Justme2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Now I know that sometimes hickeys happen in the heat of passion, but to show up at your child's school function with a large hickey is quite tacky especially when everyone knows that you are going through a divorce. I will admit that it bothered me when I saw it. She is marking her territory. Am I out of line in thinking this way?
djhall Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Tacky... sure. But I don't know that I would be "bothered" by someone else being tacky unless they were part of my family or my relationship.
Author Justme2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Well he is still my husband (on paper) and I will admit that I am still not over him. I guess it shouldn't have bothered me, but it did. I guess because my daughter asked what that was on her father's neck.
Bitterman24/7 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Well he is still my husband (on paper) and I will admit that I am still not over him. I guess it shouldn't have bothered me, but it did. I guess because my daughter asked what that was on her father's neck. Are you trying to divorce him now (I hope), because if I was still married to my ex-ww and saw a hickey on her neck that I didn't give her, I would've went crazy. Yes, that is tacky and nasty. How disrespectful of him having an affair then has the nerve to come to your child's school function. Cheaters...
Author Justme2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Yes, I am currently divorcing him. He is currently living with the OW and her children.
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Love his sense of dignity if he lets her do that... what is she, 17? Jeesh, it's childish and frankly, gutter behaviour. We have a couple of friends, with two virtually-grown-up daughters, and whenever we see him, he has some kind of mark around his neck. It's like advertising "hey, I got some!" - but not in a nice way.... Mind you, a vacuum cleaner might leave the same mark. maybe he just wants you to THINK he's getting some......
Author Justme2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 They act like they are 17 even though they are both closer to being 50 years old. He also showed up in new clothes and shoes that are totally not his style. He tells me that he has serious financial problems (that have been documented so I know that it is true). but yet has money to go buy $100 shoes and expensive clothes. Meanwhile, a part of our house needs some repairs before the damage gets worse and yet he tells me that he can't afford to fix the problem.
Bitterman24/7 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 They act like they are 17 even though they are both closer to being 50 years old. He also showed up in new clothes and shoes that are totally not his style. He tells me that he has serious financial problems (that have been documented so I know that it is true). but yet has money to go buy $100 shoes and expensive clothes. Meanwhile, a part of our house needs some repairs before the damage gets worse and yet he tells me that he can't afford to fix the problem. Oh wow. Almost 50 years old and they are acting like horny 20 year olds? It must be OW buying him that stuff if he can't afford it himself. Oh well, he's going to learn the hard way, especially since he's broke.
whichwayisup Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Well he is still my husband (on paper) and I will admit that I am still not over him. I guess it shouldn't have bothered me, but it did. I guess because my daughter asked what that was on her father's neck. You tell her, "I don't know honey" then tell your husband he's acting like a teen, getting hickey's in places where the kids can see them. I think the OW is marking him. He's just an idiot for allowing her to do that, especially right now.
What_Next Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 How utterly tacky. Yikes. Don't bring yourself down to that level by caring one single bit. You can count on the fact that almost everyone else in the room had the same reaction as you did, ewww comes to mind
BetweenHere&There Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Very tacky and immature on both their parts....while you can only try to ignore it, I can only sympathize that it must be hard to explain to your daughter. One thing you can relish in though, you are a much better person that either of them and your daughter will respect you later that you are a good person.
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