lizzy757 Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 My b/f and I have been together for two years. We loved each other very much. He always said that I was so good for him after the troubled life he had before he met me. Over the last two years we have had about 4 very bad arguments which follow the same pattern. I see them coming because they are normally triggered by something stressful going on in his life, ie. work, his sons etc. We will then normally get into a stupid row over something silly which will esculate into something huge, he will shut down and will not communicate with me for 2 or 3 days, apart from blaming me for taking him to this place. After trying to claw it all back together, one of us will leave. Our latest argument happened last week. It had been building for a while as he has just been told that he needs to have a replacement shoulder operation which has completely destroyed him as he has a very physical profession that he will not longer be able to pursue. We had a row, which I must admit was down to me. I think that I was feeling so drained from his stress that I picked a row out of nowhere, I regret that now. Anyway, it esculated and everything turned very bad and after four days of not being able to communicate, I left. I got my letter about two days later saying that he needed to be on his own until he figures out a way through all the uncertainty with his health and his job. He said that he loves me so much but he can’t be with me whilst he feels so low. I sent him a short text saying that I realised how stressed he was and I am here for him if he wants to talk. I got a text back about two hours later saying. He is very stressed and doesn't know where his life is going and doesn't see anything changing anytime soon. He thanked me for the offer of talking but said he was pretty talked out right now. He ended by saying that he hoped I was okay. I don't see that there is anymore I can do but leave him to it now, is there? I'm feeling very sad right now as I do really love him and I feel hurt that he is pushing me away.
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