was the one and I wouldn't feel the pain of a broken heart ever again. Well I did! It sucks so bad! At least I went 8 years in between the pain. I do honestly hope to move on and meet someone someday, but right now it's still hard.
Fruitpunch Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I went through that mood today. now i am in the **** them mood. If they dont want to be with us, who gives a rat's ass. All these feelings stem from rejection and it will knock your confidence. I been at the gym every day since my break up, been on a few dates, going overseas next week to meet some chicks. That wont heal me straight away but it sure will help my confidence. Go put some nice clothes on, do your make up and put a sexy pic up on facebook , and as the comments flood in you will realise you still have plenty to offer someone, and that person who broke up with you made a mistake. seriously, **** them, they ****ed you so you are better off disliking them than pining over them. They most likely arent pining
deux ex machina Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 (edited) ...I'm seriously thinking that I don't want to fall in love again. I think I want to be one of those chicks that just uses men so I get what I want but still form no relationship. Why fall in love if they're only going to hurt you eventually? Why put yourself in that position? No one's safe from it. There actually are people that make that choice, at least to one degree or another. I can understand it how it can happen. Not condoning it, but yes - I can understand how it's easy for someone to come to the conclusion that it isn't safe to love. How when it's all said and done, you are either the one that is doing the loving, or the one being loved. And once burned deep enough, how one can feel they know which side of the equation they want to end up on next time. In thinking it through, though, how can anyone ever really be safe? If someone doesn't give love, instead taking, and walls themselves off -- then that person might have saved themselves from one apparent danger, only to find themselves in another. While they might never get hurt again romantically - they'll never get to feel a lot of joy in their relationships, either. To me, that's the greater danger. The best thing is to keep learning; to try to take away the right lessons from painful times. So, now you know more what you don't want. As the days go by, more should become apparent to you that you could apply in a positive way to future relationships. If you choose to. Then maybe, one day you'll feel that you've learned enough that a mutually loving relationship might be something to for again. So, you took your "pessimistic pills" today. I hear you. I'm glad you feel free to express how you feel right now. Wishing you the best. Edited August 17, 2010 by deux ex machina
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