Author NoIDidn't Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I do think the MM/H is the one that drives this dynamic. One can only imagine what the OW is being told (in the case I reference, I know the OW personally as well and was told the things he was telling her). What I don't understand is why a MM would tell a new OW how he met his W and why the OW would then use that against the W? I know that this is a special case and that many OW are nothing like the women that the case I reference involves (the stories I could tell would be unbelievable and just with this one MM ). THanks for the replies.
Brokenlady Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 that OW basically told her "you didn't respect his first marrige, why should I respect yours"? Wow. That is the lamest justification I have heard yet. I don't care what ANYONE has done in their past. No one has the "right" to do anything based on someone else's past history. By that same logic, revenge affairs would be ok too. Nope, not buying it.
Brokenlady Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 What I don't understand is why a MM would tell a new OW how he met his W and why the OW would then use that against the W? Because it makes his W "less-than" a "real" wife. It makes it Sooooo much easier to justify to the new OW that their M isn't legit and that the W is already fully aware and accepting this her H is a cheater. It's no different than any other MM telling an OW what a rotten terror his W is. It is special kind of screwed up that this guy is holding his W's previous OW status against her - not like she was an OW by herself in an A. Barf-o.
jj33 Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Good point Broken and it plays into your friends worst fears. He cheated with me I pray he doesnt cheat on me.
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