support Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 After 4 years of a long distance relationship, we broke up mith my girlfriend. It was all started with her talks a month ago. She didnt know what to do cause she is 24 and she of course have having a family, marriage and child plans. We have no chance of doing that together. She wasnt able to tell me even some words at that time. I tried to calm her down, I told her she is right, we should end but slowly. During the last month I visited her again to talk about more, then 3 weeks later she came to me. We had a wonderful vacation and I tried to talk to her but everytime it was becoming mess, she was crying a lot. My purpose was to make a slow transition to end everything but it was so difficult. We had a chance to talk a few days only and then I said lets stop talking not to ruin our vocation. We did all the crazy thing we were doing (like having sex in the sea), having sex for 2 hours and she was having 100s of orgasms (I am serious:)) was so happy. We agreed to talk with emails when she returns back. I know she is right, we both love each other but it should end. We talked about some other options like continuing our relation until she finishes her 2nd masters but it was going to be so painful. There are of course other things beyond love. We met with her when she started her college. She was beautiful, nice personality but so weak. With my support in any sense she became a really strong person now. She has one masters already. She will start another one. I know she will need my support during this period but I told her to decide what to do. I told her the options and she decided that we should break up but stay friends. I told her that if we break up, we break up, no friends cz both of us cannot stand that pain of seeing the person but not being able to touch etc. I told her we should go NC, even she didnt want, she somehow agreed. She feels little bit guilty about her decision and she is so confused but we agreed on break up. I started the NC but since we have complicated relation, she sent me an sms today in the morning that "sorry to disturb but I have just 10$ left and you are the only one can help, inform me asap, if u can or not" I waited a lot to respond, then she sent so many messages that she started to worry about me etc. anyway, I replied then she sent another sms then asked to talk for 5 minutes, we talked and she said why I didnt reply on time etc I worried about you and I tried to be cold to her and end the call by "byes". I knew that she is broke cz of our vocation and she will need money and we already decided that we should solve her bills, rent etc together (for this month). So, I need advices how to handle NC and some advices about what to do in general also cz she needs me a lot not only economically, mentally also, I know it. I wanted her to think clearly about herself and life etc. I love her so much and she loves me so much but we decided what is realistic for her. I am so much confused that NC is not a good option here or the best option? Any advice appreciated
somedude81 Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 No no no no no. You shouldn't even consider supporting a girlfriend. But an ex that you were in a LDR with? Hell no. Tell her to get a job.
Author support Posted August 10, 2010 Author Posted August 10, 2010 No no no no no. You shouldn't even consider supporting a girlfriend. But an ex that you were in a LDR with? Hell no. Tell her to get a job. She has 2 jobs already but income is not enough to support her new studies. Since the final decision was hers, i shouldnt help her in any case?. What about NC? Actually, I would like her get back to me but it will be her decision.
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