finally a fan of NC

[9Lives]

some people are so hard headed and one of those people is me.

 

NC means no more NEW pain. that's what I finally realize.

 

when someone says its over, u do yourself a diss service trying to stay in their life, checking FB, calling, texting, friendship, begging, pleading, etc

 

You think NC is so hard right? well I finally realize that NC means no new pain and the current pain has a TIME LIMIT. no one suffers forever over someone. I promise..the pain get less and less if YOU let it. there is a tomorrow and you will feel better.

 

you are going to love again. there is NO such thing as a one & only person for you. there are many people you can have a good and exciting relationship with. but its up to you. develop trust in yourself and let that ex go.

 

I fought it for 2 years and it still came out the same. if your ex is with someone else..say ok and close the door. don't try to find out what's it about unless u like pain and anguish. talking from experience. let them go.

 

my biggest message I'm trying to give is breaking up is hard enough..trying to hold on and all that calling and stuff just put more fuel on the fire of pain.

 

you want to stop hurting? accept it, let it burn, don't deal with them, and the next thing you know..THE SUN WILL BE SHINING AGAIN and your sexy self will be out there enjoying life and being happy. but its up to YOU!

 

if the ex contacts you, let them know hey you broke with me and I can't deal with you right now. peace. don't let them have even more power over you. I did that too. another buster move on my part. show them that you can get on with your own life since u put me out of yours. nine times out of ten, they don't want nothing. let them work hard to have u back since they had no problem kicking your ass to the curb.

 

I'm living proof that all that staying in touch just keeps u in the dumps even longer. go ahead and NC your way to a better place. its worth the trip.

[BeagleGal]

Totally agree. After months of on/off contact with my ex after he dumped me, I'm realizing that NC is the best way to go. Especially under the circumstances our breakup was under; why I even accepted contact with him to begin with, I don't know, I guess fear of truly letting go and thinking "he still wants me" as he was the one initiating most of the contact.

 

But yes, the sooner you wanna get over this bullsh*t, NC is the way to go!

 

Thanks for this!

[9Lives]

Totally agree. After months of on/off contact with my ex after he dumped me, I'm realizing that NC is the best way to go. Especially under the circumstances our breakup was under; why I even accepted contact with him to begin with, I don't know, I guess fear of truly letting go and thinking "he still wants me" as he was the one initiating most of the contact.

 

But yes, the sooner you wanna get over this bullsh*t, NC is the way to go!

 

Thanks for this!

 

yeah it truly is. letting go and accepting it has to be the answer sometimes.

 

when u change your perspective the NC is not as hard. NC is the caterpillar of the butterfly. NO NEW PAIN!!!!

 

my ex text me and I told him I love him and I can't be just friends. I'm ready to let go and I have nothing left to give. take care.

 

I'm done!

[Don Ho]

Bravo for you 9Lives, nicely said. I hope your thread helps others going through heartbreak. You're right: begging, professing your love, stalking them, contacting them, crying, analyzing every word they say if they contact, sending flowers and so on will only keep your wound open an give you more pain. Those actions will only push them FURTHER away. As difficult as it is, as much as it hurts, be good to yourself and stick to NC. For those here on LS going through it take it from us that have gone through the anguish: NC is the way.

[deux ex machina]

Excellent post! One to come back to and re-read when someone is going through a rough patch during NC, too.

 

Very inspiring, and beautifully said, 9L.