He Told His Wife About Me And She Wants To Make The Marriage Work

[Billie]

I miss him and I hate myself for it. I know that he treated me badly for the entire time we were together and even worse when it ended, but yet it is me who is desperate to see him, desperate to have him call me, desperate to know he misses me.

 

It makes me sick. I am an intelligent, independent person and know I should just count myself lucky but instead I am desperate for him and have let him treat me like this all along, worse even now it'd over I am still hankering after him.

 

Why do I let him have the upper hand? How do I get it back, i have so many questions to ask him but can't as he refuses to talk to me.

 

I hate him for what he has done, but I also hate myself for letting him.

[Fight4Me]

I miss him and I hate myself for it. I know that he treated me badly for the entire time we were together and even worse when it ended, but yet it is me who is desperate to see him, desperate to have him call me, desperate to know he misses me.

 

It makes me sick. I am an intelligent, independent person and know I should just count myself lucky but instead I am desperate for him and have let him treat me like this all along, worse even now it'd over I am still hankering after him.

 

Why do I let him have the upper hand? How do I get it back, i have so many questions to ask him but can't as he refuses to talk to me.

 

I hate him for what he has done, but I also hate myself for letting him.

 

Good good... let that be your first entry in the journal I mentioned above. I'm not saying what you are feeling is good, but it is raw and honest. It is something many of us go through when we are faced with an unexpected breakup. Personally, I think it probably feels worse because he has someone and you don't.

 

You are mentally convincing yourself that this is something that will always stick with you, but in time, you will see you have dodged the biggest ASS bullet of your life.

 

I truly truly wish you the best life has to offer, and pray you realize soon this guy isn't it... not by a long shot.

[whichwayisup]

making up stuff that might have happened, when there is no indication that it has.

 

Noone is making anything up...It's someone's opinion. And yes, EVERYBODY on this site gives their 2 cents worth about the "what if's, or stuff that hasn't happened yet."

[scaredinlove]

Billie,

 

I think he told his wife and now he feels guilty and must have realized what he was going to lose. I am not sure how old he is and it dosen't matter , but as you get older you tend to not want to take great risks. I believe he was honest when he told you he want to be with you, he probaly believed he could make the change, the same way you believe you could break up with him.

 

Now that it is all said and done , he realized he cannot make the move and you realized you hurt a lot more than you thought you would.

 

Best thing is to walk away and move on. Don't get involved, don't answer her calls , cause she will call you. Don't answer his either.

 

If he is meant for you, he will figure it out and clear his path and come after you.

 

I know it hurts but it get better...Once I was in the similar situation ...

 

Good luck for you.

[Butterfly11]

Who knows, maybe it won't work out between them. My SO after being caught, wanted to make it work with his exW, but it wasn't for her...he stayed for the kids. It took 3 days and he realized that he couldn't do it, he didn't love her anymore in a romantic way. We've been together ever since.

 

I did the same thing, oddly enough. Encouraging my SO to try to work things out with his wife, I even got him to talk to her about their absent sex life. I really just wanted him to be happy and if staying would have made him happy, then I would've been happy for him because I loved him. I understand why you did the same.

 

I wish you the best.

[Mino]

I dont think he told his w either! That would have been way to fast< " the next day" This discussion usually last weeks and months about "why he needs to tell" No, I believe it was the easy way out for him. He blames her, and it to much of a coward to tell you the truth. Please get yourself into counceling, forget this loser, he was merely looking for some fun on the side. I bet he told the other OW"S that he couldnt leave till the "kiddies were grown, lol, now he says the "adult children will never talk to him again. Girls, it never ends with excuses, does it, they will twist and turn them to how they need it and try to sell you on it, The question is are you "buying " them? LOL Good Luck and best wishes to your recovery : )