advise Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) right... from the beggining, i know this is long but just trying to give background info so i can get the best advice!!! thanx =] i had a best friend and went on holiday with her last year with her and family (including her cousin Ben) and basically my best friend was not acting very nice towards me and i subconsiously started talking to ben more than her because he was interested in what i was saying unlike my best friend.. on one of the last evenings we kissed, it was amazing.. (i'd fancied him when seeing him at another holiday i went on with my friend when i was younger and got a bit hung up on him... couldn't believe a few years later i was kissing him!!!) At the end of the holiday she walked in the room at night and saw me and her cousin hugging on the sofa and stormed off because she didn't like the idea of us being together. The reason most likely being that he is part of the family she doesn't talk to much and there have been some turbulant issues which has divided the family. so best friend ignored me from then on till we were home.. even when i tried to explain that i never ment to hurt her and didn't realise she was taking everything so badly, which i didn't. We are no longer friends, Me and her cousin started going out after the holiday even though he lived 2 and a half hours on the train away. We managed to keep it up seeing eachother every 2-3 weeks for a weekend. I felt we would be together for a long long time and he gave me this impression so i felt confident in our relationship. We both got really busy inparticualr him and he broke up with me after 10 months really out of the blue 1 week before my a-level exams!!!! saying "its too hard with the distance, I love you to bits but can't keep hurting you" (as he was too busy to call or see me at times because of wanting to become a golf pro and id bugg him about this). After loosing my best friend for him i really thought like the relationship was ment to be after going through so much **** with the best friend (i can't really think that she was ever that good a friend but obvo 7 years still ment something :S) Now almost 2 months after the break up i really want to get back with him i miss him soooo much, we had amazing moments in our relationship and there was no real reason to break up with me, only distance. I feel so bad i've lost him =[ i love him still so much. I'm thinking of emailing him a few days after his birthday (21st aug), we've had absolutly no contact since the day of breaking up, i tried calling once bout 2 days after breaking up but he didn't pick up. I want to say "i understand the breakup and realise it was the right thing to do for both of us, I would really like to be friends and keep in touch" is this a good idea to try and get him back? i'm just sooo worried he won't reply =[ advice pllleeeeeaaaassssseeeeeeee, all will be helpful, thanx =] Edited August 13, 2010 by advise
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