Men: Is it BEST to ask a guy to come see me or WAIT until he ask when can I see you?

[9Lives]

in just curious to know how men feel about a woman asking her to come see him when you not sure how much you like her? I mean, u talk to her on the phone and text with her but you don't see her that often. if you know the female likes you but not sure about her, is it best to wait for him to ask to come see you?

 

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[counterman]

Oh, I am in that situation now.

 

I met up with a girl a week ago. Prior to that I had only seen her in person a few times. She started to chatting to me on IM a lot. So, when I met up with her last week, she was nervous and a little uncomfortable I think... I wasn't sure if I liked her or not, but after meeting up with her, it just made me less inclined to go out with her. I haven't asked to meet up with her again, but if she ever asks, I would meet up with her, because that is showing me initiative and I like that in a girl.

 

Always go for in-person communication. There is nothing to hide behind and that establishes a healthy dynamic right away.

 

Is he initiating contact on the phone and texting? I wouldn't do that if I weren't the least bit interested in a girl.

 

With your situation, I think you should ask him to come see you... That way you'll know if he's interested or not. If you wait, you could be carrying on texting and talking on the phone for a while.

[Feelin Frisky]

No one-size-fits-all answer here. If I had to choose one I'd say ask me over.

[9Lives]

No one-size-fits-all answer here. If I had to choose one I'd say ask me over.

 

well frisky, if u wasn't SURE or u wanted to take it slow, u still want her to ask you over?

[9Lives]

Oh, I am in that situation now.

 

I met up with a girl a week ago. Prior to that I had only seen her in person a few times. She started to chatting to me on IM a lot. So, when I met up with her last week, she was nervous and a little uncomfortable I think... I wasn't sure if I liked her or not, but after meeting up with her, it just made me less inclined to go out with her. I haven't asked to meet up with her again, but if she ever asks, I would meet up with her, because that is showing me initiative and I like that in a girl.

 

Always go for in-person communication. There is nothing to hide behind and that establishes a healthy dynamic right away.

 

Is he initiating contact on the phone and texting? I wouldn't do that if I weren't the least bit interested in a girl.

 

With your situation, I think you should ask him to come see you... That way you'll know if he's interested or not. If you wait, you could be carrying on texting and talking on the phone for a while.

 

I think you are good with this! I agree with this

[Feelin Frisky]

well frisky, if u wasn't SURE or u wanted to take it slow, u still want her to ask you over?

 

Why not? Doesn't mean we're gonna f__k. I'm a gentleman about that. I don't really know what you're thinking in your scenarios. But if we're talking and it seems to be getting better, someone has to take risks--as a man, being asked over to a woman's place doesn't mean that I'm "in like Flynn", but asking her to my place tends to make me guilty by gender association of expecting to knock boots.

 

Hey, btw, we'd made a good cat food line. Nay?

[USMCHokie]

If you want to see him, ask him to come see you. If he's interested, he'll come see you. If he's not interested, he won't come see you. That way you'll get to see him and you'll know whether he's interested enough. It's a win-win.

[9Lives]

If you want to see him, ask him to come see you. If he's interested, he'll come see you. If he's not interested, he won't come see you. That way you'll get to see him and you'll know whether he's interested enough. It's a win-win.

 

thats what I will do!

[a_woman]

you should never ever ask a man to come over to your place unless he has been asking you out for at least a little while. this is not about game playing, it's just that good quality women don't do this. ask him out for a drink for sure but don't ask him to come over to your place - unless you are already out with him having a good time and it's a continuation of the evening.

[sunrae]

If you want to see him, ask him to come see you. If he's interested, he'll come see you. If he's not interested, he won't come see you. That way you'll get to see him and you'll know whether he's interested enough. It's a win-win.

 

 

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