How to get better at talking to women?

[gothamcity]

Hey guys,

I am kinda new at this. I really want to learn how to talk to women and have a long and lasting relationship. Any ideas on how to approach and chat up women in public places?

 

Thanks,

Gotham

[Thierro]

Only thing you need is the experience by doing.

 

1. Start with saying hello to people that are passing by.

2. Dial some random numbers and pretend the following;

 

'He John, how are you doing?

'You have called the wrong number, i'm not John'

'Damn, well, could you help me out anyway? I tried calling my friend John for a movie recommendation, but maybe you can help me out here too!'

 

Just do it. It’s good practice for getting rejected. Some people are bothered by it, but some love to share their thoughts.

 

3. Try to start small conversations randomly in your hometown. Saying that you are new here and need some cool places to visit.

 

4. Ask women for opinions

 

Just get out and talk and talk and talk. It’s very hard in the beginning, but once you get the hang of it, you are going to be just fine. If you stay strong and keep practicing, you will signifanctly improve your convo skills.

 

Good luck mate.

 

Google some of David Deangelo’s work.

[bac]

Hey guys,

I am kinda new at this. I really want to learn how to talk to women and have a long and lasting relationship. Any ideas on how to approach and chat up women in public places?

 

Thanks,

Gotham

 

What piblic places do you have in mind? It should be the right place and the right situation when women expect you to approach and start the long conversation.

[Feelin Frisky]

Hey guys,

I am kinda new at this. I really want to learn how to talk to women and have a long and lasting relationship. Any ideas on how to approach and chat up women in public places?

 

Thanks,

Gotham

 

First, grow some dimples and learn how to smile.

[mendsley]

I too struggle with talking with and meeting women. When I do meet them I am so unsure of myself that they RUUUUUUUN! So I came across this not to long ago, maybe it can be some good information for you

 

http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/pick_up_women_with_confidence/index.php?cm_mmc=DailyDoseNL-_-2010_08_13-_-HTML-_-plus

[lilbunny]

Remember women are not so different. We get nervous too. Ask questions and listen to the response. I have a list of emergency date questions to get the chatter going and if they don't work I guess we aren't really on the same page anyway.

 

Do you have any opportunities to get to know women socially, purely for friendship? I'm thinking do you have mates with girlfriends you can chat to if you were to do things as a group? Even better could they bring a friend along to keep the numbers even? Make a bit of small talk with the girl at the checkout, waitress etc without an agenda then if the opportunity arises it is less out of your comfort zone talking to a woman you don't know.

 

Avoid dodgy chat up lines at all costs, they ALWAYS make someone sound lame, unless they come from someone you know very well with a quirky sense of humour and they know for a fact it will make you laugh. Most women do like genuine compliments (and can often spot forced ones), but don't over do it, gushing doesn't look so hot either!

 

Nobody has ever randomly approached me, outside of a bar/club environment. It isn't a common thing, at least where I live. I think I'd be made up if someone made that much effort to speak to me without Dutch courage! I would at least be flattered and very polite. If someone is rude and unpleasant back then you know they aren't going to make a great date anyway and have lost nothing!

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm no expert on initiating contact. But one piece of advice would be to carry yourself with self-assurance and don't blow opportunites that may present themselves. For instance, (assuming you're in public and some place on foot) someone may see you around and want to iniate with you but you have never noticed this woman before. She seems a complete stranger. She comes up to you and asks for directions--not knowing how else to approach you. Even if you're not going her way tell her you are: ala "I just happen to be going there, would you like me to show you the way?" She has gotten what she wants and you haven't blown an opportunity by giving her instruction on how to get somewhere local. That's an "oh, shi+, why am I not so hip?" after-thought situation. If you start walking with her it would be possible if your passing a food court or diner or something to say, "I was going to stop for a tea would you care to join me? Hot chocolate or something? if it's the cooler or cold months. Bottle of TrueBlood (blah blah vampire emergency blah) .

[denise_xo]

Hey guys,

I am kinda new at this. I really want to learn how to talk to women and have a long and lasting relationship. Any ideas on how to approach and chat up women in public places?

 

Thanks,

Gotham

 

Be confident.

Smile a lot.

Work that eye contact.

Say something genuine.

 

Good luck.

[Not the love ace]

I'm no expert on initiating contact. But one piece of advice would be to carry yourself with self-assurance and don't blow opportunites that may present themselves. For instance, (assuming you're in public and some place on foot) someone may see you around and want to iniate with you but you have never noticed this woman before. She seems a complete stranger. She comes up to you and asks for directions--not knowing how else to approach you. Even if you're not going her way tell her you are: ala "I just happen to be going there, would you like me to show you the way?" She has gotten what she wants and you haven't blown an opportunity by giving her instruction on how to get somewhere local. That's an "oh, shi+, why am I not so hip?" after-thought situation. If you start walking with her it would be possible if your passing a food court or diner or something to say, "I was going to stop for a tea would you care to join me? Hot chocolate or something? if it's the cooler or cold months. Bottle of TrueBlood (blah blah vampire emergency blah) .

 

Safe to assume you're a fellow fanatic of the show by the statements in bold I see?

 

Frisky is right though, carry yourself with confidence all the time. Back straight, chest out, shoulders up, head held high. I know it sounds too much, but when you walk with confidence you feel confident and ladies definitely are drawn to a man that has great posture. For me that has come naturally since I was a teenager because of my time spent in the ROTC, and I honestly carried myself like that till this day because women seem to comment on it a lot and in a good way.

 

I'm not an expert on talking to women but the key is being yourself, being proud of who you are and always being friendly to women. Another good thing is to smile all the time to a lady. Smiling is a very welcoming gesture and it'll make ladies easier for them to approach you.

[shayan]

talk to them like they are nothing special. Like they are normal people, just like your best friend. Women like it when you are comfortable and confident and aren't attention or approval seeking. So just talk to them like they are a close friend. It works!