Don Ho Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 3 weeks ago my Ex was really pissed that I lied where I was, that I went to her house after drinking after she told me not to and that I knocked on her door. The next day I made the mistake of her asking if she had another guy there. It went downhill from there. She started giving me the "I don't want a relationship" and "I don't feel the same" lines. The last text I sent said "Hey no worries, I enjoyed our time together. Wish you and your daughter the best. Hit me up some time if you wanna chat". I got a text from her about 10 days later that said "I hope it all worked out for you on your house purchase. I'm sure we'll cross paths again some day. Take Care. :)" I took it as a "peace out" and I didn't respond. I've been doing NC for 3 weeks. She has not contacted me at all and certainly not with any "thinking of you". I am contemplating sending her a txt in a couple of days that says "Tnx. I finally got the keys to my house! BTW, I agree you should have broken up with me, it's been for the best. Yeah, we might cross paths again if you're lucky". I'm thinking this because after Wed she will not have her daughter for 5 days and might want to stop by my new house. So.... continue NC and wait like I advise everyone else? Send that text or another?
tpopcaz Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 From the experience I'm going through right now, this is a tricky one. I used NC for a while but she ended up texting me and we agreed on things and talk now. If you do say something, it's probably best to say something like thanks, I've been busy sorry its taken so long to answer. Don't let her think youve been sitting around hurting, or be smart and say we may cross paths if your lucky. Let her know your doing good with your life with or without her.
tpopcaz Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Yea it all depends if you actually think theres a shot, or if your just setting yourself up to hurt more. I dont want to sounds like a jerk, but my no contact only lasted a couple days untill she realised I wont be the one putting in the effort. If its been three weeks and she said nothing to you, maybe its time to move on.
Author Don Ho Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 She replied 10 days after my text and I didn't know what to make of it. I never replied to her, based on what she said in her text I took it as a blow-off. I was waiting to see if she would re-contact. Some say respond if they contact you, but don't contact them.
Jamie_w Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 10 days is actually NOTHING. It may feel like a long time but believe me it isn't. No contact can take 6/9 months if needs be. For some reason once u start to move on, it creates an energy and they can just sense it. And when this happens they seem to always come running. Let her wonder why you arent contacting her. Let her wonder what you are upto and give her space to miss you. If you do contact her you will break the whole thing
Author Don Ho Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 Hi Jamie. You're probably right. I keep trying to rationalize replying to her text, letting her know I got my house and so on. She's the one that text "I'm sure we'll cross paths again some time". So let her wonder why I'm not contacting her and why I haven't replied. Not that it matters, but I think an Ex or another guy came back in the picture. If that's the case, then contacting her or replying to her two week old text isn't going to do anything except make me look foolish and have her asking "why is he bothering me? I've moved on". Then I think, she is stubborn and may not contact. But, as I tell other LS members, if they really like you or miss you that much they WILL contact you.
Silvaria Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I know this is an older thread, but I saw something I wanted to comment on: For some reason once u start to move on, it creates an energy and they can just sense it. And when this happens they seem to always come running.I've noticed this, as well. I can sit and cry for two days straight, and hear nothing from him...then one morning, I wake up, and I think, "To hell with this!" and I consciously push away thoughts of him, and even start employing a couple of little tricks in my mind that I use, which amount to mentally taking pictures of him and setting them on fire, and also, imagining ropes between us and cutting those ropes, one by one. I do this on and off throughout the day, and I am not kidding when I say that after a couple of days of this, or less, I usually hear from him out of the blue, and he's far more sweet and caring than he was the last time I heard from him. It's almost as if he sensed that he was losing me, and decided momentarily that it isn't what he wanted... Sigh...
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