Troubled15 Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 Ok here it goes: I had been going out with a girl for 10 months. Who meant so much to me and was very special im only 15 but my relationship with her was quite intense, we used to ring each other up everyday and we used to spend every spare minute in school and out together. Just before Christmas i sensed there was something wrong and we sat and talked about are relationship and i could see she wasn't happy so i asked her if breaking up was the best and we kinda came to a mutual agreement to break up, although i didn't want to i had too coz a relationship takes 2 to tango! At the time she was going through some tough things her nan died and she was busy working on two plays which could have affected her desision to not want to go out with me anymore. There was various reasons why we split up and she told me one of these was that we knew each other so well we began to take advantadge of each other like take are anger out on each other, so she said she didn't want us to end up hating each other soo we decided to end before things got worse so we ended on quite good terms and are good friends. She also kinda used the "spark" reason saying it wernt as good as it had been. She's my first love, And i really want her back! shes a beautiful person and i dont want to slip up by doing anymore wrong moves and lose her forever. All these things im experienced are new to me i'm not sure how i should be around her and how i should go around trying to get her back i have planned various things to do with her like stargaze togeothor take her to stuff she enjoys doing but im not sure when i should do them! Its half term and she said she'd like to see me so we've aranged to do something. i wanna do something which will make her happy but im not sure what and i want good things to happen out of it and not bad. I know getting her back wont be easy but id do anything for her its been about a month or 2 and im willing to wait many more months to try and win her back thank you if you have read this far- many of this wont make sense but id love to hear some feedback aswell as advice on what i should and could do etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
havehope31 Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 Listen, I know you are only 15, but your feelings are very real. I have been there more times than I care to share. I dated a girl for 7 years starting when I was 16, lasting through college and into law school. She broke my heart but I think I did some breaking of my own. I was devastated for about a year after the breakup never thinking that I would ever meet someone like her again. I did meet someone else, I actually met lots of people since her. She was my first love and I'll never forget her or the lessons learned. If this is your first love you may just be feeling like you don't know what to do or maybe you just don't know how to handle it. You will be fine. Try to keep yourself busy. Don't feel sorry for yourself, stay fit, maintain a healthy lifestyle. I promise the pain will go away, you just have to let it go. You never really know what is going to happen down the road. You have become familiar with a road you were on with this girl. Now you are on a new road without her. Give the new road a chance. It's ok to feel badly now, mourn the pain, then move on. You will find that there are so many others out there who have been in these lonely shoes with you. Just give yourself a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Hendrix Posted February 22, 2004 Share Posted February 22, 2004 well a few weeks back my gf broke up with me - needing time on her own etc beaks and stuff id didnt wanna i think shes gr8 but we went out for 2 half years we started goin out when i was 15.... she was my first girlfriend and first person who really knew me so im finding it very hard and its in a different post... The "hard breakup" one so read that one... but im finding hard to get over it i know i have to but jus read the other post! but havehope said what i was thinkin + im kinda in same situation to... =/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Troubled15 Posted February 23, 2004 Author Share Posted February 23, 2004 Yo, i just read your post about your break up its a ****ing bummer man . its really annoying that this ****s ****ing u up you dont deserve it. Im not really coping very well about not going out with my ex either. the way i look at it if somthings worth it dont give up, i'm just holding that small bit of hope just carry on goin on with your life if she dosnt come back just go on with life and if She does Jackpot probably rong way to look at it but nevermind!! If shes worth it dont give up man! if she's ure first chick maybe she just wants to date other people. well . Just be yourself and be the person she was attracted too in the first place she could come back your her first love and shes yours, just hope for the future and stay on good terms with her. Im not really sure what im on about im only 15 soo the advice isnt too experienced just the way im looking at things really!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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