cristinax Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Sorry its a long one. I'm feeling a little confused and maybe a little insulted to boot. I graduated last year and have had trouble finding a full time job. So when a position that was totally perfect for me popped up at the company where my auntie works, I said I'd love to apply for it. I bagged an interview and was excited but obviously a bit nervous! My auntie is only 10 years older than me so we've got a really great relationship; more like sisters and she really helped me feel at ease telling me not to worry about the interview and that everyone who works there is really lovely. I went for the interview and it was 2 hours long-no exaggeration. It was so gruelling and i was put on the spot quite a bit by the manager. As soon as I came out of there, i was convinced I hadn't got the job-it was so harsh! What happened at the start of the interview though, really seemed odd to me. The manager was asking loads of stuff about my aunt, and even showed me a pic he'd taken of the back of her head on his phone! that, plus all the complimentary things he was saying, it was clear he has a thing for her. I told her about it and she laughed and said "yeah i think so too, hes always flirting with me." So anyway, i get the job - total shock for me, seeing as it was the most difficult interview I've ever had. I'm getting ready to start this week and decided to phone my auntie to say i'll pop over to see her tonight. My aunt tells me she wont be in later because she is GOING ON A DATE with this manager tonight! She said they'd been texting each other recently and i went really quiet and was like "uhh so i got the job because you have a thing going with him?". She was assuring me saying "come on, you didnt get the job because i blagged it for you. im not a bloody c*ck sucker". Im not insinuating that at all about my aunt, but i cant help but feel the manager has now given me the job because it makes him more favoursome with my auntie; he's even way more nicer to me when she's nearby, like he wants to project what a great guy he is. Its as though he's conjoured up this idea to get with her - that if hes done me a massive favour, then as a result he comes across as a saint. I said this to her and even she admitted that, it might slightly be the case and now I feel totally undeserving of this job. Its my first day tomorrow and I don't even want to go in, thinking I've been handed this on a plate. I feel like my dignity's been taken away as I wanted the job because of my skills, not because he has a crush on my aunt. No one in the family or the office knows about it, so I feel really weird being the only one who's in on this. This is totally awkward and I'm feeling really embarrassed about how I may have ended up with this job. I don't know what to do.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Oh stop it! First of all, some of the most successful people anywhere surely got a 'break' like you describe early in their careers. MORE importantly is the chance that YOU were merely something he could converse with her about, when he needed something to maintain a conversation. So say he had been quite intrigued by your aunt, and yet had to maintain some professionalism while at the same time wishing he could have something in common with her to talk about. Suddenly you pop into the picture - big surpise to him - and he is both able to feel/seem near to your aunt just by interacting with the aunt's relative, AND he suddenly has material for an update to her during a conversation. So stop it, and count your blessings. NOW is when you can begin to win people over with your skills. Had the job been created just for you, that might be another thing, and a cause for resentment around the office, but it sounds as though this job was legitimate, and don't forget that SOMEbody had to fill it. SO YOU got a break, and now you're going to take that break and move on and thrive career-wise.
D-Lish Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Who you know is often a powerful asset- so who cares. I got my most recent job from a friend's recommendation. Who cares how you got the job, if you're qualified, jump in and show your stuff.
TouchedByViolet Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Most good jobs come from networking or knowing someone. Nothing wrong with getting a break. You should be excited. Now you can show how qualified and great you wil be at your work. You will regret throwing this opportunity away if you don't show up.
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