xtremegirl Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 When does the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship start to die down? My boyfriend and I were ALL over each other in the beginning, we could do no wrong, no flaws seen, we would ditch whatever and whoever just to see each other. Now that we live together, we are still very affectionate and close. But the being "all over eachother" and ditching whoever is a thing of the past. I'm not complaining, just curious about that stage. We get on eachothers nerves now, and all that. I am just hoping the honeymoon phase is over, and not our relationship failing.
Thierro Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 It depends on the couple. You can't really tell. Some people never seem to lose their spark. But 3 years is a popular number though and don't forget the 7 year itch. Try to talk about it with your boyfriend?
jamesum Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 SOmetimes its nice to just enjoy the honeymoon period to the fullest and when its over move on ,,,
denise_xo Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 When does the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship start to die down? My boyfriend and I were ALL over each other in the beginning, we could do no wrong, no flaws seen, we would ditch whatever and whoever just to see each other. Now that we live together, we are still very affectionate and close. But the being "all over eachother" and ditching whoever is a thing of the past. I'm not complaining, just curious about that stage. We get on eachothers nerves now, and all that. I am just hoping the honeymoon phase is over, and not our relationship failing. Well, my suggestion would be deal with this proactively - make sure you put effort into recreating your relationship, go on dates together, be conscious of putting aside time for each other, think of ways in which you nourish the love and affection. When you are in love, these things come 'by themselves' and once the honeymoon phase is over it's easy to forget that maintaining a healthy relationship actually requires work... Good luck!
LoveLace Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Simply sounds like maintenance phase has kicked in...like Denise said the honeymoon phase creates itself, after that we have to work at it. Not suggesting work to make it how it "used to be"...just working to put aside time to feel special to each other when you can.
Green Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 When does the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship start to die down? My boyfriend and I were ALL over each other in the beginning, we could do no wrong, no flaws seen, we would ditch whatever and whoever just to see each other. Now that we live together, we are still very affectionate and close. But the being "all over eachother" and ditching whoever is a thing of the past. I'm not complaining, just curious about that stage. We get on eachothers nerves now, and all that. I am just hoping the honeymoon phase is over, and not our relationship failing. I don't think there is any set period of time but for me it ended around 7 months. I used the ammount of sex as an indicator. In the honey moon phase it was sex when ever I wanted. In the morning, before bed, even in the middle of the day. Then it cooled down and in my mind that was the end of the honey moon phase. Then of course there were the fights about little things that wouldn't have bothered either of us before. The fact that you are out of the honey moon phase and are still togather is a good sign. Living togather may have helped speed up the end of the honey moon phase. It depends on the couple. You can't really tell. Some people never seem to lose their spark. But 3 years is a popular number though and don't forget the 7 year itch. Try to talk about it with your boyfriend? 3 years are you insane. No way you have experienced the type of intense sex twice a day more then 1 year. even going an entire year would be insane. The 7 year itch is about cheating or a relationship failing and to me has nothing to do with the honey moon phase. SOmetimes its nice to just enjoy the honeymoon period to the fullest and when its over move on ,,, Haha this sounds like a lonely way to live life and I'm suprised you can enter the honey moon phase with this kind of attitude. But makes me wonder... what if ur right Well, my suggestion would be deal with this proactively - make sure you put effort into recreating your relationship, go on dates together, be conscious of putting aside time for each other, think of ways in which you nourish the love and affection. When you are in love, these things come 'by themselves' and once the honeymoon phase is over it's easy to forget that maintaining a healthy relationship actually requires work... Good luck! Simply sounds like maintenance phase has kicked in...like Denise said the honeymoon phase creates itself, after that we have to work at it. Not suggesting work to make it how it "used to be"...just working to put aside time to feel special to each other when you can. I think the period right after the honey phase when the first silly arguments happen are the worst. You can enter a time of better understanding and satisfaction after the honey moon phase if you are lucky.
LoveLace Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 SOmetimes its nice to just enjoy the honeymoon period to the fullest and when its over move on ,,, No problem, if you are a person who doesn't want to have a life partner. But if you want to be in something for the long haul, it's inevitable that the honeymoon will end and effort is required to bring the spark after that...
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