newstart Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 does anyone have a reconcilation story, even if its someone you know?? if so please post. thanks.
GrayClouds Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Of the hundreds I seen story I have seen here I can only think of 3. Of those three, 2 of them fell apart again a few weeks latter. So the odds are very very poor. Rather then looking for hope, you efforts would be better served looking to heal. I wish you well. .
TaraMaiden Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Reconciliation is rather like finding a hole in a beautiful fairly new jumper. You can repair it, but you know it's imperfect, and there's a weakness in the fabric. It's never as good as it was.... Repairing something broken de-values the original, and it's never the same, because you can still see the flaw. No matter how expert the repair, no matter how 'invisible' the mend. It's 'broked'. It rarely works. Rarely.
Fruitpunch Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 It can work, i have got back with exes before. Or started a new relationship chapter as friends or **** buddies Most of the people on here are here because they have been hurt and their advice can be jaded. Its not always as simple as No contact, heal etc. People might have kids, longterm responsibilities, its what works for you. Dont think this site is 100% accurate though , because its just a bunch of peeps trying their best to work through their own situations, and these are ALL different
GrayClouds Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 (edited) Fruit, Tara is one of the least jaded person you will ever have the privilege to get to know. While I am jaded as h#ll, it's about why Dana Cook has any fans, why Miley Cryus will not climb back under her rock, and any television show that call itself reality... but relationships, not so much. Even in your own statement you said you have gotten back with EX's before, while your here after another brake-up. It did not work out for you, which only supports all of the advice already given here. Again as Tara stated it really works and what I said even when a couple does reunite it usual does not last. Many of the people come hear are hurting and want to feel better, the first step in that process is acceptance which means letting go of hope, telling a person with that it is very unlikely they will get back with there is the smart and 100% accuracy advice. If you stick around for any amount of time you will find the most of the advice, at list in breakup and coping is neither jaded or inaccurate. It can work, i have got back with exes before. Or started a new relationship chapter as friends or **** buddies Most of the people on here are here because they have been hurt and their advice can be jaded. Its not always as simple as No contact, heal etc. People might have kids, longterm responsibilities, its what works for you. Dont think this site is 100% accurate though , because its just a bunch of peeps trying their best to work through their own situations, and these are ALL different Edited August 15, 2010 by GrayClouds
Fouts Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Reconciliation is rather like finding a hole in a beautiful fairly new jumper. You can repair it, but you know it's imperfect, and there's a weakness in the fabric. It's never as good as it was.... Repairing something broken de-values the original, and it's never the same, because you can still see the flaw. No matter how expert the repair, no matter how 'invisible' the mend. It's 'broked'. It rarely works. Rarely. That's a good analogy.
Fruitpunch Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 It was nothing personal i was just bringing the point up that sometimes when we, me especially give advice it can be from addressing our own situation. For example, i was having a **** day today so i came out with that comment, see what i mean ?
GrayClouds Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 It was nothing personal i was just bringing the point up that sometimes when we, me especially give advice it can be from addressing our own situation. For example, i was having a **** day today so i came out with that comment, see what i mean ? NP, I understand, 80% of my advice is me talking to myself, but it is that we are not saying what we want to hear but what we need to hear.
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