aloneatnights Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 MM turned up at my house. no contact was total non contact. anyway his marriage is still rubbish, no sex etc (according to him) and yet they have bought a house together last year. which has put me firmly in my place i told him to jog on and not to bother me again else i would have no choice to tell his wife and spill everything including what happened 3 years agof. sp apart from feeling diisappointed for a couple of days, i felt absolutely nothing, no attraction and not even an ounce of respect for him, which is weird considering i thought about him an awful lot during the years. disappointed for what could have been and lost feelings or wasting my time thinking of him i suppose. anyway, bottom line is, i've gotten my emotional house in order and men taken in any shape or form are now well and truely off the menu for me good luck all whatever the outcome for you, wishing you all the best
siuys Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Wow, 3 years on... and he tells you he bought a house with his wife. What a loser! What is wrong with him? You are right and am pleased you feel nothing. Not worth wasting another thought on him. If someone is not strong enough to leave a lousy marriage, and even buy a house together, well, what can I say? Good luck to them. You deserve better. It's his loss, definitely not yours. My MM just told me he is going back to his wife a week ago. He's tortured me enough this past six months. I'm on the road to recovery albeit a slow one. I am so pleased it has only been six months, and not six years. I told him to get stuffed essentially the other day when he broke the NC rule by sending me an sms and set me back a week. They are soooo unbelievably selfish. I think if you truly love someone in this situation, you let them go in peace. They've already done so much damage why can't they just walk away? Coz they are selfish and can only think of themselves and how they might miss you. jerks! Sorry about the rant, I am just angry - at my situation as well as yours! Good grief!
YellowShark Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 If they're married, separated, recently divorced... don't get involved because they will ruin you. Plenty of single guys on Earth that don't carry the baggage those type of men carry. And if they are cheating on their spouse, they WILL eventually cheat on you. Those are the two constants I have learned by reading this forum.
Silly_Girl Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 How bizarre, to turn up like that. And well done you!!!!!!
TigerCub Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Good for you aloneatnights!!! I'm very happy for you that you're at the point where you see the MM for being selfish and you're not allowing yourself to get sucked back into all that darkness & drama!! I'm trying really hard to do just like you. I'm very happy for you
bentnotbroken Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 That's called leaving the garbage on the curb for trash day.
desertIslandCactus Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 MM turned up at my house. no contact was total non contact. anyway his marriage is still rubbish, no sex etc (according to him) and yet they have bought a house together last year. which has put me firmly in my place i told him to jog on and not to bother me again else i would have no choice to tell his wife and spill everything including what happened 3 years agof. sp apart from feeling diisappointed for a couple of days, i felt absolutely nothing, no attraction and not even an ounce of respect for him, which is weird considering i thought about him an awful lot during the years. disappointed for what could have been and lost feelings or wasting my time thinking of him i suppose. anyway, bottom line is, i've gotten my emotional house in order and men taken in any shape or form are now well and truely off the menu for me good luck all whatever the outcome for you, wishing you all the best "I've gotten my emotional house in order". Now that is a biggee. The LS stories (over and over), are lack of having emotional house in order. A woman with all of her passion, nurturing, is free to save it for the one who will return her love fully, and with both partners being on the same page.
Confused4Now Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 "I've gotten my emotional house in order". Now that is a biggee. The LS stories (over and over), are lack of having emotional house in order. A woman with all of her passion, nurturing, is free to save it for the one who will return her love fully, and with both partners being on the same page.Don't forget us men who went through this tooo!!!
desertIslandCactus Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Don't forget us men who went through this tooo!!! Absolutely, the men as well. I think women are more talkative, communicative than men, so on LS (and in my own world) it just seems like it happens more to women than to men.
Author aloneatnights Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 he turned up tues night, i gave him my number and we text each other weds and thurs and suddenly i thought 'what the hell am i doing?' so friday told him to lose my number and not bother me. saturday went to a party, got very drunk and cried my eyes out but by sunday got it all out of my system. and now i feel at peace with myself and have decided to accept nothing less than meaningful and with potential to be more. probably be celibate for a while now but i have finally realised my own worth after a tough time. i'm hoping to meet someone willing to put the effort and time in getting to know me as a person, the physical stuff will follow when its right for both. meanwhile, i just got a young dog, i go solo camping and read a lot lol. the point i'm trying to make.. is do things for yourself and make your own time, take the focus off him/her. its not easy but so much worthwhile when you refind yourself
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