CaliGuy Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 ...if I notice an attractive woman making eyes at me (interest eyes that is), when is a good time to talk to her? I am really at Church for worship so I feel "out of place" talking to someone there who may have an interest in me. Thoughts?!
TheLoneSock Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 ...if I notice an attractive woman making eyes at me (interest eyes that is), when is a good time to talk to her? I am really at Church for worship so I feel "out of place" talking to someone there who may have an interest in me. Thoughts?! I've run into this before too. After service, ideally as you're walking out and she's not completely surrounded by her family. She'll find a way to separate herself from the flock for a moment if she feels like you're going to make a move. It also depends on the size of your church. That will impact the results as well. You may or may not already know her. It's easier at a smaller church, especially since many families already try to play matchmaker anyway.
Gallaxia Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'd say make a bee-line for the exit and if it's nice outside, I'd say position yourself where everyone seems to gather and mingle before going to their cars.
skydiveaddict Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'd say make a bee-line for the exit and if it's nice outside, I'd say position yourself where everyone seems to gather and mingle before going to their cars. I agree with this
a_woman Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 don't think you should waste time, that's what public lavatories are for - even in church
brainygirl Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'd chat her up during before or after services meet and greet or maybe at a fellowship dinner and then think about asking her out from there. My dad met his wife at church, I don't care for her much but he seems happy with her.
wuggle Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I am really at Church for worship so I feel "out of place" talking to someone there who may have an interest in me. Thoughts?! Didn't god make you both, I'm sure he wouldn't be offended if you think about\talk to her at church, or just outside , maybe that's part or worship ? I thought he wanted men & women to be together ?
Eve Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Just spotted this post. I didnt realise that you go to Church. Hubby says that the 'meet and greet' time would be a nice time to introduce yourself. Or after the service. I say do both .. but I am pretty forward. Take care, Eve xx
skydiveaddict Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Didn't god make you both, I'm sure he wouldn't be offended if you think about\talk to her at church, or just outside , maybe that's part or worship ? I thought he wanted men & women to be together ? Wuggle is right Cali, what better place to meet someone than at church?
Shakz Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Anything keeping you from going over, introducing yourself, and worshipping with her? That way you won't have to hunt her down after the service. What God has joined together let no man put asunder.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Wow, can't believe C_G gone down the spiritual route.... I agree with posters that you can always mingle after the service. Get to know your fellow worshippers ( and possibly admirer) and start a Bible study group.
skydiveaddict Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Wow, can't believe C_G gone down the spiritual route.... He's always been that way
Art_Critic Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I am really at Church for worship so I think you've gotten some really good advice CG so I really can't add anything other than we now know what you were praying for
Author CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 I've run into this before too. After service, ideally as you're walking out and she's not completely surrounded by her family. She'll find a way to separate herself from the flock for a moment if she feels like you're going to make a move. It also depends on the size of your church. That will impact the results as well. You may or may not already know her. It's easier at a smaller church, especially since many families already try to play matchmaker anyway. She bolted before the service finished so we didn't get a chance to talk. I do find it harder at Church because as I said before, I am really there for worship and I really like our Pastor so I don't like the distractions that can occur when lots of eye contact is going on. I'd say make a bee-line for the exit and if it's nice outside, I'd say position yourself where everyone seems to gather and mingle before going to their cars. Like I said, I would have but she left before the service was over. I'd chat her up during before or after services meet and greet or maybe at a fellowship dinner and then think about asking her out from there. My dad met his wife at church, I don't care for her much but he seems happy with her. Hehe, well people are people, even if they are Christians it doesn't mean they are perfect. Didn't god make you both, I'm sure he wouldn't be offended if you think about\talk to her at church, or just outside , maybe that's part or worship ? I thought he wanted men & women to be together ? Yes that is true but the point I was trying to make is that I go to Church for worship, not to "hook up" with a fellow believer. I'm trying to stay focused on the message and that is really hard when there is someone you are interested in. Maybe I need to find a small group or something... Just spotted this post. I didnt realise that you go to Church. Hubby says that the 'meet and greet' time would be a nice time to introduce yourself. Or after the service. I say do both .. but I am pretty forward. Yeah I should have gotten there sooner but missed that window -- and she left before the service was over. I'm thinking maybe that was probably the best plan, lol Wuggle is right Cali, what better place to meet someone than at church? Agreed, I am just not sure when is the "right" time to talk. My pastor actually encouraged dating within the church. Since both parties have the same values, as opposed to dating a worldly secular heathen? Ain't no shame. Ask her if she wants to have bible study, close the bible. Open it right in the middle to Psalms. Enjoy! Haha, thanks. That is good advice. Anything keeping you from going over, introducing yourself, and worshipping with her? That way you won't have to hunt her down after the service. What God has joined together let no man put asunder. I saw her but at the time I did't think it was right during the service to walk over and sit with her. If I see her again I will do just that. Wow, can't believe C_G gone down the spiritual route.... I agree with posters that you can always mingle after the service. Get to know your fellow worshippers ( and possibly admirer) and start a Bible study group. He's always been that way Yup yup! I think you've gotten some really good advice CG so I really can't add anything other than we now know what you were praying for Haha, thanks man! Really appreciate the kind words. This thread had a lot of great advice -- more than I expected and it's really nice to see!
espec10001 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 (edited) Catholic girls...hmm...how do I say this...they are open to a lot of things. I played in a worship band at my old church and wow they are horny beyond belief. All you have to do is talk about Jesus and that's your in. It's so easy I might go back to church... Edited August 9, 2010 by espec10001
Author CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 Catholic girls...hmm...how do I say this...they are open to a lot of things. I played in a worship band at my old church and wow they are horny beyond belief. All you have to do is talk about Jesus and that's your in. It's so easy I might go back to church... I think you don't understand. I am not trying to "score" with chicks. That is a) Not really the way to follow God's viewpoint on relationships (that falls into the term "fornicator") and b) That is not why I am at services. As someone who has been in a few very successful bands, I know how women behave at shows (I was dating someone for a long time so I just ignored the girls making passes at my shows). Now that I am in a better position in life, I am trying to come to grips with meeting someone the right way without crossing the line from a Christian perspective.
espec10001 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 I think you don't understand. I am not trying to "score" with chicks. That is a) Not really the way to follow God's viewpoint on relationships (that falls into the term "fornicator") and b) That is not why I am at services. As someone who has been in a few very successful bands, I know how women behave at shows (I was dating someone for a long time so I just ignored the girls making passes at my shows). Now that I am in a better position in life, I am trying to come to grips with meeting someone the right way without crossing the line from a Christian perspective. God wants you to be fruitful and multiply, I don't see the harm in being with Christian women if they are open to it as well. God loves us, so why can't we love His creation? All I'm saying is that when I was into Jesus, I always had a conversation starter with the girls at church, so it made it so easy. Regardless of location, when boys and girls get together with a common interest, the bond that unites them is Love. And Love is what Christianity is all about, is it not? The Love Jesus had for us that He died for our sins, so that we can Love as well. You're there to share the love of Jesus, so share!
Author CaliGuy Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 Catholic girls...hmm...how do I say this...they are open to a lot of things. I played in a worship band at my old church and wow they are horny beyond belief. All you have to do is talk about Jesus and that's your in. It's so easy I might go back to church... God wants you to be fruitful and multiply, I don't see the harm in being with Christian women if they are open to it as well. God loves us, so why can't we love His creation? All I'm saying is that when I was into Jesus, I always had a conversation starter with the girls at church, so it made it so easy. Regardless of location, when boys and girls get together with a common interest, the bond that unites them is Love. And Love is what Christianity is all about, is it not? The Love Jesus had for us that He died for our sins, so that we can Love as well. You're there to share the love of Jesus, so share! I agree with what you're saying here, just not necessarily with your comments about Catholic girls, that's all. I am trying to stay focused on God's message without my own struggles (sinful nature) when it comes to girls I am intersted in. It's always, always been a struggle for me my entire life.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 it may be a one way ticket to hell, but I say you just ask her straight out "so Ive gotta ask you, how hot would it be knockin' boots in the pews?" wink at her too.
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