Fruitpunch Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 As mentioned on a previous thread, my 4 year gf broke things off suddenly simply by not meeting up when she said she would , sending one text and then ignoring my follow up call and text. Because it ended so suddenly its really hard for me. I have been sticking to NC but i didnt get to initiate it, she literally put her foot down and i have no clue why. It's been a week now and she never replied to my text. I am considering sending a letter in about 3 weeks, mainly for my own benefit. Is this a good idea? Has anyone done it? It isnt going to be a please get back with me letter. It is going to be me accepting it, apologising for my part in what happened and letting her im moving on , giving her space to do the same and i hope that we can be friends some point in the future. Is this the right thing to do? I guess a part of me is hoping she replies. But if she doesnt, at least i know i have got my side out. Then the other half of me thinks i may be even more gutted if i dont hear anything back from that, than i am now. Any experiences would be great, thanks
YellowShark Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Stay NC. It's OVER. There is no point looking like a desperate wanker. She's not meeting up when she said she would. She's ignoring your follow up calls and texts. She is disrespecting you. Here's the tough love part... She needs to be black-holed and you need to realize that she will not make you feel any better EVEN IF she replies right now. It sucks, it hurts, but you need to take the high ground and let her come to you if - and when - she decides to. Otherwise you loose the power in this "negotiation."
skydiveaddict Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Because it ended so suddenly its really hard for me. I have been sticking to NC but i didnt get to initiate it, she literally put her foot down and i have no clue why. /QUOTE] That's exactly what happened to me when I got got back from my last deployment.. She simply disappeared. No calls, texts emails not a word. DO NOT torture yourself by trying to contact her.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 No, dont send the letter.... Sending that letter is not going to ease the pain... If she is fed up and has put her foot down as you stated then she is going to read that letter and use it as a doile... Now you have to start putting yourself first! Work on healing yourself.. 4 years is a long time, and I know that it hurts, and its going to hurt for a while.. but you have to think about whats your next steps to get yourself back on track. good luck with everything..
Author Fruitpunch Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 Cool guys, thanks I knew it was kind of the wrong thing to do but not initiating the NC rule has left me so powerless in the whole thing i wanted a way out of it. You are right and i was disrespected. I know that she feels because of the past she is entitled to do what she wants but i dont have to accept the behaviour. Cool, moving on
Username37 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I sent a second chance letter AFTER I broke my first NC run of like....two weeks. Then after she turned it down THAT'S when I did my first hardcore NC run. Stick NC.
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