owouchie Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Hey, what a suprise...someone broke up with me too. Well, for the past three years i have been friends with this guy, but have always had strong feelings for him. In November of last year i finally told him and he was very very reluctant to admit his feelings for me, but finally after 3 months, he told me how he felt. I was " driving him crazy" and he "had never felt this way before". We had a marvelous relationship and i was genuinely happy. I had been hurt before so I was careful not to open myself up to him so much at first, but eventually i gave him my all. He was the first one to say he loved me and it took me a week to say it back ( didn't want to say it unless i meant it). We were very close but could not spend much time together because of very complicated reasons I won't go into. Every chance we got together we always made it happen. But i guess after a few months I felt i was the only one trying, the only one initiating anything. I thought maybe he was stressed with work or stressed about the things going on in our lives, so I only brought it up a few times and each time he responded with a "no nothing is wrong baby...i'm just so tired". He told me he was a guy to keep his promises and he promised me things he had nevr promised any other woman: to never hurt me; to always be my friend; and to take care of me in any way possible; and to NEVER break up with me over text. I love him more than anything. I would've done anything for him. I could see myself marrying him and being with him and we never had problems talking abot our future together. He never seemed afraid of commitment. Well this past saturday was our 6 month anniversary and the day i was throwing him an early suprise birthday party. I had all his friends invited and had him a small but meaningful gift and a card that i spent three days writing what was inside. Writing everything i felt for him and how wonderful he was. Well last wednesday he stopped texting me as much as he normally did ( which he did a moderate amount of texting) but brushed it off as him being busy at work. I understood because he is a very busy man. Friday i jokingly told him " now now! don't you take me talking to you for granted goofy!" he responded with an "i love you" and i texted him several times later but he never responded back. not all friday afternoon/night and saturday morning. I went to a family event that he was expected to show up to and i reminded him saturday with the time and said i didnt know what was wrong but i hoped to see him there. He didn't show up. I was dissapointed needless to say and as soon as he event was over drove to his apartment. I knocked and he opened the door, letting me in. He sat down, his phone right beside him and left me standing there. I asked him what was wrong. What had i done? was he okay? and he resonded with he was fine and no i hadn't done anything. i asked " do you not love me anymore is that it? did you mean your text about loving me?" he said "yes i did" and i said " do you want to be with me?"... he didn't respond. I told him i was leaving and walked out of his apartmen, half hoping he'd wake up and chase after me (ah to be a naive woman). He didn't. Since his birthday party was that night I, very embarassed, had to call all his friends and cancel the party. I then drove home in tears. I texted him when i got home " you did the same thing with the last girlfriend. you promised not to do this to me." ( he broke up with the last girlfriend under similiar circumstances). He got angry because i brought his ex into this. I then gave him the ultimatum, asking if he wanted to be with me or not. He took 30 minutes to respond, finally saying " i dont want to be with you. im sorry. i don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. i dont see it working out." i told him bye. this seemed all of a sudden to me. the week before this he was still laughing with me and saying how much he loved me and wanted to be with me at all costs. As i said him and i were very close and he has tried to text me since, but i have deleted him off everything and ignore/delete his texts. I am leaving for college (but was only a hour away) and he is leaving for russia in october. We had plans for him to move to my college town as soon as he could reasonably get a job and apartment and after he got back from his business trip to russia. My mom thinks he broke it off because he thought it was going to be to hard on both of us being away from each other and he wanted me to experience the college dorm life. My heart tells me to trust him and know he had a good reason. My head tells me he is a *insert word equivalent to butthead here* and to get over him. I'm not sure what to believe or think. I know there are plenty of fish in the sea... but i was so sure on this one and so set that he is right. i used to tell people " he is the pb to my j. the mac to my cheese". Im pretty sure he still wants to be friends but i'm not sure if i can handle that for a while. I havent talked to him since he broke it off... but want to SO BAD. I want to understand why he did what he did. Opinions/ advice/ thoughts are definately welcome. ( oh and i probably forgot alot of details... so if there's something i should mention i may mention it in later posts. and...i forgot to capitalize alot of 'I's... i apologize )
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