EE2000 Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 (edited) This is my story and I need to get it off my chest. Earlier this year I found out that my boyfriend of over a year was cheating on me, actually I was the other woman as he was with her for around four years prior to me. We were in a long distance relationship and he had traveled to see me, I was playing with his iPod touch and found an email he had sent her. [ I have to interject here, a day or so before I found that email we were down at the beach and once again I was playing with his iPod touch and found an email from the site Ashley Madison and he played it off as he was just wondering what it was all about.] I guess she used her phone for emailing and such because the email was to a phone number so I wrote it down. Instead of asking him and risking him lying to me, I sent her a text to let her know that what he said in his email to her was a lie and that he was with me. She called me back and said she had been with him for quite some time, she then asked to speak to him and I left him alone to talk to her. His explanation to me was that he met her online and that they have never met in person, and basically when they met he was very vulnerable, he said he knew from the moment we talked that I was the one he wanted to be with but he didn't know how to end it with her because.... she claimed she was sick and he was sending her a lot of money a month so she could buy medicine and he didn't think she would let him help her out if they broke up. We talked and talked, and talked some more. I told him that if he loved me, and wanted to be with me then he would take me back up with him and we would live together, he agreed so I moved with him when he left. For awhile she kept trying to contact us, texting me or emailing him. We both ignored her. When that didn't work she called the police to our apartment claiming that he was missing, I explained to the officers that it was his ex-girlfriend and that my boyfriend was gone on business. When that didn't work ( we still did not contact her ) she complained to legal ( he is in the military ) that he threaten to kill her and got a restraining order on him. Legal kept asking for proof that she never provided, then she claimed he called her and again said he was going to kill her..cept that it was impossible for him to call her at that time, or even that day. So if this story does not sound made up enough. Her daughter sends me a text saying her mom had died, I was confused because the other woman didn't have kids and the age I knew her to be was not the age to have a kid that old. She blames us because he stopped sending her money and she couldn't get the medicine she needed. Well I found out the name she had gave him was a fake name, I did find out her real name and it does seem that she did pass away. I am still with him and we are getting married next year, he has done everything he can in order to gain my trust again and while it isn't all there most of it is and all of it will be again. I think what has helped is that anytime I am feeling doubt, or I am thinking about what happened he will calm me down and do his best to sooth my fears. Thank you for reading my story, it is nice to not have it bottled up inside anymore. Edited August 13, 2010 by EE2000 Clarity.
YellowShark Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 This is my story and I need to get it off my chest. Earlier this year I found out that my boyfriend of over a year was cheating on me, actually I was the other woman as he was with her for around four years prior to me. This is why you never ever want to be the OW/OM. If they'll cheat WITH you they'll cheat ON you. Men or women who cheat are highly likely to cheat again. Sometimes this is a painful life-lesson for people to swallow, but I think it is a real wakeup call when it comes to cheaters.
torranceshipman Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 WOAH that is a story. The other woman in the story...do you mean she died, or she is alive and she just gave you the name of a person who died? And just a question....the other woman sounded like she'd been lied to a lot...if the man fell off the face of the earth all of a sudden I am not surprised that she was worried sick. Why didn't someone just call her/answer her once? She clearly didn't know which way was up after so many lies. And did the Ashley Madison thing ever get resolved? So many people have suffered in this story and the sad thing is it was all totally needless - the guy just lied so much.
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