flyguy23 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I have been with this girl for 4 years. We have been rocky for a while. She always ditches me and ignores me. Tonight we go out with a bunch of ppl, she totally didn't seem into me at all. She didn't touch me, Picked a fight. Then just ignored me for the rest of the night. I feel so betrayed and hurt right now. I think it is over, 4 yrs and she just treats me like crap in front of everyone.
GrayClouds Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I have been with this girl for 4 years. We have been rocky for a while. She always ditches me and ignores me. Tonight we go out with a bunch of ppl, she totally didn't seem into me at all. She didn't touch me, Picked a fight. Then just ignored me for the rest of the night. I feel so betrayed and hurt right now. I think it is over, 4 yrs and she just treats me like crap in front of everyone. Why would yo even want to be with this chick, you deserve someone who cares and respects you. You are not going to get that until you care and respect yourself. That means no matter how much you like someone, unless they behave in ways that communicates their appreciation for you then you move on to someone who does. If someone knows they can treat you poorly and you will put up with it, they will not change their behavior, why should they? Yes it hurts right now, but that is your heart telling you that you deserve so much better then this girl. As soon as you listen to your heart, the sooner a better girl will come around.
Username37 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I have been with this girl for 4 years. We have been rocky for a while. She always ditches me and ignores me. Tonight we go out with a bunch of ppl, she totally didn't seem into me at all. She didn't touch me, Picked a fight. Then just ignored me for the rest of the night. I feel so betrayed and hurt right now. I think it is over, 4 yrs and she just treats me like crap in front of everyone. I can relate. My ex and I been together for 1.5 years. First love/girlfriend. Around the end, she began treated me like ****. Ignoring me, not laughing at my jokes but laughing at my friend's jokes, making fun of me in front of people in order to get a quick laugh. Sick ****. Girls do that **** all the time just to feed their egos. I think you should talk to her about this, and if she's not going to listen, dump her.
Sophia8 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I have been with this girl for 4 years. We have been rocky for a while. She always ditches me and ignores me. Tonight we go out with a bunch of ppl, she totally didn't seem into me at all. She didn't touch me, Picked a fight. Then just ignored me for the rest of the night. I feel so betrayed and hurt right now. I think it is over, 4 yrs and she just treats me like crap in front of everyone. No one deserves to be treated like this. If you haven't already spoken to her about the way that she treats you then I think that you should do. As mentioned above, she behaves this way and gets away with it so she probably thinks that it is acceptable, when it is certainly not. If once you have spoken to her (or if you already have spoken to her) she still treats you the same way or doesn't want to listen to you, then leaving her may hurt you a lot less in the long run.
Author flyguy23 Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 (edited) I have have talked to her about this. She has been acting this way all summer. She just seems like a totally different person, she has been so detached for the past couple weeks, we have been on and off, she sort of breaks up with me by saying she isn't happy with some things in this relationship, but doesn't actually break up with me. Last night was the first time I have seen her in a couple weeks and she just didn't seem into me at all. She got mad at something in the beginning of the night and just shut down after that, her and a friend were whispering things probably about me, just being rude and immature. This girl was my first love, its been 4 years and I feel like this is it. She is/was my best friend but I feel like I don't know her anymore. I am going to try and talk to her in person about last night and the way she has been acting, and if she still acts the same then I will just end it and go NC. Is this a good way to go about this or should I just go NC now and try to forget about her? Edited August 14, 2010 by flyguy23
Don Ho Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Make HER break up with you. She obviously wants out or isn't that into you. I would tell her "You seem very unhappy with us. I think it's best that YOU break up with me". Keep insisting. "I don't think your heart is in this anymore and that's ok". Once she says ok, then tell her: "I AGREE I think it's for the best". Then bail out quick; no crying, no talking it over, no hugging, nothing. You are not going to be her support. Then go full on NC and No Response. You're not a doormat, bro. Do it exactly the way I said and let us know.
Author flyguy23 Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 She wont agree to meet up and she said she doesn't want to talk to me
Username37 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 She wont agree to meet up and she said she doesn't want to talk to me Leave her a message saying it's done and go NC to the fullest.
GrayClouds Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 (edited) I have have talked to her about this. She has been acting this way all summer. She just seems like a totally different person, she has been so detached for the past couple weeks, we have been on and off, she sort of breaks up with me by saying she isn't happy with some things in this relationship, but doesn't actually break up with me. Last night was the first time I have seen her in a couple weeks and she just didn't seem into me at all. She got mad at something in the beginning of the night and just shut down after that, her and a friend were whispering things probably about me, just being rude and immature. This girl was my first love, its been 4 years and I feel like this is it. She is/was my best friend but I feel like I don't know her anymore. I am going to try and talk to her in person about last night and the way she has been acting, and if she still acts the same then I will just end it and go NC. Is this a good way to go about this or should I just go NC now and try to forget about her? Just go NC now, she has already moved on. She is not going to say it in words but she is saying it in actions. She already detach from you, and any conversation (even telling her that your going NC so do not bother) with her at this point will make you seem weak and needy. What she is doing is trying to get you so upset push you to break-up so she does not have to and be able to walk away guilt free. It is childish and disrespectful way to end a relationship. She is not given you consideration, there is no reason for you to give her any. NC right now what your actions will say is that you respect yourself, your strong enough to take care of yourself, and mature enough not to play games. Trust me, 6 months from now if you do this what you will look back at pride that you handle yourself with respect and maturity. Edited August 14, 2010 by GrayClouds
rp123 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 She's checked out of the relationship sometime ago. Remove yourself, NC, and discover why you've allowed to be treated this badly for this long........
seibert253 Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 leave her a message saying it's done and go nc to the fullest. ^^^^^^^^ this
shirusu Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 She wont agree to meet up and she said she doesn't want to talk to me She is playing with you. Something which I am thinking about is.. Abuse. Is she abusing you in any way? She don't want you, but she is not throwing you out.
Author flyguy23 Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 No abuse she just is not talking to me right now, I tried to talk to her about how she acted and she said she doesn't want to talk to me and hasn't since yesterday
GrayClouds Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 No abuse she just is not talking to me right now, I tried to talk to her about how she acted and she said she doesn't want to talk to me and hasn't since yesterday Your miss the point, she does not care about how she acted for she is doing it for a reason; TO PUSH YOU AWAY. You are trying to get her to say she cares for you but her actions are speaking louder then any words she will say. Now it is your actions that need to speak loudly. Go strict NC and tell her you respect yourself way to much to be treat poorly any more by her of anyone else no matter how much you care for them. It is very hard but you can do it because you deserve better. .
Author flyguy23 Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 Here on day 3 of NC, I was thinking of her all morning so I went to shoot basketball at a local court and I saw her car outside of a guys house. Then I learned she was on a boat party all day long. Now this just blows even more now.
lalalandman Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 she just wants to be single for the rest of the summer. Go NC and she'll figure out how retarded she is.
ShannonMI Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'd be done with her. If she treats you badly, why deal with it? Why is she treating you this way? You should ask her and then decide if the relationship is worth being in anymore.
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