BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 It is a good thing then, that this place has a third shift, no?
oxfordsocks Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 i am trying to make my self so darn tired that when my head hits the pillowi won't have to think. Anything i can do to help --let me know? anything specific on your mind. For me--its waiting for contact from my stupid MM who has arrived home now after I revealed our affair---the spouse says (this is her second time knowing about us) that everything is ok with them --that this last year has been fine -no talk of separation and sex is WONDERFUL--HASN[T STOPPED ALL YEAR. --IN fact they almost did it all night the other night---after 20 years of marriage i think he deserves an award. There are many reasons that lead to me contacting his wife--and he has never wanted her to know he was leaving for another one and have that kind of hurt---decision time. Can't use that excuse anymore. DO i believe the spouse--hmmm Do i think i know what is going to happen--well he arrived home llast night -today was his daughters birthday so we will see...........There you can read this and stay awake and maybe your stuff won't seem so bad to keep you awake perhaps i have bored you to sleep
Author skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 i am trying to make my self so darn tired that when my head hits the pillowi won't have to think. Anything i can do to help --let me know? anything specific on your mind. It's just a girl I cant seem to get over.
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I cant sleep and I know why When I cannot ZZ, I just get up and play with the internet rather than lies there and think of things that make me sad. maybe you can write down your thoughts.
Author skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 When I cannot ZZ, I just get up and play with the internet rather than lies there and think of things that make me sad. maybe you can write down your thoughts. That's a good idea. I will think about it.
oxfordsocks Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 did you see that post about the mcdonalds--worrying about why we shouldn't or can't eat mcdonalds when there are so many better restuarants out there with filet mignon. I thought it was funny--I am a girl heartbroken over a boy--your a boy heartbroken over a girl i think it feels the same for us---just that awful sick feeling(great weigloss for me I have lost about 6 pounds in as many days).. I guess that is the good point of all of this. I hope each day gets better--sometimes i wonder why i would waste another minute on someone who doesn't want me in there life--but your mind is a crazy place soometimes(going over all the good stuff of course first/instead of the less ideal)--well your not alone--and yes people get over heartbreak it is one of those things that take time--I would like a pill for it though like aspirin you can take for a headache. HUgs to YOu---i wish you happiness and more joy each day
Author skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 did you see that post about the mcdonalds--worrying about why we shouldn't or can't eat mcdonalds when there are so many better restuarants out there with filet mignon. I thought it was funny--I am a girl heartbroken over a boy--your a boy heartbroken over a girl i think it feels the same for us---just that awful sick feeling(great weigloss for me I have lost about 6 pounds in as many days).. I guess that is the good point of all of this. I hope each day gets better--sometimes i wonder why i would waste another minute on someone who doesn't want me in there life--but your mind is a crazy place soometimes(going over all the good stuff of course first/instead of the less ideal)--well your not alone--and yes people get over heartbreak it is one of those things that take time--I would like a pill for it though like aspirin you can take for a headache. HUgs to YOu---i wish you happiness and more joy each day Same to you thanks and many hugs as well
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 sometimes i wonder why i would waste another minute on someone who doesn't want me in there life--but your mind is a crazy place soometimes(going over all the good stuff of course first/instead of the less ideal) That is a good one...I should keep reminding myself of that!
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 That's a good idea. I will think about it. How about I tell you a story that I have posted elsewhere, maybe that may help you to sleep: One day, a blind man was crossing the street with his guide dog when a truck lost control and crashed into them. The blind man died instantly. The dog, trying to shield his master, died also. Together their souls went up to Heaven, but they were stopped by an angel a mile before they reached the Pearly Gates. "I am sorry," the angel said, "but we have only one vacant spot in Heaven right now. Only one of you can enter, the other must go to Hell." The blind man said: "My dog doesn't know what is Heaven and what is Hell. Can I decide for us?" The angel, with a flicker of contempt in her gaze, frowned and said, "I am sorry. Every soul is equal. You two must compete for the right to enter Heaven." "But how?" asked the blind man. The angel replied: "Well, one simple way would be for you to race each other to the Gates; whoever gets there first wins. But you need not worry. Since you are dead, you are no longer blind and, I may add, your physical abilities amount to nothing here; the more pure and kind is your soul, the faster you can run." The man thought for a moment and agreed to it. Without any further delay, the angel set them on the same line and let the race began. The angel had thought the man, in order to secure that single spot to Heaven, would ran at full speed. But she was wrong. The man strolled forward leisurely, almost at a snail's pace. Equally surprising was that the dog didn't ran also, he just walked alongside his master, with every step in sync. Then it dawned on the angel: the dog was trained to, and accustomed to, travel at the same pace as the man, to be beside him in every step, to guide and protect him. "What a rascal!" the angel thought to herself, "he can order the dog to stop just before the Gates and then take the last step alone! No wonder he can act so nonchalant!!" The angle took one hard look at the loyal dog and felt sorry for him. "Run!" she yelled to the dog "You've already sacrificed your life for the man! He is no longer blind and you don't have to take care of him anymore! It's time you think for yourself! Run, dog, run!!" But the dog turned a deaf ear to the angel's shouts and continued to walk at the same pace beside the man. As for the man, he seemed not to have heard the angel too, and continued to walk slowly. As the angel had feared, the man stopped just before the Gates and told the dog to sit. The dog sat obediently. And the angel found herself consumed with contempt for the man. The man smiled. He picked up the dog, turned towards the angel and gave her the dog. He said: "Now I have delivered my dog to heaven. I was worried that he didn't want to go to Heaven, that he wanted to stay with me... so I have to decide for him. Please take my dog into Heaven for me." As the angel stood there, completely dumbfounded, the man looked at his dog lovingly and continued: "Thank you for giving us the chance to take one last walk together. In all those years that he walked beside me, guided me, protected me, I could not see what he looked like. That was why I had to walk so slowly, so I can savor every moment with him with my eyes. I wished we could walk forever, but as there has to be an end, Heaven is the most fitting ending place for him. Please take care of him for me. Thank you." Then the man turned his back on the Pearly Gates, and plummeted towards Hell. The dog, on seeing that, broke loose from the angel and immediately dived after his master. The angel, filled with ruefulness, spread her wings and chased after the dog. But it was a lost cause. Not even the fastest angel could catch two of the purest and kindest souls ever known. And so the dog was reunited with his master. Even in Hell they remained together as they always had been. The angel, devastated and heartbroken, could only murmured: "I was wrong... terribly wrong... they ARE one... two souls so united they are ONE...."
BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 How about I tell you a story that I have posted elsewhere, maybe that may help you to sleep: The angel, devastated and heartbroken, could only murmured: "I was wrong... terribly wrong... they ARE one... two souls so united they are ONE...." Neat story. Not sure that last bit really belongs in a coping forum, but still a really neat story.
Author skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 (edited) that story is too sad. Now I will never get to sleep there must be a happier ending. Perhaps they ended up in Heaven after all Edited August 12, 2010 by skydiveaddict
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Neat story. Not sure that last bit really belongs in a coping forum, but still a really neat story. probably not...but just to tell him a nice story to help him sleep.. But don't we all wish for someone like that? Well when I read this story, (actually translated by a dear friend) I wonder to myself? don't I want someone who will love me like this? or do i want someone who could just walk away easily from me? This is what I wanted him to be, but in reality, he is not...and if he is not capable of loving me like this, do i really want it? Maybe only some sort of mind games I am playing.
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 that story is too sad. Now I will never get to sleep there must be a happier ending. Perhaps they ended up in Heaven after all It is not sad, how can it be sad if two beings love each other so much?That they would give their lives for one another, that they would rather be in hell with each other than in heaven without the other person? Not sad at all...now you can sleep....smile!
Sadcakesleo Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I'm having a hard time sleeping too. Even 7 months after are break up I'm still getting over it. Just a few days ago she was telling me she was so sad about us and couldn't stop crying. We had a good phone conversation and now two days later she's a ghost again. I expected it that is why I haven't tried calling or trying to reconcile when she said that. Still sucks though, I kind of feel used. Finally 7 months later the break up hit her and I was there for her and now she probably feels better so shes back to her old ways. oh well
cookie2 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I think that story is very relevant here! That dog is how our ex's SHOULD have acted! Instead of QUITTING on us! We walked slowly but they broke into a run and left us behind to go to hell.
wrencn Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I can't sleep either. Tired of waking up between 3:30 and 4:00... I just want to get on with my life. I bet he sleeps just fine. Bastard.
smk Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I can't sleep either. Tired of waking up between 3:30 and 4:00... I just want to get on with my life. I bet he sleeps just fine. yeah me too - it takes ages to fall asleep and even when i do its just unsettling sleep - never more than 3 hours at a stretch before i wake up and then spend another couple of hours trying to get back to sleep... I also seem to be waking up between 3 - 4 each night and then again just before 6... i havent had more than 3 hours sleep at a stretch in almost 9 weeks now...
czecze Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I think that story is very relevant here! That dog is how our ex's SHOULD have acted! Instead of QUITTING on us! We walked slowly but they broke into a run and left us behind to go to hell. How true...!! and sad to think of it!
cookie2 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I've been having sleep problems too, but last night wasn't too bad. Call me grandad but a cup of hot nesquik did wonders for me. Still, woke up at 5 and 6 but got to sleep a lot better than before... I'm going on a mate's stag weekend this w/e so probably won't be getting much sleep anyway!
smk Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I'm going on a mate's stag weekend this w/e so probably won't be getting much sleep anyway! as GC said - hit the watering hole and find a new filly to ride... I need a stag weekend away...
BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 (edited) I think loss of sleep has to be the worst part about relationship induced trauma. All we want to do is have a nice 7-9 hour slice of time where we aren't utterly consumed with thoughts of him/her. Yet, what we often get is a 2 hour slice of disturbed time where we dream of him/her. Then, we get to wake up feeling drained, depressed, and wondering when we can have another 2 hour slice. Neurochemists really need to get to work on this one! Edited August 12, 2010 by BiAxident
wrencn Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 The worst part is that I have night terrors before I actually wake up and then I wake up confused and not sure if he still lives with me or not. He doesn't, once I realize it, I get depressed. Feels like PTSD.
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