Jennifer Anniston's Comments to O'Reilly

[caramel c]

So now someone is being critical of adoption? D=

 

I'd hate the idea if I couldn't have kids of people around me believing that whatever kid I adopted would have been happier if they had just stayed with their biological parents, even if I raised the child as my own and gave it a happy home.

 

That's an interesting point. What I meant by what I said was being raised by their own mother and father as opposed to by step mothers and step fathers. Again, generally speaking. And as far as adoption, I think its a beautiful thing. I wish and pray that more couples would adopt, and more (unfit? or whatever the case may be) mothers would go through with their pregnancies, give birth, and give them up for adoption. Still, there are certain trials and tribulations that adopted children and parents may endure, such as race/culture differences, not being genetically related, etc. I'm not saying its not good! Just standing behind my belief that the most ideal situation for children is their own mother and father in the same house.

 

Don't take it out of context or jump to conclusions. Like I said there are exceptions to everything, but I am generally speaking here.

[amerikajin]

I think O'Reilly reacted mainly because his ratings are slipping and he needs to get himself back in the news before Glenn Beck out-crazies him into retirement.

 

But beyond that, I do think there is something to be said for considering the limits of feminism. There has been this feminist notion that women don't need men, and that they should feel empowered enough to seek all of the roles of maternity without necessarily involving the man. I think people need male and female role models. Of course when the father isn't exactly a role model then the mother should step up, but that's not always the case.

[caramel c]

I also think its a good thing for women to realize they don't 'need' a man...and this IS a problem because often times they are so quick to settle, so quick to feel desperate as if they cannot possibly just be single! I truly think if so many people were not running around with the wrong person for them, they'd be more available for the right person. And then obviously more relationships would work out...but when it comes to having a baby, I do think a woman needs a man. She needs her husband. That is the best way.

[Woggle]

I think O'Reilly reacted mainly because his ratings are slipping and he needs to get himself back in the news before Glenn Beck out-crazies him into retirement.

 

But beyond that, I do think there is something to be said for considering the limits of feminism. There has been this feminist notion that women don't need men, and that they should feel empowered enough to seek all of the roles of maternity without necessarily involving the man. I think people need male and female role models. Of course when the father isn't exactly a role model then the mother should step up, but that's not always the case.

 

I think if many feminists had their way fathers would nothing more than sperm donors and walking wallets. I don't usually like O'Reilly but I am glad somebody stood up for my gender. They want to remove from the family structure completely.

[Enchanted Girl]

Actually, I don't think it's such a bad thing for a woman to realize she doesn't "need" a man. The idea of needing a man is what makes many women stay in abusive relationships, whether it be emotional or physical abuse. They feel helpless without one.

 

I agree with this. I also would never want a man to feel like he needs a woman so much that he'd settle for abuse either.

 

@woggle: No one said that we want to get rid of father's completely. No one is going to do it this way, the hard and expensive way, if they have a husband who they love who they want to have a baby with as an option.

[Pyro]

@woggle: No one said that we want to get rid of father's completely. No one is going to do it this way, the hard and expensive way, if they have a husband who they love who they want to have a baby with as an option.

 

save your breath. The same point has been explained to him numerous times already in this thread.

[WTFBBQ]

I don't understand why everyone is in an uproar over Jennifer Anniston's comments about single parenthood. What is a woman/man suppose to do when they want a child but isn't married? If you can afford a child on your own what is wrong with having that child or adopting a child. Yes the ideal situation would be for a child to have a mother and a father raising them but that is not always possible for some people. Should they just give up their desire to have a child because they can't get a spouse?

I can't believe there is an uproar over anything Jennifer Aniston thinks.

[BlackLovely]

Of course they are not good but you only have to look at what men have turned into in order to see that having a male role model is very important for boys growing up. Somebody needs to teach them about being a man and show them the ropes. It works the other way as well. If you had a generation of girls being raisede by men with no poistive female figures would you say that was a good thing? Of course it would not be but somehow it is celebrated as a form of female empowerment when boys are raised like that.

You know what Woggle? I agree to some extent with what you're saying. My community has a HUGE problem with absent fathers. Consequently, many young men are mentored by the wrong people~drug dealers and the like. They have no role models for taking responsibility for their children and usually become absent fathers themselves.

[BlackLovely]

When I was younger myself and all my friends agreed that if we didn't have children by a certain age we would happily go it alone. Now that I'm older and wiser (with 2 children) I realise how hard it is.

 

Everyone told me "you never know how hard raising a child is until you have your own"... I always dismissed this comment as patronizing. But I was wrong it is hard and I really value the fact that I have someone there to help me out. Yeah I have family but its not the same. They can't be there for me and my children like their father can.

I also come from a very dissadvantaged area and I have seen the damage no positive male role model has on both girls and boys. You can walk around my area and literally pick out the ones without dads at home.

 

Jennifer Anniston can sit there and say how easy it is to have kids on your own but (A) She's never had any.. (B) She's mega rich so can pay people to do all the hard work for her..

 

I think that dude was angry about how flippent Jen was being about an issue which frankly causes alot of struggle to many peoples lives. Ask any single mother in my area and they'll tell ya its not a path they would have chosen given the choice.

 

I don't have children, but I am well aware of how hard it is to be a parent. I suppose I am much more mindful of the negative aspects of parenthood. Also, I have looked after many, many children and quite frankly, the little darlings can be a thorn in anyone's ass!

 

I agree that Jennifer has a very limited and naive perspective. Being a single mom is much easier if you bleed money.

[Shakz]

If Jennifer Anniston is carrying Bill O'Reilly's love child, who are we to judge?

[BlackLovely]

If Jennifer Anniston is carrying Bill O'Reilly's love child, who are we to judge?

 

:lmao::laugh::D:D *wiping tears from laughter" Thank you baby! I post on here while I work and you just brightened my day!

[Shakz]

:lmao::laugh::D:D *wiping tears from laughter" Thank you baby! I post on here while I work and you just brightened my day!

 

Right on.

[Disillusioned]

I don't understand why everyone is in an uproar over Jennifer Anniston's comments about single parenthood.

 

She also used the word "retard" in her comments. If terrorists ever blew up a short bus full of retards, the American people would go into a blind rage... that's how much we love the poor dears.

[horsegirl]

Aniston is a retard and so is the average American.

 

 

These are people with their kids in private school and not a lot at stake. Who gives a fck.

 

sorry.

i dont.

[Nikki Sahagin]

Firstly, I think the security of the traditional family unit is GROSSLY exaggerated, I say that coming from one myself. People assume that having a mother and father is enough to raise a stable and happy child. It is not. Of course many people from traditional families are happy and well-cared for and it will always be the ideal but HOW many families are there where the mother or father is abusive emotionally/mentally or physically to their spouse or child? Where one or the other cheats? Where one or the other or both are no longer in love but suffer through 'for the children' not knowing that they are hurting the children MORE with their unhappiness? There are a lot of great mother/father families with wonderful children. There are also a lot of terrible traditional families. And there are also a lot of kids raised with great role models who turn to crime or drugs or hitting their partners. At some point people must take responsibility for their own actions.

 

Similarly, there are a lot of untraditional families, a single mother, single father, two homosexual partners, extended families, step-families, foster families who can raise happy and productive children.

 

And sadly, in certain areas there is a greater risk of having to raise a child alone. I remember in primary school, being the child of a single parent was something in the minority, but in secondary school nearly everyone that I met was raised by a single mother. Now, is this the mothers fault? Did she pick the wrong man? Was she selfish? Did she not use protection? Possibly. But what about the responsibilites of the father? I think we do grow up in a world where BECAUSE of traditional rules fathers are seen by most as ONLY providers; they work, are away all the time but they bring you back food that mumma will make up for you.

 

Having a father, if all he does is work and then disapear off to bed, is no more a role model, than the child who grows up alone with his mother. The REAL problem with single parenthood is that often the child has NO role models because the mother as the only parent, must work pretty much all the time, and so the child basically raises itself, and if it has no sense, attaches to all kinds of bad people. Plenty of children have no role models or poor ones but manage to reach out to the right people and make something of myselfs (my dad for one.) I think children, whether male or female, often use 'there's no role models' as an excuse. I don't find this an ignorant comment. For some children, it is all they know but STILL, if so many can break the pattern and I know if my dad can others can, then what is the real excuse?

 

I also think children need male and female role models but one of my friends was raised just by her father and she seemed to find her way into womanhood just fine.

[Nikki Sahagin]

You know what Woggle? I agree to some extent with what you're saying. My community has a HUGE problem with absent fathers. Consequently, many young men are mentored by the wrong people~drug dealers and the like. They have no role models for taking responsibility for their children and usually become absent fathers themselves.

 

Though I understand what you are saying, the individual has GOT to take responsibility. I think in many cases people use the 'oh woo is me, my past was hard' to take the easy way out. My father was left by his own father and did not have a good relationship at all with his mother. His childhood was horrible. The first thing he said 'I have always wanted a family so I could give my children everything I never had and never let them go through the things I did.' Some people might repeat the pattern and go down, but then why do some make a conscious effort to change? Because they know the hurt and pain they went through themselves. If they choose to inflict that on their own children, that is their fault. We can all take responsibility for our own actions. To become a father, most times because protection was not used by either party, or because the two did not know each other well enough before they had sex, is selfish and the effect on the children is selfish, but people need to step up and realise, just because their dad left them, that doesn't mean they need to do the same. My own father never used that excuse so I don't buy it when others do.

 

Its selfishness - pure and simple.