whatadeer26 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 This is basically a rant, but please comment. For The past 2-3 weeks I have been doing well. I would get sad a bit during the day about being without her and not being in constant contact like before. Never bad. Until yesterday, my ex contacted a friend of mine to try to get answers about why I deleted her from facebook and won't respond to any of her texts or calls. She basically called me immature and said to him that that was the reason why she broke up with me. Everything was great until she started to notice my immaturities. (This has realy upset me). I want to so badly ask her if she even knows what the definition of that work is, but there would be no point. She basically told my friend more about the break up than she ever told me. Now she is in Vegas having fun with her friends and I'm here thinking more and more about her.
exclusive. Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Dude, she's playing you through a third party. She can't get her grasp on you directly so she's gone through your friend. Come fella, keep strong and please do not contact her - that is exactly what she wants because shes lost control
DustySaltus Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 (edited) She contacts you only when she needs something but runs in the opposite direction when things get a little tough. So what if she's in Vegas having fun with her friends. That "fun" isn't going to change the person that she is. I've read some of your older posts and it's clear that this girl is very selfish and someone you should steer clear of in the future. I know you miss her but the person that you idealize and the person that she truly is are completely DIFFERENT. All you can you do is focus on yourself and what you need to be happy OUTSIDE of that relationship. You existed before her, you'll exist after her. I know the pain you feel. You have to use that energy in a constructive way for yourself. Don't let her have that power over you anymore and learn from this. Edited August 11, 2010 by DustySaltus
Username37 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 This is basically a rant, but please comment. For The past 2-3 weeks I have been doing well. I would get sad a bit during the day about being without her and not being in constant contact like before. Never bad. Until yesterday, my ex contacted a friend of mine to try to get answers about why I deleted her from facebook and won't respond to any of her texts or calls. She basically called me immature and said to him that that was the reason why she broke up with me. Everything was great until she started to notice my immaturities. (This has realy upset me). I want to so badly ask her if she even knows what the definition of that work is, but there would be no point. She basically told my friend more about the break up than she ever told me. Now she is in Vegas having fun with her friends and I'm here thinking more and more about her. Don't contact. You're doing good. She's getting her friends to contact you which means she has no more grip on you. You're free. I can relate, my ex got one of her friends to contact one of my friends to get answers. They'll think of a way to get to you. And Vegas sucks anyways. I live there and it's not that great haha
Author whatadeer26 Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Thanks for the responses. All of my friends I talk to tell me she is nuts. We laugh at the stuff she had sent me. They see how hypocritical she is and selfish. I wish I could get her to realize this. (I know I couldn't) What has pissed me off the most is the fact that she is calling me immature. She is 25 i'm 23 and she thinks that her age makes her more mature. I get so mad at this. I won't contact her trust me. Thanks again this site always helps me calm down.
Don Ho Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 We all have our days..... the friend stuff just stirred it up for you a bit. Continue the NC, it will pass. Hang in there.
Username37 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Thanks for the responses. All of my friends I talk to tell me she is nuts. We laugh at the stuff she had sent me. They see how hypocritical she is and selfish. I wish I could get her to realize this. (I know I couldn't) What has pissed me off the most is the fact that she is calling me immature. She is 25 i'm 23 and she thinks that her age makes her more mature. I get so mad at this. I won't contact her trust me. Thanks again this site always helps me calm down. Hanging with not mutual friends is good. My friends make fun of her with me and we look at all the stuff she sent me. It helps you realize how ****ed up she is and how much your friends truly felt about her.
Author whatadeer26 Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Username- We don't have any mutual friends. She contacted one of my best friends who she only met a few times. In the conversation they had, he told her that I was confused about the situation and didn't understand what she wanted from me. So I thought it best not to reply to any of her messages.
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Thats a good thing dude. If she didnt give a **** then she wouldnt be getting wound up about it. Shes annoyed because you have control and wants it back now, and will probably start chasing So sit tight and do nothing
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