Author exclusive. Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 It's like a desperate attempt before the end, my subconscious losing control over thoughts of her.
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 DUUUUDE!! After the advice you just gave me , if you end up contacting her you may aswell chop your dick off and hand it to her to lock away. U from the UK dude? Get yourself to the states. You open your mouth over there with an english accent and your sleepin with a model, no jokes
fearthepinkmist Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Day 2 - Part 2, end. Okay, so for some reason every bloody little thing is reminding me of my ex Jessica today/tonight. It's driving me round the bend! Every advert, tv programme, facebook status, picture...somehow relates to a memory of her. Anyone else having this at the moment? URGH! Anyways, I have stood strong and havent made contact. Hopefully, this will pass soon as is it is bloody not enjoyable. I have a busy weekend coming up, so I shall set my sights on that! It's ok me too.. same with Matt. That is why I started on this forum today.. everything. Started watching this movie that was about an austitc kid and in turned into be about an austic guy falling in love... and it was an avalanche after that. Oh yeah and now my little sister is making watch Remember Me.. Im just hoping Robert Pattison (the guy that plays in the Twilight movies, if you know them) sparkles me to death.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 DUUUUDE!! After the advice you just gave me , if you end up contacting her you may aswell chop your dick off and hand it to her to lock away. U from the UK dude? Get yourself to the states. You open your mouth over there with an english accent and your sleepin with a model, no jokes Yeah pretty much. Anything with a britsh/irish accent just about makes all of us american girls go crazy.
Thierro Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 It's like a desperate attempt before the end, my subconscious losing control over thoughts of her. I just sat down in front of the TV and after 1 minute watching someone shouted her name. Only thing I can do about it is to try to see how ridiculous these reminders are and laugh it off.
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Thierro is right. Come on guys. The best thing a guy can do is accept it and move on. We are all sounding like a bunch of pussies. These forums are GREAT because as guys we arent allowed to ever show feelings to friends or tell them whats going on in our head. But with that, lets remember that we are men and we control what we do, dont get wallowed down with coming on here, get out there and meet some more women
fearthepinkmist Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Well some of us are girls. But you do have a point about getting over it... hope your good day passes over here a little so I can start thinking like that. I love when I get into one of those you-know-what-eff-you kinda moods basically. I finally feel free for once.
Author exclusive. Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 Haha, you are right - it's reasonably funny how minute or stupid these reminders are.
Thierro Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Well some of us are girls. But you do have a point about getting over it... hope your good day passes over here a little so I can start thinking like that. I love when I get into one of those you-know-what-eff-you kinda moods basically. I finally feel free for once. Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us. We need the right introspection and the good amount of self-love to develop an everlasting 'you-know-what-eff-you' state.
Thierro Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Haha, you are right - it's reasonably funny how minute or stupid these reminders are. Let's soar with the eagles and left the turkeys behind.
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Well some of us are girls. But you do have a point about getting over it... hope your good day passes over here a little so I can start thinking like that. I love when I get into one of those you-know-what-eff-you kinda moods basically. I finally feel free for once. Its funny though isnt it how your moods go round in circles. I remember when i broke up with the girl who just broke up with me. I would get a text on monday saying why did i never love her. A text on tuesday saying she was now over it. Then a text weds calling me every name under the sun. This pushed me so far away it was ridiculous, and she was about the hottest girl in the whole town. She won Miss ****** where i am from. I should have been begging HER to date ME. But the good thing is, if you feel like doing that, come on here and do it lol And they will just think your dealing with it. Meanwhile , they probably dont have this kind of support and will just be getting **** advice
fearthepinkmist Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Its funny though isnt it how your moods go round in circles. I remember when i broke up with the girl who just broke up with me. I would get a text on monday saying why did i never love her. A text on tuesday saying she was now over it. Then a text weds calling me every name under the sun. This pushed me so far away it was ridiculous, and she was about the hottest girl in the whole town. She won Miss ****** where i am from. I should have been begging HER to date ME. But the good thing is, if you feel like doing that, come on here and do it lol And they will just think your dealing with it. Meanwhile , they probably dont have this kind of support and will just be getting **** advice Yeah see as guys yall are lucky you don't have that problem.. it is called hormones and yeah they are SUPER fun. While you can't milk the emotional crap you don't have the fun girl hormones that make the whole week an emotional roller coaster.
Author exclusive. Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 No, some of us guys also have weeks like that it's what addiction does to you...that's what I call it when the dumpee can't let go.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 No, some of us guys also have weeks like that it's what addiction does to you...that's what I call it when the dumpee can't let go. You really think relationships or love is addiction?
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 You really think relationships or love is addiction? I think its much harder being a guy. Im lucky and have great female friends, but you can't talk to guys about this stuff. And yea its an addiction and you only see the solution as getting back with your ex, to curb that feeling of crap. But in reality the solution to the feeling is acceptance and healing. Ususally u broke up for a reason, it ain gonna work second time believe me, i have just been there. My objective is staying friends with my exes and making sure they always find me attractive. In a way that i dont become a pussy etc, I did all the flowers, grand gestures trying to get my first gf back and she will never see me as a proper man again i dont reckon I cant believe i actually thought crying would make her want me lol Although i was about 17 so i forgive myself, just!
Author exclusive. Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 And yea its an addiction and you only see the solution as getting back with your ex, to curb that feeling of crap. But in reality the solution to the feeling is acceptance and healing. Ususally u broke up for a reason, it ain gonna work second time believe me, i have just been there. This is exactly well put, generally 80% of the time the answer is to move on but your loneliness and heartache makes you believe the answer is within your ex. When really the feeling of rejection means loss of dignity and that dignity is regained with your ex. Supposidly.
Jamie_w Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 This is exactly well put, generally 80% of the time the answer is to move on but your loneliness and heartache makes you believe the answer is within your ex. When really the feeling of rejection means loss of dignity and that dignity is regained with your ex. Supposidly. There is also the added panic that if you dont act they will find someone else, or sleep with someone else. The dumpee always takes longer to accept the break up because they think the other person will be there. Thats why NC hits to hard. And thats why you are in a great position, because by the time they realise this you can be moved on and have made yourself a better, more attractive person.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 (edited) Wow I am about to feel like the only girl in here. I believe in love.. I dunno.. it's not only and addiction.. I dunno. There will be a guy that I will marry one day he might not be that special one but I feel like some people do get that in there lives whether or not they are the people they end up with. I really do believe certian people are meant to have really stong connections with each other that really make a difference negative or positive in each others lives. I dunno I guess call me girly and old fashion. Edited August 12, 2010 by fearthepinkmist
Author exclusive. Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Fear, it is not that I don't believe in love but our exes didn't realise the true meaning. I love my ex unconditionally, she was amazing but she doesn't love me and that makes her a fool I must forget.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Fear, it is not that I don't believe in love but our exes didn't realise the true meaning. I love my ex unconditionally, she was amazing but she doesn't love me and that makes her a fool I must forget. Kudos on that my friend same here.
mmk1 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Exclusive, I havent seen anyone peg this sage thread in a while so read the whole thing and go from there. Good luck! (I'm on my fourth week of NC with the same ex for about the 4th time, crazy!) I hope I pegged this right! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ If I screwed up, google "no foolin guide for the long walk." Very helpful!
Sambo Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 It can be ! It's called co-dependence. You really think relationships or love is addiction?
fearthepinkmist Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 It can be ! It's called co-dependence. I think it happens co-dependence.. I was just making sure that that isn't all that he thought about love.. cause that would just generally suck. Well here I go again... I am gonna go get addicted to someone.. YAY! FUN!....
Author exclusive. Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 (edited) Day 3 and im so pissed off! there is a music festival in 2 weeks at the weekend and I bought my ex and her brother their tickets with my debit card. She has contacted me again today, as well as she did on day 1 asking for the confirmation email and now today she is talking about how im giving her the tickets the text messaging went like this: Ex: When you get the b tickets, ill come and collect them, dont put them through the post! x Me: I dont really want to see you, so I shall post them through your letter box when its convenient for me. Ex: Ok thats better actually, just dont want to risk losing them through the post. thanks. x Is it me, or did she really to contact me about that? Did I handle the situation well? I would ignore her but shes paid £135 per ticket and me stealing the tickets doesnt make me very nice at all. Whats everyones thoughts on this situation? I didnt reply to her second message, I have stayed silent. but what a bitch, caring about the tickets and thats that! Not even I hope your okay. ARGH! IM SO ANGRY I just want her to leave me alone. P.S. the tickets got delivered today, should I post them to her straight away? or let her sweat it out?! Edited August 12, 2010 by exclusive.
fearthepinkmist Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Day 3 and im so pissed off! there is a music festival in 2 weeks at the weekend and I bought my ex and her brother their tickets with my debit card. She has contacted me again today, as well as she did on day 1 asking for the confirmation email and now today she is talking about how im giving her the tickets the text messaging went like this: Ex: When you get the b tickets, ill come and collect them, dont put them through the post! x Me: I dont really want to see you, so I shall post them through your letter box when its convenient for me. Ex: Ok thats better actually, just dont want to risk losing them through the post. thanks. x Is it me, or did she really to contact me about that? Did I handle the situation well? I would ignore her but shes paid £135 per ticket and me stealing the tickets doesnt make me very nice at all. Whats everyones thoughts on this situation? I didnt reply to her second message, I have stayed silent. but what a bitch, caring about the tickets and thats that! Not even I hope your okay. ARGH! IM SO ANGRY I just want her to leave me alone. P.S. the tickets got delivered today, should I post them to her straight away? or let her sweat it out?! Yeah that is kinda bitchy.. she probably acted that way on purpose too.. no I would wait to mail them (I am assuming that is was post means). I mean if she is gonna be bitchy and act like it doesn't matter to her like that then act the same.
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