hsmith34 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Im 20 yrs old,going to be a junior this yr in college. When I became a freshmen two years I met a guy named Brandon. He told me he wasnt involved with anyone,however it turned out he was lying. He basically told me that the girl was "crazy" and he didnt like to "hurt people" so he was going to let her go when he felt she could handle it. I believed him,and I accepted that he was involved with her because we we're not an official couple. Within a couple months I was spending the night with him every night. He was picking me up from work. When we we not together we were on the phone. So it seemed she was out of the picture. However I noticed his phone calls with her. I found things such as earrings and bras under the bed. I knew he was wrong,but I continued to be invloved with him. 8 months into our "thing" I lost my virginity to him. However, it wasnt that simple. He ended up bursting a cyst on my ovary so I had to go to the hospital (2 wks) and have surgery. Almost two years later I still have my surgery line, the doctors told me most likely I would not be able to have children, and plus on top of that Im stuck with these medical bills. He wasn't very supportive and actually ended up leaving to another state for a few months. During those months he disappeared I worked on healing and getting ready to go back to school. I also called him everyday. One day he called me to let me know he was back in town. I told him I wanted nothing to do with him and wasnt buying the story he gave me. Shortly after that I found out that he and the girl from when he was involved with the both of us. They had made it official. It was hard to swallow, but I moved on (so i thought). Somehow he managed to make it back in my life, he told me he wasnt with her. I never seen the girl anymore to actually ask her myself. We began having sex everyday and there never became a day when we couldn't have sex. One night at his apartment, I found a picture of her. He acted nonchalant about it, so I had him take me home. I was sure I was done with him,but days later he called to apologize, but told me that if he wanted to cheat on the girl it was none of my buisness. I never had sex with him again once I found it was true he was indeed with this girl. I was determined to let him go, and one night he text me about my where abouts. I told him to delete my number. He replied by calling be a "Nothing ass bitch" You would think after a man has called me out my name then that would be it? But i find myself constantly checking his facebook and twitter. We recently chatted about something irrelevant,but now Im just wondering do I need to cut him out of my life forever? Its hard waking up everyday looking in the mirror and seeing a scar because of him. This is the man I lost my virginity to, and also the man that has disabled me from having kids. Should I have such hate towards him or should I allow him in my life and just be on a friendship level? Im not even sure what im asking. I just know I seriously need help Thanks, Hannah
MsSydneyLane Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Hi Hanah, I dont think he is good in your life. Better cut things between you and him and move on. Be firm with your decision. He wasn't supportive when you needed him most. Also, I'd like to ask if you see any future with him? With his attitude and his neglect of your needs.... I think all he really wants from you is lust.. nothing more and not a long term commitment and responsibility. It seems that he also takes you for granted knowing he can get away with it easily. Don't be with someone who doesn't treat you right. You deserve better.
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