DustySaltus Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I had a dream last night so real that I actually woke up mad at myself for breaking NC. In the dream I was walking down the block and ran into her. At first she had a feeling of indifference and then became very, very nasty. It's been a year seen my breakup with my ex-fiance and although I still think about her from time to time, I clearly know that the person she is and the person I thought she was are as far apart as the north and south pole. When we haven't seen something or someone in a long time we often create images in our head that make them out to be a lot better than they really are.
bboy Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 When we haven't seen something or someone in a long time we often create images in our head that make them out to be a lot better than they really are. Yes indeed. The memories of good times surface and flaws vanish. But I bet $100 that you can in a snap bring up 10 reasons why that relationship was not good for you.
deux ex machina Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) I had a dream last night so real that I actually woke up mad at myself for breaking NC. I've had the same thing happen to me. In the dream I was walking down the block and ran into her. At first she had a feeling of indifference and then became very, very nasty. It's been a year seen my breakup with my ex-fiance and although I still think about her from time to time, I clearly know that the person she is and the person I thought she was are as far apart as the north and south pole. The way I see it, the part in your dream where she changed - going from indifferent, to quite nasty - squares well with your experience of knowing now what you didn't at some point with her. When we haven't seen something or someone in a long time we often create images in our head that make them out to be a lot better than they really are. That's a very real hazard I've many fall into, stay there, and not realize it. You know that's something that can happen all too easily, and because of that, you won't let that happen to you. Edited August 13, 2010 by deux ex machina
smk Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Dusty sorry for the slight off topic post but yeah I have dreams of my ex too that feel pretty real, except in mine I seem to be hang the most amazing mind blowing sex with her - gawdamit I hate those dreams.... But yeah the dreams seem to get pretty intense and realistic at times ts actually quite freaky... Before I went NC I had a couple of dreams of things that had happened to my ex in her life, stuff that she hadn't told me yet I was dreaming about it, just random weird stuff and when I told her about them she said that similar things had happened in her life...
Username37 Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Good thing you dreamt it And yeah, I get those dreams. They suck ass. End of story.
Author DustySaltus Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 It's weird because I actually woke up feeling like I broke NC. That I was back to square one after a year of rebuilding myself. I just wonder what precipitated my mind to have this dream because it came out of NOWHERE. I've had an ex contact me 26 months after we broke up and say she made a mistake, so I wouldn't be surprised if she tried to pop up again at some point down the road because the grass was browner on the other side of the fence...
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