Sambo Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I thought I would write this thread to share some insight that I think would help everyone in this forum. So you think you lost your Soul Mate. ? You think that the person who just left you (or that you left) and has now moved on was the one.? Well I can tell you unequivocally your WRONG. True Soul Mates NEVER leave. Let me repeat that... True Soul Mates NEVER leave. One more time just in case you don't get it... True Soul Mates NEVER leave. What we are feeling is the loss of a trusted soul. You loved someone and they feed your being and provided comfort and companionship and that's what your missing. IF this person was your Soul Mate you would still be with them, that's just how it works. Your feeling of loss is only superficial because that person was close to you and you trusted them. Real LOVE always finds away... ingrain that into your mind right now.... Real LOVE always finds away. I know your in pain and I know you feel loss but you have NOT lost your Soul Mate. Unless you just lost them through a death. REAL SOUL MATES NEVER LEAVE. TRUE LOVE ALWAYS FINDS A WAY.
owouchie Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 as much as this made me cry to read this... you're right.
D-Lish Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 It's naive to believe there is only one person out there for any of us. A belief in such an idea reduces your dating odds drastically. I've been in love a few times in my life- but I don't believe in the notion of a soul mate.
kdark Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I've been in love a few times in my life- but I don't believe in the notion of a soul mate. It's an idea that I have grown out of as well. The idea that there is someone out their that I can't be complete without isn't a good one.
pandagirl Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Not to be a Debbie Downer, but the idea of soulmates has led to many miserable people trying to get over someone or looking for that perfect person. Call me jaded or realistic, but all I know is I consider my best friend of 25 years to be my "soulmate," but that's only because we have stuck with each for so long, know each other so well, the love that we have for each other is deep, and no one makes me happier. But this relationship has been curated, it was not there from the beginning.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Yeah I also don't believe in "soul mates" per say. I think more on the "love of your life". You will fall in and out of love MANY times and you will also have the love of your life.. now this may or may not be the person you end up with. You might not end up with anyone... but I do believe that EVERYONE will have a love of their life... and that person is the person that shapes them into the person they are supposed to be. I also believe that they might leave and come back... just because you met them doesn't mean you are ready to be with them. What happens is meant to happen and it will make you who you are...
D-Lish Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Yeah I also don't believe in "soul mates" per say. I think more on the "love of your life". You will fall in and out of love MANY times and you will also have the love of your life.. now this may or may not be the person you end up with. You might not end up with anyone... but I do believe that EVERYONE will have a love of their life... and that person is the person that shapes them into the person they are supposed to be. I also believe that they might leave and come back... just because you met them doesn't mean you are ready to be with them. What happens is meant to happen and it will make you who you are... I have had more than one "love of my life". I've been deeply in love more than a few times.
Fouts Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Soulmates are out there, but it's a two way street. Saying YOU were deeply in love more than a couple of times doesn't mean anything. That being said, don't waste your time waiting for your soulmate, because chances are you'll never find them. Find someone that loves you and that you can love back, that's a better option.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I have had more than one "love of my life". I've been deeply in love more than a few times. I don't think you can't be deeply in love with more than one person.. but I really feel like there will be one person that no other has a comparison. That there is a person that makes you the person you are supposed to be... again they do not necassarily have to be who you end up with or the only person you ever love deeply. Well at least for me I feel like they exist and no we are not together and we never will be. He is just the only guy it will ever be like that with... ever.
D-Lish Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I don't think you can't be deeply in love with more than one person.. but I really feel like there will be one person that no other has a comparison. That there is a person that makes you the person you are supposed to be... again they do not necassarily have to be who you end up with or the only person you ever love deeply. Well at least for me I feel like they exist and no we are not together and we never will be. He is just the only guy it will ever be like that with... ever. Well, I am probably older than you:o, but I have really experienced awesome love with a few special people in my lifetime. If you allow yourself to believe that "the one that got away" was your only true love, you'll never allow yourself to be open to a new relationship. Such a thought process is detrimental to future relationships.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Well, I am probably older than you:o, but I have really experienced awesome love with a few special people in my lifetime. If you allow yourself to believe that "the one that got away" was your only true love, you'll never allow yourself to be open to a new relationship. Such a thought process is detrimental to future relationships. I don't think he was my one true love. I really don't believe in true love either. You can love someone in so many different ways and they are all very true and very intense. I really think all love is true. I just think that there is someone out there that is essential for you, that you when you find them there really is nothing like what you two had with each other. And as being open to relationships I am not open to ANY relationships at the moment with him or any other. I am focusing on me right now.. when the time comes I will be in one but it will not change how I feel about him I will still love him the same.
Tony T Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Certainly a person can have more than one soul mate. I think if you meet someone you connect with in a deeply spiritual way, there is much in common, the love is overwhelming, etc....that person could easily be a soul mate. However, there is no label on them designating them as such. Surely, there can be more than just a couple on people in our proximity that we can connect with at that level and with that intensity but we just have to find them. We cannot find a soul mate as such until we are psychologically ready for it, until we are the right person for the other person and until everything else falls into place. But certainly there are a number of people who can be a soul mate for us if we search, if we are open to it and if we are lucky. I think the danger lies in the fact that we may expect a soul mate to provide magical feelings for us beyond which they are capable. If you think a soul mate is going to provide eternal happiness, forever bliss and there will be no problems or arguments, perhaps it would be better if you stayed single and consumed some good drugs.
Beeotch Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 It's naive to believe there is only one person out there for any of us. A belief in such an idea reduces your dating odds drastically. I've been in love a few times in my life- but I don't believe in the notion of a soul mate. Agreed. I have a broader concept of soulmates from a spiritual perspective; which is that we have groups of soulmates, who DO NOT have to be romantic. They are souls that you really resonate with who help you along life's journey to grow. They can be bestfriends, family members, lovers etc. Overall, I have learned that ALL relationships are meant to help you grow. A relationship is not a failure simply because it did not last forever. If you believe that, then you will go through lots of "failed" relationships, as most people don't meet their life partner at 5 yrs old, date only them, marry and die together. I now think of all my relationships in terms of what they were supposed to help me learn and as markers along the way before I get into that last relationship of my life.
Beeotch Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Certainly a person can have more than one soul mate. I think if you meet someone you connect with in a deeply spiritual way, there is much in common, the love is overwhelming, etc....that person could easily be a soul mate. However, there is no label on them designating them as such. Surely, there can be more than just a couple on people in our proximity that we can connect with at that level and with that intensity but we just have to find them. We cannot find a soul mate as such until we are psychologically ready for it, until we are the right person for the other person and until everything else falls into place. But certainly there are a number of people who can be a soul mate for us if we search, if we are open to it and if we are lucky. I think the danger lies in the fact that we may expect a soul mate to provide magical feelings for us beyond which they are capable. If you think a soul mate is going to provide eternal happiness, forever bliss and there will be no problems or arguments, perhaps it would be better if you stayed single and consumed some good drugs. LMAO! That is so very true though! From a spiritual perspective, soulmate relationships are usually difficult as the relationship promotes growth and highlights all the issues and flaws you need to work on. Which as you said, requires maturity! If one is not grounded and mature and complete within themselves, it is very difficult to maintain and can become intense in an unhealthy way. Your best chance is to really be complete within yourself and not expect this relationship to complete your world, or else you will be sadly disappointed. However, modern media in particular sells this concept in the most unhealthy way, riding off into the sunset, you were shoeless and incomplete and this person comes and makes everything better. Hence, when reality hits, it seems HARSH and hence, people end up on Loveshack labeling their ex as a villain and as someone who duped them because they DID NOT complete their world, erase their issues etc.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I think the danger lies in the fact that we may expect a soul mate to provide magical feelings for us beyond which they are capable. If you think a soul mate is going to provide eternal happiness, forever bliss and there will be no problems or arguments, perhaps it would be better if you stayed single and consumed some good drugs. I VERY much agree with that. VERY VERY much. There is no relationship where arguments aren't there.. hell any relationships were they arn't necassary. Arguments do a degree are essential to communication. You say the things that you hold in the most... you show your true colors and alot of how you feel when you are angry. You don't mean to hurt the other person but your feelings don't always feel good you know? And I feel like this for all relationships whether it be romantic or not.
AlwaysConflicted Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) soulmate or soul mate One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Edited August 13, 2010 by AlwaysConflicted
Author Sambo Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) Can I honestly say that I loved the last woman I was with MORE then all the women I loved before her? Well.... Yes and No. Yes because I have matured in my understanding of what love is and no because all of the woman in my life were amazing in one way or another. Was she my soul mate ? It sure felt like it at the time but as I said the reality is she was not. Do Soul Mates even exist? Well as many in here have already expressed some believe they do and others believe they do not and their both right. I think the bigger question that we all have to consider in our current states of mind is WHY are we hurting so bad over people that left us or have moved on. I think the bottom line is our own SELF ESTEEM. It hurts to be left behind but in reality it really is a blessing in disguise because we got an answer to a question that is one of the most important things in our entire lives. We found out, we were not loved as much as we loved. This is blessing because we could have spent our whole lives living in a false reality. Thank Your EX, they did you a huge favor. They set you free (or you set them free) to be able to find some one else that will love you, the way you Love them and when you find that person then .... trust me IT WILL LAST FOREVER. That's all a Soul Mate really means to me. A love that is based off of mutual respect and equal feelings. Edited August 13, 2010 by Sambo
Dan Kohn Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I completely disagree that your soul mate will never leave you. Sometimes you meet each other at the wrong time, and environmental factors from your past have made you ill prepared to welcome your soul mate with open arms and have a healthy relationship. Your real soulmate may leave you, but you will never leave their mind or heart, and they will never leave your mind or heart. True love does find a way, and you each will find a way to be together if it is meant to be...
Beeotch Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I completely disagree that your soul mate will never leave you. Sometimes you meet each other at the wrong time, and environmental factors from your past have made you ill prepared to welcome your soul mate with open arms and have a healthy relationship. Your real soulmate may leave you, but you will never leave their mind or heart, and they will never leave your mind or heart. True love does find a way, and you each will find a way to be together if it is meant to be... I cosign to this Real love never ends. Real love is unconditional and real love is not about romance, so you don't actually have to be romantically involved with your soul mate to love them. I will always love my ex, but I don't have to date him. Although we're no longer together, love never ends. If your love has an ending, it isn't love, you're just calling those infatuated feelings and the romantic aspects (which is what actually ends) love.
Author Sambo Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I completely disagree that your soul mate will never leave you. Sometimes you meet each other at the wrong time, and environmental factors from your past have made you ill prepared to welcome your soul mate with open arms and have a healthy relationship. Your real soulmate may leave you, but you will never leave their mind or heart, and they will never leave your mind or heart. True love does find a way, and you each will find a way to be together if it is meant to be... Dan I understand what your saying but we are not talking about unconditional love here. That's not the context of this thread or forum. I've had 4 major long term relationships in my life and I can honestly say I still love all of these women on a deep down level. Yes true love never ends I agree but we are talking about lasting happiness and functional relationships here. There are many cases where people re-unite years later but that is really only a very tiny percentage of break ups. The point is, no power of earth will hold apart what God wants to be. If God sends you a Soul Mate ... It WILL be.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Dan I understand what your saying but we are not talking about unconditional love here. That's not the context of this thread or forum. I've had 4 major long term relationships in my life and I can honestly say I still love all of these women on a deep down level. Yes true love never ends I agree but we are talking about lasting happiness and functional relationships here. There are many cases where people re-unite years later but that is really only a very tiny percentage of break ups. The point is, no power of earth will hold apart what God wants to be. If God sends you a Soul Mate ... It WILL be. But what if god doesn't want you and your "soulmate" to be. What if you or they arn't ready.... I agree with Dan.... your "soulmate" can and just might leave.. but they will always come back.
Author Sambo Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 But what if god doesn't want you and your "soulmate" to be. What if you or they arn't ready.... I agree with Dan.... your "soulmate" can and just might leave.. but they will always come back. Yes this is a possibility but it's still doesn't change the fact of the reality RIGHT NOW so why dwell on it ? If GOD does want you and your soul mate to be back together after you've both learned what ever he wanted you to learn then just TRUST that it WILL happen and nothing you can do will rush or change that. So move on with your life until then.
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