Joe Dirt Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 So to make a long story short. We were together 5 years broke up, but stayed in touch for another 7 months after that. She dragged me along and only made me hurt more. She made me feel like she wanted to get back together. New developments arose and I made some immature comments and we havent talked in a month and a half. I tried to contact her since we never had much face to face contact since the break up, but she resonded saying she didnt see a reason to now that we had both moved on.. Well i just saw her yesterday and it was weird. She was with her friends watching her new guy. We were in the same park for a few hours and didnt even say hi. After my game I was going to go up to her and talk but figured it was the wrong move. I just feel disgusted after 5 years of a relationship that we both acted like the other didnt exist after trying for months to get her back. Guess its all for the best in the long run?.... So I guess im asking if I made the right move in ignoring she was there?.. She knew all along the 7 months that I wanted her back, but was away at school at the time. Now she is home and found someone else since our NC.
welikeincrowds Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Like many on LS, your emotions sound complex. I imagine that you were at least embarrassed and confused and hurt all at once. That must have been really, really hard, but you MADE IT, so good for you. You did absolutely make the right choice. If you had gone to speak with her it only would have given you more pain. One good skill that often gets mentioned on these boards is to try and pick apart and identify each individual emotion as you feel them, and deal with them one at a time. That makes it easier to process a difficult moment. Take a look at Caliguy's No contact guide if you haven't already. If you have, read it again. The hardest thing is letting go, and it doesn't happen at all once, but it's the only way to move forward. Once you're able to fully wrap your head around the idea that NC is about protecting yourself, you will have a better understanding of when you're making the "right" or "wrong" moves -- which is never about what's "right" or "wrong," but what will save you from having to deal with even more ****.
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