Nappeal Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I'm on the verge of doing some text terrorism. I'm so angry, hurt and betrayed; I want to tell him that, and how disappointed I am in him. But my multiple texts or WTF is goin on w us didn't help to make things better, so I'm unsure I should push him away more. Its been now 4 days of basically NC out of something that had to do w the pregnancy, and I am going NUTS. My emotions are running over. Does it matter if I send a bunch of texts? I know he'll roll his eyes and do a 'get over it' under his breath, but good Lord, I just think he needs to know. He never actually ended it, we just stopped talking...that just ain't right. Is it worth my time? I'm sure I'm going to end looking like a crazy fool if I do.
livelife Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Definitely do not send him a bunch of texts. Text him and say "hey, i need to talk to you" thats it. then he replies . That way, its more understanding and its not annoying!
YellowShark Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Is it worth my time? I'm sure I'm going to end looking like a crazy fool if I do. The answer is YES. You will look like a desperate angry fool texting angry messages. Think of it this way, if you applied for a job and they chose someone else for the position would they appreciate a bunch of angry messages from you, change their mind, and hire you? NO WAY! Stay NC and heal.
dng Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Also, not to be a jerk but if you just had an abortion your hormone levels are probably all over the place. Give yourself some time to simmer down before you do anything you will *surely* regret.
TaraMaiden Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 "Act in haste, repent at leisure".... This will give you immediate and momentary gratification - but leave you feeling like a total phekkwit for too long to even contemplate. The best thing to do - and I did this one time with a buddy of mine - is to write everything down, long-hand on as many pieces of paper as it takes. Then, ceremoniously go out into your garden, and in a metal box - burn the letter. And as it goes up in smoke, will your resentment, negativity, resentment and anger to go up with it... It sound utterly ridiculous, I know. but if you do this sincerely, and with the right intention, please believe me - it can work wonders.....
deux ex machina Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) ...Does it matter if I send a bunch of texts? I know he'll roll his eyes and do a 'get over it' under his breath, but good Lord, I just think he needs to know. He never actually ended it, we just stopped talking...that just ain't right. Is it worth my time? I'm sure I'm going to end looking like a crazy fool if I do. Do not do it. I've been the recipient of those sort of texts, and trust me, it won't help you. He was the one that acted out...yet I still got text after text. The point is, it will make you feel badly later on. Try to keep the focus on your healing right now. I wish you the best. Edited August 13, 2010 by deux ex machina clarification
9Lives Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Do not do it. I've been the recipient of those sort of texts, and trust me, it won't help you. He was the one that acted out...yet I still got text after text. The point is, it will make you feel badly later on. Try to keep the focus on your healing right now. I wish you the best. everyone is right. don't do that. I learn the hard way NEVER do anything when u are emotional or mad. most of the time, u will be sorry
Username37 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 You know how badly I want to blow up on the phone to my ex? PRETTY BAD. But by doing that, what's gonna happen? What's gonna change? By being angry at them, it's just gonna make you look creepy and desperate. Wanna vent? Vent here. Here watch... **** YOU EX YOU ****ING BITCH!!!! See that felt nice Good luck to you
JamesB Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Don't do it! I did it when I'd had 1 too many beers. I text my ex girlfriend everything I had been feeling for a couple of months! just the sort of texts your talking about, how angry I was with her and disapointed etc.. I did it just as we were starting to talk again, I haven't heard from her since!
Author Nappeal Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 I've made it a habit for a while to write an email or a text w no recipient and then save it as a draft, just so I can get what I have to say off of my mind. Typically, I look back and think 'thank baby Jesus I did not send that' since there's a whole lot of emotion fueling the message. its really frustrating that all I want is to be heard, but like ya'll said...for what? What does it do? He won't suddenly have an eppiphany and decide he has to mend things right away, and it won't hit him how bad he fkd up and now he has to fix everything. I will look like an emotionally unstable nut case who won't get the pic and just leave him alone. It still sucks tho...I think whenever someone's been wronged by someone else, they want to be listened to by the other person like it would change anything. *Fktard, you ended things wrongly and w no consideration to my feelings. Its allllll about you, and your excuse and subsequent follow-up was weak and mindboggeling - just like you. I will take extra diligence in rasing our son just to be sure he ends up nothing like you*
9Lives Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Yes, I agree with everyone on here. I learned the hard way, fk it!!! leave their ass alone. NOTHING you say, do or anything will not change their mind. Just forget it! If they want you back, they need to say it and do something about it and STILL THEN be careful cause chances of them changing their mind AGAIN is great! Just go live your life! Best thing for you. Best thing Go buy a voodoo doll and stick it,...write on it....punch it....stomp it....throw it....scream at it....talk to it!! Talking to it is good because the stupid doll does exactly what your ex will do...nothing to change anything.
Author Nappeal Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 Talking to it is good because the stupid doll does exactly what your ex will do...nothing to change anything. Lol I like that...it won't respond and it'll still look @ you like you're stupid - just like the ex. That's a good idea 9lives!
jenifer1972 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Just lay low and wait for karma to come full circle and bite him. It is amazing how often life dishes out better punishment to our tormentors than we could have ever dreamed up..
skydiveaddict Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 (edited) I'm sorry you're hurting so much. I know what that feels like, but the only thing you can do is leave him alone. Go find your new life without him. Please think carefully before you decide on abortion. It can be a very traumatic thing for a girl. I've had four friends go through it and it was hell on all of them Edited August 19, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author Nappeal Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Thank you SkyDive, but I'm 7 mos preg so I think I'm too far along for that I even had the urge to do it last night...VERY badly. But I didn't; I know nothing good would've come of it.
Silvio Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Dont do it. I did it last week. Three years and never a harsh word. We are in the middle of a break up and I sent several messages that were VERY OFFENSIVE. I thought it didnt matter because she's dumping me anyway. But it did matter. I feel like crap for doing it. Ignorantly, im still talking to her a little and she keeps referencing those txts. I shouldnt have done it.
thrownaway Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 (edited) Go buy a voodoo doll and stick it,...write on it....punch it....stomp it....throw it....scream at it....talk to it!! TOOOOOO FUNNY! Talking to it is good because the stupid doll does exactly what your ex will do...nothing to change anything. ....YET CREEPILY TRUE! Just lay low and wait for karma to come full circle and bite him. It is amazing how often life dishes out better punishment to our tormentors than we could have ever dreamed up.. You are so right! These types of people play a dangerous dance with humanity. They 'seek and destroy' but eventually it all comes back full-circle, sometimes in a form you can't see or recognize... but they do suffer slowly, and then crash. Edited August 22, 2010 by thrownaway
thrownaway Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Dont do it. I did it last week. Three years and never a harsh word. We are in the middle of a break up and I sent several messages that were VERY OFFENSIVE. I thought it didnt matter because she's dumping me anyway. But it did matter. I feel like crap for doing it. Ignorantly, im still talking to her a little and she keeps referencing those txts. I shouldnt have done it. I have 4 phones full of horrendous text messages from my ex. All I ever did was use them against him. Slowly I started to believe the terrible things he would say to me when we got into fights... after all, they were always right there for my leisure reading since I saved them all. We are no longer together and even though I am very sad, I am also very happy that I no longer have to worry about receiving text messages where I feel I have to constantly defend myself. There will be days that are hard, every day will be different. Just package up the energy you have, put a different label on it and use that to focus on some other great thing in your life.
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