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I am a sophmore in highschool , (there may be lazy spelling its late at night) im a boy who attracts older women (19-23) but not as many younger women which is odd and honestly i would prefer my age. The older girls are well hot, as the girls i attract my age are not as good looking, i was ""in love"" with a girl who cheated on me with a down right ugly guy and ever since then i got this idea in my head that im uglier then him. I am 6 foot tall , Hazel eyes , Best body my age. and i think im the ugliest person ever. It could just be my age but i would like to learn how to change and be more confident how i look. I try convinceing myself that im good looking which ive been told by alot of people, but my mind just keeps saying who are you kidding. But im also scared what if i am ugly since the girls i like .. go for dush bags who look like for the lack of better term,, a ass .:bunny: These beautiful girls are with ugly guys. I know its probally confidence or im just not that intresting but my mind is insisting im ugly and untill that stops i cant become condifent. Im also better looking with longish hair then short hair cause of the fact i have a huge nose.

 

 

 

What i guess i am asking is how do i build confidence when im around girls my age

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I am a sophmore in highschool , (there may be lazy spelling its late at night) im a boy who attracts older women (19-23) but not as many younger women which is odd and honestly i would prefer my age. The older girls are well hot, as the girls i attract my age are not as good looking, i was ""in love"" with a girl who cheated on me with a down right ugly guy and ever since then i got this idea in my head that im uglier then him. I am 6 foot tall , Hazel eyes , Best body my age. and i think im the ugliest person ever. It could just be my age but i would like to learn how to change and be more confident how i look. I try convinceing myself that im good looking which ive been told by alot of people, but my mind just keeps saying who are you kidding. But im also scared what if i am ugly since the girls i like .. go for dush bags who look like for the lack of better term,, a ass .:bunny: These beautiful girls are with ugly guys. I know its probally confidence or im just not that intresting but my mind is insisting im ugly and untill that stops i cant become condifent. Im also better looking with longish hair then short hair cause of the fact i have a huge nose.

 

 

 

What i guess i am asking is how do i build confidence when im around girls my age

 

My goodness that was a long time ago for me. I suggest hitting the weight room hard and most of all pursue your intrests with all all you've got. That will breed confidence and the girls will come to you.

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im the most buff sophmore and buffer then any freshmen and most jr's .... also i cant afford and have a heart problem that inflicts with what im good at

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im the most buff sophmore and buffer then any freshmen and most jr's .... also i cant afford and have a heart problem that inflicts with what im good at

 

 

Then you need to work on your self confidence my friend. You have all the tools, just go out and use them . And most important, believe in yourself. You can do it, dont hold back

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I am a sophmore in highschool , (there may be lazy spelling its late at night) im a boy who attracts older women (19-23) but not as many younger women which is odd and honestly i would prefer my age. The older girls are well hot, as the girls i attract my age are not as good looking, i was ""in love"" with a girl who cheated on me with a down right ugly guy and ever since then i got this idea in my head that im uglier then him. I am 6 foot tall , Hazel eyes , Best body my age. and i think im the ugliest person ever. It could just be my age but i would like to learn how to change and be more confident how i look. I try convinceing myself that im good looking which ive been told by alot of people, but my mind just keeps saying who are you kidding. But im also scared what if i am ugly since the girls i like .. go for dush bags who look like for the lack of better term,, a ass .:bunny: These beautiful girls are with ugly guys. I know its probally confidence or im just not that intresting but my mind is insisting im ugly and untill that stops i cant become condifent. Im also better looking with longish hair then short hair cause of the fact i have a huge nose.

 

 

 

What i guess i am asking is how do i build confidence when im around girls my age

 

Confidence comes from more than just looks. Focus on your strengths.

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Confidence in my opinion has nothing to do with how you look. Confidence comes from being comfrotable and accepting of who you are. You want to become more confident around women, become more confident around yourself. Just the way you described yourself in your post I am 6 ft tall, I have blah blah eyes etc, tells me you are trying to prove something to us on love shack. And let me tell you something confidence does not come from trying to prove ourselves or potray a certain image, it comes from being yourself and letting your personality speak for itself. Anyways I'm sure you're going to get a thousand different answers to this question like be a more aggressive, or work out, etc. But when you are ready you'll realize what was in this post was the answer. Good luck!

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OP, why do you use confidence on looks?

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Maybe you are good looking... yet a pompous ass who sucks at communication and smokes too much weed... who the hell knows? Thing is, no matter which way you slice it, your girl prefers whatever the elephant man has to offer. Done deal. Stop worrying about.

 

I'd suggest staying far away from the gym... mirrors... and anything else that got you hung up on the looks aspect. Okay, you look good, we get it... now figure out which non-physical trait you have that totally sucks. Fix it. Problem solved.

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Maybe you are good looking... yet a pompous ass who sucks at communication and smokes too much weed... who the hell knows? Thing is, no matter which way you slice it, your girl prefers whatever the elephant man has to offer. Done deal. Stop worrying about.

 

I'd suggest staying far away from the gym... mirrors... and anything else that got you hung up on the looks aspect. Okay, you look good, we get it... now figure out which non-physical trait you have that totally sucks. Fix it. Problem solved.

 

Oh my Gosh, "Maybe you are good looking... yet a pompous ass who sucks at communication and smokes too much weed... who the hell knows?" Oh my I'm rolling over here! This post really tickled the ole funny bone! Talk about "blunt" and very much to the "point", all the while the twisted humor of it all has my gut in knots with laughter!

 

Good post.....

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If you walk around feeling like an ugly POS, people are going to read that, and perceive you in that way. Physical appearance draws you in, but your personality is the key!!

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Dude, you're better off than I am. You're buff, I'm not and I would struggle quite a bit to attain that. You're already half way there!

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