csman1411 Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Just wondering who has a girl that they are deeply in love with but when a little fight or argument happens, they just run away and dont want to talk things out. Then come running back in a couple weeks or month saying how they realize they screwed up and are truly sorry. Then it just happens again. Well my girl found her rebound 6 months ago..they dated but had a very rocky relationship for 4 months and she continued to try and talk to me every couple of weeks to which i just ignored. Im talking about balling her eyes out saying she wasnt happy, talking about moving duh duh duh. Well we get back together, spend all summer together which was good but our same problems still arose. Well same thing happens, she runs and I figure out she is talking to the exact same guy. On day 2 of this, trying to implement NC but im soo lost and hurt.
Fruitpunch Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 This pattern is going to repeat until she ends it for good. I think you know what you have to do. Its not easy but cut this and heal. 12 months down the line it may work, but it wont until you take a proper long break from it
cavedweller Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 csman, Some people enjoy drama.. Also, some relationships are not ment to be.. I think you should stay with the No Contact and move on.. Good luck
Author csman1411 Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 So when she trys to contact me should I just ignore her or should I make it known to her that what she did was wrong to me and that im not take it anymore and to please not talk to me anymore. Honestly it will be a lot easier for me in the long run if she just doesnt talk to me but judging from the past she probably will
GrayClouds Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 So when she trys to contact me should I just ignore her or should I make it known to her that what she did was wrong to me and that im not take it anymore and to please not talk to me anymore. Honestly it will be a lot easier for me in the long run if she just doesnt talk to me but judging from the past she probably will She already knows what she did is wrong but if you really want to educate her on the ramifications of her action keep strict NC. If you have to see her be polite but keep any conversations to "hello, "no thank you", or "take care". By taking her back the first time you told her by your action you accept being treated poorly, by sticking to NC now you will tell her by your action that you now expect much more for yourself. Good Luck.
Author csman1411 Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 I did that the first time this happened, was really strong and was very polite to her but never really got over her. I then end up taking her back if she would dump the rebound and get things right which she did. Well old problems arise, instead of working things out, she runs again and her rebound text her becuase he figures this out. Now she content with being him while im here with nobody playing the situation over and over in my mind. When do you just not believe anything they are going to say and move on
Dan Kohn Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I think she may have Borderline Personality Disorder...look it up and think about it...
9Lives Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I think u should tell her that you not going to put up with that behavior and that u don't want her talking to any of her ex bf. if she can't get with that, then NC is best cause this is starting a unhealthy pattern for a good relationship. if she can't get it right, then u will feel confident about kicking her nike ass to the curb. keep runnung playa
Ms.hailey Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I am one of those girls that do the same thing and it took my ex moving on for me to see that Im doing it because Im not happy with myself it sounds like the girl is either unsure with herself or the relationship. maybe she just needs a little time to find herself....
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