MissStar Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Hey, Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months, which I know isnt a long time but I love him very much. I am writing for advice because when we first got together, he was always cuddling me, smiling at me, and we had sex virtually everyday. But now he hardly even looks at me. I have a high sex drive, but his just seems to have dissapeared. Any attempt I make to instigate sex is refused, he doesnt kiss me anymore, and im beginning to feel like a peice of furniture. Its been going on now for a good 2 months, and at first I could understand, he says that summer is a "bad time" for him, which is fair enough, but being rejected all the time is really hurting me. I think he isnt attracted to me anymore, and going without sex is making me incredibly stressed, irritable and depressed. Actually, all of this had made me depressed. He tells me he loves me, but it feels empty when he says it. I know sex isnt everything, and he is more important to me than sex, but its getting harder to cope. I have to virtually beg him for sex, but he gets it whenever his sex drive appears ( which is rare ) because I cant turn it down. I have tried speaking to him about it, and I have tried to be understanding, but its like talking to a brick wall. Im sorry, I have no idea if this is the right place to post, but its really depressing me, and hurts alot. Any genuine advice would be great:( Thanks Upset and Stressed
Fouts Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 It's not uncommon. It's a bad genetic trait, but outside of incredible chemistry between two people which is rare, men get bored sexually very easily with the same woman. I'd say more than anything it's a glimpse of the future if you stay together
temporaryvisa Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 ^ oh, how i wish that wasn't true! damn! i didn't know but that does make sense.. I don't think it's you, though. If a guy is horny, and a girlfriend wants sex with him, he'll definitely want it with you. I mean, no matter how bored he is, refusing sex is something most horndog guys wouldn't do on principle (and I feel like most guys ARE horndogs) Either way, though, he's losing attraction to sex in general, maybe? You should dump him.
Fouts Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Guys ARE horndogs for sure, but if you're bored with a woman sexually, alot of men will prefer masturbation and living out their fantasy through porn, especially with the easy availability of it today. Go read through some of the relationship forums and look at all the "is my guy addicted to porn" threads. Once a man gets bored with you physically, there's no going back to change it. It just is. I guess it's the same way if a woman gets bored with a man, though I'm guessing it doesn't occur near as frequently for genetic reasons.
jamesum Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Either way, though, he's losing attraction to sex in general, maybe? You should dump him. If you have lost interest in sex and I told your bf to dump you, how would you feel?
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