AudiHax Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Please help me. I honestly don't know where or who else to turn to. I'm 23 years old and have been in a LDR with my boyfriend for 6 years. He's 21 and lives in the US while I live in Ireland. Yesterday I came back from seeing him. I spent 2 months with him having the best time of our lives, and the farewell yesterday was torture that I actually threw up twice because of how bad/horrible/sad/frightened I was to leave him. He's currently going to college and will be for the next 2-3 years. I am finished a 2 year college course, but it's just a certificate, nothing big. I have searched high and low on ways to be together, but it's so hard to get a work visa without qualifications. He doesn't want to get a fiance visa yet because he is still in college, which is understandable. So he has suggested I come to the US to study at a community college while we live together. I loved his idea but my family doesn't have the money for that. I know colleges in the US are really expensive and they wouldn't hand out financial aid to international students. So again, that option isn't something I can't easily do. I feel so lonely now that I'm back home. I miss him more than words can describe and not knowing when we will see each other again is killing me. I have bad thoughts about hurting myself, so that I wouldn't have to live with this pain anymore of feeling so lonely and frightened. I want to be with him, but I just can't find a way for that to happen. I don't want to be here by myself anymore. 6 years is already way too long, and I don't know how many more days I can go on feeling so miserable without him. Please help me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Please...
madjac74 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 er again is killing me. I have bad thoughts about hurting myself, so that I wouldn't have to live with this pain anymore of feeling so lonely and frightened. QUOTE] Hurting yourself certainly wont solve anything. You have managed for 6 yrs so keep fighting til you find a solution.
aerogurl87 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Actually community colleges here are fairly cheap even for international students. I think the one near me is like 3,500 a semester and that's like going to an in state four year university here.
carvidep Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 definitely don't hurt yourself hun. a good way to forget the pain here and there is to distract yourself. in your case I'd recommend researching your options, which I'm sure you have done a lot of already. have you looked into any exchange programs? is there some sort of grant that you could apply for in the US in which you could provide some sort of service and/or work on your studies? I know how it feels when you've done so much searching yet there seems to be no hope. But I guarantee you that there is a way for you to be together, and you'll find it. Definitely talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. he may be able to help you sift through more ideas.
Els Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 You could try searching out the Working Holiday Visa ; not sure if the USA has one for your country, but it's worth a shot. You don't typically need qualifications for that as you'll be doing menial/temp jobs.
TMichaels Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 AudiHax, The U.S. and Ireland recently initiated a special Work and Intern program that could enable you to spend 12 months in America if you are currently enrolled or have recently graduated from a post-secondary academic program. For basic details look here. Don't waste your time thinking negative thoughts. Instead spend your energy on finding a way to make this program or another work for you. As others have inferred: "Where there's will, there's ALWAYS a way..." Best of luck, TMichaels
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