PairPlusMiniRoyal Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 (edited) I'm not exactly the most experienced guy with women, even at the age of 23. Most of my time has been spent on political things and prepping for law school, which I am attending in the Fall. Even though I SWORE I would not get sucked into a relationship during this summer leading to my first year(I'm moving to a law school an hour away, plus there are the time commitments that would make a relationship hard to sustain) While chasing this nice Christian girl ANYWAY, I fell for a friend of hers that I though had similar values. Turns out she is from a very rough background and has been sexually active(in the most whorish way possible) since 9th grade if not earlier. She is the kind of girl that will get drunk and **** every weekend because of how "vulnerable" she is. The kind of girl that understands what Tiger Woods' was going through, with around 40 prior partners(yes, she kept count!) I love an underdog, and this did not phase me in the slightest. It helped that she has probably the nicest natural body I've ever seen and a great personality. I'm a big reader and like to discuss deep issues, and she actually held my attention unlike most women. Even though I knew she was not over her ex of three years, I pursued her. I was really just looking to have fun and hone my skills DJ style. In spite of all the red flags that we have totally different values, we started dating and things started moving REALLY fast. I even used the L-word like 3 weeks in, and she would lead me on with some VERY generic emotional affirmations, claiming that she was interested in keeping our relationship through law school. We had sex on the second date and made out pretty often. I thought that she really liked me, because I am a "nice" guy with a great future. I guess I should have seen that it might have been a rebound relationship because of how fast things moved, but I didn't find out about those until now. I knew she was still trying to get back with her ex, but I honestly didn't care. So I was madly in love with her by the time she had told me that this other guy(who she had cheated on her 3 yr boyfriend with) had been trying to make contact with her. She seem pissed at him so I didn't really mind it. One friday, she gets all *****y at me when I ask her if she wants to go bar hopping, but I didn't pay her much mind. She drunk calls me later and says she met with that guy and he tried to "bend her over" but she didn't let him. Red flags, but I'm buzzed and still blinded. The next morning, 2 hours before a trip I had planned a month before where I threw down BIG money, she tells me she kissed him. I asked her if she liked him, and she says "sort of, but not as much as you." Totally devastated, but I hid it and we had a pretty good time on the trip, until I got drunk and was unable to perform that night or the morning after. I don't know if it was my underlying anger, nerves, or nausea from the hangover the next morning, but I just couldnt get it up. It was the first time we had sex with the lights on and sober. So basically I get no return on my investment and she continues with this cold war bull****, not returning my texts and generally avoiding me. I though I blew it with the ED thing, but after talking to friends who were players they told me that there is no WAY she has not experienced that before and that she was just trying to guilt trip me. I really lost some respect from my friends for not ending the relationship right then and there. I told her how devastated I was about finding out about this other guy and that I was no longer in love with her although I still had strong feelings for her, and she apologized. Since then, she has been more or less avoiding meeting me in public unless she is drunk, high, or needs a workout partner. We went to a bar the other night and as soon as she started talking to me alone she looked like she almost burst into tears but downed some vodka to avoid it. Now she is telling me she loves me for the first time(whatever that means) but continues to avoid me. She lied to me and told me that I drunk-texted her that I loved her, which I know for a fact I did not do. She is one of those ***** types that finds some sliver of morality to hold on to, and hers used to be never lying. At least she now thinks I am worth lying to rather than telling me she likes other men! She asked me to go with her to this bar with her family(get along with them great) and then told me that the other guy she likes might show up. I told her to **** off, basically, my proudest moment I guess. She wanted to see me later that night. But yesterday, she wouldn't even return my text to tell me whether she was available for food. I am suspecting that she is afraid of hurting me, but I really don't know what is going on. I am moving to law school in 5 days and I am totally lovesick. She told me that she was willing to make the semi-distance relationship work weeks ago, but that was before all the bull****. Every time she doesn't respond to a text I'm devastated, and then once she texts me some of her bull**** I get all high again. I think if texting didnt exist I would be over her by now, because I am sooo used to just having someone to talk to all the time. I don't think I can be a DJ because I just don't have the capacity to be bitter towards her, although I have every reason to be bitter and talking to friends about her and reading this site have helped me not see her with rose colored glasses. Bitterness helps! How do I get over her, at least to the point of indifference? I have to get her out of my head before law school starts! Edited August 9, 2010 by PairPlusMiniRoyal
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