Not strong enough Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 I dunno if I was in denial, starting to look like it now. I was cruising the old facebook again... A comment from my ex pops up, and I had to look at her new profile picture. Well i dunno if you guys have been following my story or not, but that last message i got about getting the Christmas gift back, the sunglasses. Well it may have not been out of jealousy. Her new profile picture showed her and her new bf swimming in the lake, and he was wearing the custom sun glasses i bought her a long time ago. What irritates me the most is she was going to give my gift to him. Well i guess its her right but she gave him the glasses i gave to her. They have our names engraved on the lenses.... Maybe she knew i'd see it, maybe not, i dunno. I'm still debating asking her to lunch, because i will have some sort of answer from that. If she says no, then it means shes not trying to make me jealous to get me back, it means she really is just cold hearted, if she says yes, maybe she was trying to make me jealous. Either way at this point I don't really think ill be crushed after 2 months of her showing her ass. If she has the audacity to ask for the glasses back again, i guess i could either hang up. Or maybe trade um for every gift Ive given her in the past since i gave her all the ones she gave me back because they caused me to much pain.
smile01 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 dont show her it gets to you. Just dont. My ex loved the fact that i was still hurt and he was fine. He sent me nasty messages because he was hanging with all my friendds! just smile and act like your okay, its starting to work for me.
Author Not strong enough Posted August 10, 2010 Author Posted August 10, 2010 I don't, in fact it doesn't really bother me as much as i think it would. I just makes me wonder did we ever have anything period if she would do that, that kinda makes me sad, because i thought we at least had a good run. Maybe we did and shes playing games, i really don't know. Starting to not care either. I planned to ask her to lunch tomorrow but i'm not going to. It had 3 outcomes anyway, none of which i think i want at the moment, either 1 she wouldn't answer and it would either piss her off or stir her emotions up, which could be a bad thing. 2 She would answer it would piss her off and she would say no 3 The best but wont happen, is she will say yes, go to lunch with me and actually enjoy it. If 3 happened which i doubt it, she would want to get back together with me, and at this point, i'm pretty sure it would wind up the same way. I'll just wait a while longer, either way it will probably work in my favor. Unless she forgets about me, in which case she didn't love me anyway. But i think she does so i dont think she will just forget. The bad part is, i'm really possessive, so if it is 2 years before she talks to me again and shes screwed 5 guys, theres no way in hell id take her back. I wouldnt expect her to take me back either. I'm just odd like that, no ones ever driven my car but me, except for my cousin/friend who had an emergency and had to drive it 20 miles.
TheMB Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 So.....did you ask her to lunch? If so, what happened? I have done about everything wrong possible during my break-up (I haven't been able to stick to NC, I've embarrassed myself, I've set myself up for additional heartache, etc...) so any advice I give comes from the fact that I probably did the opposite, and it probably made my situation even worse. For me, the worst part of contacting my ex is the added pain that always follows. If she actually writes back, its cold and nowhere near what I was hoping for, or she doesn't write back at all, which still is extremely disappointing and makes me feel awful. So, if I were you, I would not invite her to lunch, and i would try to avoid contacting her at all. I don't know her, and I don't know your situation, but the outcome will probably not be what you want, and it will probably just set-back your recovery. That is how it has gone each time for me--no matter how smart contacting her may have seemed at the time.
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