Author exclusive. Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 Day 4 > 1 Bad times, my ex got in contact with me telling me she missed me and was scared of life without me. Over massive long winded talks from them on, it came down to this text... Im sorry, I needed you as a friend but I understand. I won't contact you from now on I promise okay? Im so sorry Elliott. x I really hope she sticks to it, why she would tell me such things as missing me and scared to lose me I dont know but it sure as hell hurt. Well she has her music festival tickets now and there really is no need to contact me whatsoever anymore... It has been one really horrible emotional roller coaster ride and I never wanted my love to end with her but she doesn't want it for reasons I really don't understand. Hopefully now my heart can begin to mend but my god... I miss her deeply.
9Lives Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Day 4 > 1 Bad times, my ex got in contact with me telling me she missed me and was scared of life without me. Over massive long winded talks from them on, it came down to this text... Im sorry, I needed you as a friend but I understand. I won't contact you from now on I promise okay? Im so sorry Elliott. x I really hope she sticks to it, why she would tell me such things as missing me and scared to lose me I dont know but it sure as hell hurt. Well she has her music festival tickets now and there really is no need to contact me whatsoever anymore... It has been one really horrible emotional roller coaster ride and I never wanted my love to end with her but she doesn't want it for reasons I really don't understand. Hopefully now my heart can begin to mend but my god... I miss her deeply. I know what it feels like to miss someone very badly and want to work it out. if she left you, then she is stronger than u right now okay. so now what can u do to get your strength back? don't contact her anymore okay. no contact means no new pain. these feelings of pain has a time limit but if u keep calling, texting, and all that ...it prolongs it! I know this from experience. the best thing to do is don't contact her. see nc is a place of shelter for you. anything she doing and got going on is too much for u to handle right now so get lost and ty to enjoy your peace of mind instead. let her go
Author exclusive. Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 Days 1 & 2 Okay, so I had an immensly crazy weekend. Partying with my mates, football, social gartherings... it was all brilliant, I still have my exes number but I didnt text her when I was drunk - which is always a good sign! Unfortunately though, as soon as the busy weekend came to a halt last night her memory came steaming back into my mind. I had a dream that seemed to last the whole night too.. it was simply just me dreaming about us being back together. It was horrible. I really don't feel right lately, Im unemployed from university and I feel that when I get a job things will become better, but I just feel so god damn unhappy.... I feel a bit lost.
BigProc Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I hate the dreams. They are awful, especially when you keep waking up, realisingits just a dream and you're not really back with her. Then you fall back into exactly the same dream
leftfield Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I've just read through this whole thread trying to pick out a few pearls of wisdom to help me deal with my situation. Sounds a though you are dealing with this really well exclusive, so I admire your courage and honesty to lay it all out on here for others to read. Thank you. I haven't spoken to my ex for a week now, but it feels like so much longer. It's not easy going NC, but I know it's for the best in the long run. I really wanted her back for the first month after we split, but after reading threads like this one and several others I realise that it is just time for me to get on with my life. I've been rather struggling with that today though for some reason. I need to get some work done but I can't get her out of my head. Aaaargghhh, leave my synapses alone woman, haven't you done enough!!! Anyway, as a fellow festival goer, here are some motivational song lyrics from Yeasayer: Now, the world can be an unfair place at times But your lows will have their complement of highs And if anyone should cheat you, take advantage of, or beat you Raise your head and wear your wounds with pride You must stick up for yourself, son Never mind what anybody else done
9Lives Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I've just read through this whole thread trying to pick out a few pearls of wisdom to help me deal with my situation. Sounds a though you are dealing with this really well exclusive, so I admire your courage and honesty to lay it all out on here for others to read. Thank you. I haven't spoken to my ex for a week now, but it feels like so much longer. It's not easy going NC, but I know it's for the best in the long run. I really wanted her back for the first month after we split, but after reading threads like this one and several others I realise that it is just time for me to get on with my life. I've been rather struggling with that today though for some reason. I need to get some work done but I can't get her out of my head. Aaaargghhh, leave my synapses alone woman, haven't you done enough!!! Anyway, as a fellow festival goer, here are some motivational song lyrics from Yeasayer: Now, the world can be an unfair place at times But your lows will have their complement of highs And if anyone should cheat you, take advantage of, or beat you Raise your head and wear your wounds with pride You must stick up for yourself, son Never mind what anybody else done But you know what Leftfield, I know it hurts and sucks and all that but imagine feelings JUST like this for 3 freaking years. Major rollercoaster ride dude and I promise you, its not worth it. You are at a good place. If she is not showing you any signs that she wants to work this out.. fk it! I do mean fk it! It is better to know and get on with your life then to drag it all out.
leftfield Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 But you know what Leftfield, I know it hurts and sucks and all that but imagine feelings JUST like this for 3 freaking years. Major rollercoaster ride dude and I promise you, its not worth it. You are at a good place. If she is not showing you any signs that she wants to work this out.. fk it! I do mean fk it! It is better to know and get on with your life then to drag it all out. You're absolutely right 9Lives, it's not worth it. I'm actually quite surprised at how quickly I've got to that realisation, but then I must say that coming here and reading the posts and comments has really helped me in that respect. Despite the pain I've felt today and the fact that I've been missing her like crazy all day, I still haven't contacted her. Unfortunately I did hear via a friend (who was hopelessly trying to make me feel better) that she has posted something on her Facebook status quoting some cheesy song lyric about breaking up - apparently referring to how hard it is for her too (bless her). I did point out to my friend that I don't need to hear any of that crap in future (I deactivated my Facebook account for a reason - which apart from anything else was the fact that I'm a grown up so I don't really know why I was wasting my time with it anyway). But if anything, this little 'status' revelation has just made me stronger and more determined to live my own life, in the real world, without caring who is doing (or quoting) what on f-ing Facebook. If she's seeking the comfort of her friends by posting cheesy break-up song lyrics for public consumption, then fine, I can understand that this probably isn't plain sailing for her either, but if she is hoping that I get to hear about it - despite going off the FB radar - then as you would say 9Lives, fk it! Her pain is not my problem. I do think it's very unlikely that she is trying to say something to me via 'the social medium', but like I say, I actually don't care. I just thought I would share this as proof to myself and others that progression toward ditching that emotional baggage is a realistic proposition with the right frame of mind and clear goals that involve a healthy dose of me, me, me!!!
9Lives Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 You're absolutely right 9Lives, it's not worth it. I'm actually quite surprised at how quickly I've got to that realisation, but then I must say that coming here and reading the posts and comments has really helped me in that respect. Despite the pain I've felt today and the fact that I've been missing her like crazy all day, I still haven't contacted her. Unfortunately I did hear via a friend (who was hopelessly trying to make me feel better) that she has posted something on her Facebook status quoting some cheesy song lyric about breaking up - apparently referring to how hard it is for her too (bless her). I did point out to my friend that I don't need to hear any of that crap in future (I deactivated my Facebook account for a reason - which apart from anything else was the fact that I'm a grown up so I don't really know why I was wasting my time with it anyway). But if anything, this little 'status' revelation has just made me stronger and more determined to live my own life, in the real world, without caring who is doing (or quoting) what on f-ing Facebook. If she's seeking the comfort of her friends by posting cheesy break-up song lyrics for public consumption, then fine, I can understand that this probably isn't plain sailing for her either, but if she is hoping that I get to hear about it - despite going off the FB radar - then as you would say 9Lives, fk it! Her pain is not my problem. I do think it's very unlikely that she is trying to say something to me via 'the social medium', but like I say, I actually don't care. I just thought I would share this as proof to myself and others that progression toward ditching that emotional baggage is a realistic proposition with the right frame of mind and clear goals that involve a healthy dose of me, me, me!!! Yup! and if your friend does that again...I would attack them very harshly cause the last thing you need to hear right now is something about her! You are at a volunerable spot right now and you dont need that sht! Just thinking about it burns me up cause small things can be so damaging emotionally right now. It like you are crawling back to your feet, the last thing you need is for someone to say the wrong thing and now you are back on your stomach hurting like a motherfker. Watch your friends. I just dont go to my fb right now. I cant take anything from it. nothing at all. It is so painful. I cant deal with it. Yeah but like i said, you are being so smart despite your pains. You are handling yourself like a champion! Someone is going to be luck to have you and if you meet another chic and she starts acting like a fruitcake...make crumbcake out of her!! Dont be nobodys fool anymore if you can help it.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Days 1 & 2 Okay, so I had an immensly crazy weekend. Partying with my mates, football, social gartherings... it was all brilliant, I still have my exes number but I didnt text her when I was drunk - which is always a good sign! Unfortunately though, as soon as the busy weekend came to a halt last night her memory came steaming back into my mind. I had a dream that seemed to last the whole night too.. it was simply just me dreaming about us being back together. It was horrible. I really don't feel right lately, Im unemployed from university and I feel that when I get a job things will become better, but I just feel so god damn unhappy.... I feel a bit lost. I had my first dream about my ex the other night.. I hate those... I dreamed I was carrying him around.. Yeah I wonder what that symbolizes. It's good that you didn't text her! Especially when you were drunk! That shows alot of self control. I hope it gets better for you It sucks that you are so unhappy.. I have a feeling that stage is coming for me soon... I am in the angry stage right now and milking it and hoping it lasts for ever. Good luck exclusive!
Lost Fish Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Hey exclusive., just checking in. I hope you're doing alright man. Let us know how it's going.
Author exclusive. Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Hey exclusive., just checking in. I hope you're doing alright man. Let us know how it's going. Sorry for the very long delay! I have been a very busy man. Well basically, up until recently I have been ignoring my ex and funny enough... yup! she contacted me again! She told me that she was really ill and couldnt go to the festival (which happened this weekend gone) but had to because he friend was travelling a fair way to go with her. She went to her mum crying her eyes out who didnt even hug her and only told her she had to go... and went on to say she was so sorry for contacting me but she realises im the only person in the world that trully cares for her. Cut long conversation between her and me short, she only still wants a friend and that she broke up with me because she was 100% I was the one and if she's not 100% sure, then I can't be... What kind of crap is that? LOL. Alas! Dont dispair guys... if anything, her contacting me has made me pity her, what she has to say is obvious to me that yes, I am the only person who clearly cares about her seeing as her ex boyfriend cheated on her 7 times and her mum is a controlling bitch. But I am getting bored of what she has to say to me. Her messages dont bother me anymore because its the same thing. I am clearly pulling away and she is clearly losing control but at the end of the day, everyone needs to realise that when an ex breaks up with you. No matter how much they contact you or bug you... they're not coming back, its just because they dont have attention from anyone else. On the plus side, I met two girls at V festival - one of which I had a drunken one night stand (oops!) and the other in process of maybe attaining a date this weekend. Another girl in another city saying she wants to see me. Clearly, my ex has made a silly silly mistake and is obviously too delusional to realise. Her loss.
Lost Fish Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Awesome! Glad to see you are finding your way man.
a.lyons1 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Sorry for the very long delay! I have been a very busy man. Well basically, up until recently I have been ignoring my ex and funny enough... yup! she contacted me again! She told me that she was really ill and couldnt go to the festival (which happened this weekend gone) but had to because he friend was travelling a fair way to go with her. She went to her mum crying her eyes out who didnt even hug her and only told her she had to go... and went on to say she was so sorry for contacting me but she realises im the only person in the world that trully cares for her. Cut long conversation between her and me short, she only still wants a friend and that she broke up with me because she was 100% I was the one and if she's not 100% sure, then I can't be... What kind of crap is that? LOL. Alas! Dont dispair guys... if anything, her contacting me has made me pity her, what she has to say is obvious to me that yes, I am the only person who clearly cares about her seeing as her ex boyfriend cheated on her 7 times and her mum is a controlling bitch. But I am getting bored of what she has to say to me. Her messages dont bother me anymore because its the same thing. I am clearly pulling away and she is clearly losing control but at the end of the day, everyone needs to realise that when an ex breaks up with you. No matter how much they contact you or bug you... they're not coming back, its just because they dont have attention from anyone else. On the plus side, I met two girls at V festival - one of which I had a drunken one night stand (oops!) and the other in process of maybe attaining a date this weekend. Another girl in another city saying she wants to see me. Clearly, my ex has made a silly silly mistake and is obviously too delusional to realise. Her loss. Is right lad, stupid girl playing stupid games. Take ths rship slowly, date once a week and dont have sex until you feel the rship can go further. Women respect that and will be begging for more. Let us know how things go.
Author exclusive. Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Is right lad, stupid girl playing stupid games. Take ths rship slowly, date once a week and dont have sex until you feel the rship can go further. Women respect that and will be begging for more. Let us know how things go. Haha, the girl I slept with at the festival clearly knew thats all she wanted. I didn't care really...but your right, the next girl I starting courting will not get my heart so quickly unless she acts like she deserves it.
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