Lost_little_Angel Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 My bf and I have been together for over a year bow but I have an issue. Last year about 3 months into our relationship he met someone else. When they initially began speaking he told me that she was just a co worker having a rough time with her family and bf so he was just being friendly but alarms were going off in my head so I kept a close eye on it. She would text him at 8 a.m every morning... Then I started getting emails on facebook from her pretending to be someone else but claiming to be with my bf. After like 2 weeks of messages and phone calls it finally came out that he had hung out with her and lied about it. When confronted he said that they were just friends and he had no idea that she had feeling for him & he had no feeling for her.even .though I knew better I dropped it. But two months later she was still harassing me and I took a trip to get away but it only made things worse. She claimed to have slept with him while I was away and the very same day that I came back he picked me up and when I opened the car door her bank card fell on my shoes. He said that it must have been from the only time he hung out with her and again I dropped it even though I wasn't sure about it. For months she continued by leaving him voicemails claiming to be pregnant and I only know because I checked his phone while he was asleep. We almost broke up a lot of times because of her but got over it. Anyways finally in April she sent me a sonogram picture on facebook saying she was 4 months pregnant and in 5 months I'll know the truth. This month makes 5 months and even though I know she isn't pregnant and only said that to hurt me it's on my mind. Question is:: am I being immature by not being able to forget her or is it just to much to forget??
Space Ritual Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Young Lady, What you have here is a snapshot of the future of your relationship with this fool. I am afraid that you need to understand that all the incidents and lying point to less than savory behavior by your BF. How do you know that she is indeed not pregnant? Are you seriously going to believe your BF after all the deceit AND the fact the girls bankcard just happened to fall on your shoes? I mean he must keep a really dirty car or there must have been a gust of wind that blew right through the car the second you opened it, lifted the card form under the seat and deposited it RIGHT ON YOUR SHOE!!! I am sorry but the fact that you have decided to write on this forum is a clear indication that you already know the answer. If he didn't block her on FB and went through all "she is just a friend" and then lied to you about seeing her, I think if you believe this is all innocent and coincidence on his part I have some oceanfront property in Kansas to sell you. I am sorry you are going through this but as the old adage goes "he who has nothing to hide, hides nothing". Do yourself a favor and get away from this guy as soon as possible. I guarantee you that if you don't there will be more revelations and most likely other girls that will eventually come out of the woodwork. You only have a year invested in him, imagine what you would be feeling if you were engaged or worse, married?
Author Lost_little_Angel Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Thank you for your response... I know she isn't pregnant because of a picture of her that was recently posted online and there was zero stomach...but as for my relationship I constantly second guess myself... We already live together and I guess I'm scared to completely change my life around (
Ilovecake Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I'm sorry but are you insane? Why are you sticking around this douche? Have some self respect girl and stop being a complete doormat to someone who doesn't give acrap about you. He cheated, he's still cheating and he's going to continue cheating. Why shouldn't he, you've completely given him the go ahead. I would be embarest to still be with a guy like him.
Ilovecake Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Thank you for your response... I know she isn't pregnant because of a picture of her that was recently posted online and there was zero stomach...but as for my relationship I constantly second guess myself... We already live together and I guess I'm scared to completely change my life around ( You don't know if she is or she isn't pregnant, some girls don't even show until the last two months or so. If she's not pregnant now she will be real soon and then you'll be a step mom to their kid. How exciting. Oh yeah you might want to consider getting a full STD test done and definitely an AIDS test every six months.
lilyy.12 Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 i must agree.& yes how can u really tell she is not pregnant. & as for your bf something must had happened for her to be so obssesed he did somehing to provoke her. darling i dont know you. but no once deserves this.okai. there are sum good guys out there.dont look for the right guy let him find you!
stargirlxo Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Oh my God... Even if she's not pregnant, why would she leave voicemails on his phone, FOR HIM, if they hadn't slept together? It's not like thats directed at you, so why would she do it if they hadn't slept together? And does it not seem like a huge coincidence that her card was in the car all that time and happened to fall out so soon after she said they slept together? If he had nothing to hide, he would have let you go to the scan, obviously. The fact that he said "no you cannot come, because I have nothing to hide" is an incredibly stupid excuse and I can't believe you bought it. He lied about hanging out with her, why? How did she know you were away when she claims to have slept with him anyway? Your either being extremely gullible about it all, or you actually don't care that he cheated, not enought to leave him anyway.
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