smk Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 So, here I am yet again post about the ex.... Its shocking that no one has asked to shut up about her here on LS...LOL... Anyways - I am walking into work today and guess what happens??? I receive not one but 2 texts from the ex... First one telling me that she is back on her old number (she changed numbers when we started seeing each other because she wanted a clean start with us) and thought that I should know "just in case" and a second one telling me that she is unwell and wont be going into work... Hmmm - what a great start to my week... On a positive note though - I have started knocking her off the pedestal on which I had placed her - I am starting to see her in a different light - and realising a lot of things that I had previously ignored... Oh and another bit of random info that I just thought I would share - since the break up she has called in sick to work about 6 times in 2 months and her performance has been on a downward spiral (I had my partner phone me up this morning to have a discussion with me about this)....
DenverBachelor Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 It sounds like she's having some issues right now. She's probably going through that stage a lot of dumpers go through when they start to question what they did and how they did it. However, you really shouldn't be focused on her but on yourself. You really need to let go of her and stop devoting so much time to thinking about her. I know it is hard and easier said than done and when people on here told me this, all I did was go out and drink to the point where it no longer mattered either way. Obviously there's better ways to deal with your problems in life but you need to focus on getting out there and meeting others (even as just friends) and building your new life up. Sooner or later, you're going to meet someone amazing and much better than your ex. You can already start to see a lot of your ex's flaws -- I know, I went down that road, too. Good luck and don't reply to her. I know it is hard, but each day it will get about 1% easier. And as the days go to weeks and week to months, you'll find yourself 100% over her very soon.
Author smk Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 It sounds like she's having some issues right now. She's probably going through that stage a lot of dumpers go through when they start to question what they did and how they did it. However, you really shouldn't be focused on her but on yourself. You really need to let go of her and stop devoting so much time to thinking about her. I know it is hard and easier said than done and when people on here told me this, all I did was go out and drink to the point where it no longer mattered either way. Obviously there's better ways to deal with your problems in life but you need to focus on getting out there and meeting others (even as just friends) and building your new life up. Sooner or later, you're going to meet someone amazing and much better than your ex. You can already start to see a lot of your ex's flaws -- I know, I went down that road, too. Good luck and don't reply to her. I know it is hard, but each day it will get about 1% easier. And as the days go to weeks and week to months, you'll find yourself 100% over her very soon. DB - I am definitely done with the drinking now - done too much of it - as a commitment and challenge to myself I am on the wagon now so staying well clear from the juice for the next few months... I know, I really do need to stop focusing so much on her - but as you said its a lot easier said than done... I have though started seeing her flaws which I guess is a good sign... I am trying now to go out and meet some new people (on a friendship level) and taking things from there. Signed up to a socialising website and gonna take things from there...
bonpaw2008 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 DB - I am definitely done with the drinking now - done too much of it - as a commitment and challenge to myself I am on the wagon now so staying well clear from the juice for the next few months... I know, I really do need to stop focusing so much on her - but as you said its a lot easier said than done... I have though started seeing her flaws which I guess is a good sign... I am trying now to go out and meet some new people (on a friendship level) and taking things from there. Signed up to a socialising website and gonna take things from there... Good morning I know that any kind of contact makes you have to think about it all again, why is she contacting you, doesn't she work for your partner? I would tell him to tell her to contact him when she is calling in sick.... You are doing awesome, and it sounds like she is still going back to her own ways, progress my man, progress....
Author smk Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 Good morning I know that any kind of contact makes you have to think about it all again, why is she contacting you, doesn't she work for your partner? I would tell him to tell her to contact him when she is calling in sick.... You are doing awesome, and it sounds like she is still going back to her own ways, progress my man, progress.... Good Morning to you too. Yeah I know just when I stop thinking of her she comes back... Its weird... Yeah she works for my partner, but apparently she couldnt get hold of her and left a message and wanted to make sure that my partner knew she wouldnt be in today... Oh guess what else - the site I joined guess whose profile I come across on it - yes her again on one of the groups I joined on it... From what I hear she is going back to her old ways on the going out side etc... I heard some stuff that made me think that she is not the same person that I fell for... Wow what a reality check... I feel that I am making progress - sure somedays I do devote too much time to her, but others its just blah.... I know now that a relationship between us would never have worked - and wont until she can be true to herself - she seems to be a very conflicted young woman who needs to sort out her priorities in life...
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