LucreziaBorgia Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 This has left me confused a little. In myself. My MM is not especially romantic. Or intense. Or offering me amazing things. If anything it was how very relaxed everything was, how easy, how he would sometimes be gripey about things I would be gripey about. I never felt IN ANY WAY I was being lured or wooed. Different people bring different methods to the table. Some guys aren't really 'romancers' but they can bring you in in different ways.
joey66 Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Because the married man is the man she loves. (See my signature.) EXACTLY! Sometimes people fall in love. T/J - Isn't "anarchist utopia" an oxymoron? Or is that the point?
jennie-jennie Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 T/J - Isn't "anarchist utopia" an oxymoron? Or is that the point? Utopia is a name for an ideal society, and anarchism is the way to get there!
GreenEyedLady Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 For the life of me I can not understand why a single woman would want to have an affair and be in a relationship with a married man when there are scores of single guys out there.. Why would a woman want all of the problems, drama, bull sheet and excess baggage (that comes with being with a married man) when she has other options? This probably won't be a very popular post. Single guys ARE EXACTLY THE SAME AS MM, they just aren't married. (Which is a plus, I guess .) They lie, cheat and deceive but since they aren't married and doing it to someone else, they are supposed to be celebrated. If you think dating a single guy is drama free, then you are probably a MAN. Just keeping it real here. And not at all advocating dating a married man; if you're over 30, you already know the dating scene SUCKS. GEL
jennie-jennie Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 This probably won't be a very popular post. Single guys ARE EXACTLY THE SAME AS MM, they just aren't married. (Which is a plus, I guess .) They lie, cheat and deceive but since they aren't married and doing it to someone else, they are supposed to be celebrated. If you think dating a single guy is drama free, then you are probably a MAN. Just keeping it real here. And not at all advocating dating a married man; if you're over 30, you already know the dating scene SUCKS. GEL Thanks, GEL, for telling it as it is.
OWoman Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 I don't know that you have too many women who prowl for married guys. Some do, yes - but a majority of them aren't. Since I was one of those "women who prowl for married guys", I'll have a go at answering this: For the life of me I can not understand why a single woman would want to have an affair and be in a relationship with a married man when there are scores of single guys out there.. You make it sound as if single is preferable to married. That may be so for some people, but for others - like me - it wasn't. So the answer to that question would be, obviously - "well, duh - because the married guy is married and the single guy is single!" Why would a woman want all of the problems, drama, bull sheet and excess baggage (that comes with being with a married man) when she has other options? Because the MM doesn't come with "problems, drama, bull sheet and excess baggage", while the SG does! Perhaps if you're 15 and looking for a 23 year old to date, then him being SG and not MM is an advantage. Perhaps. But if you're in your 20s, and he's in his late 30s, you have to ask... why is he still single at 38? Is he closeted? Is he dysfunctional? How badly is he broken? And the answer, in most cases, is "pretty badly". So you look for less broken (unless you're one of those women who likes to fix broken men - I'm not) and, typically, at that age, they're usually settled and partnered. When you're older, it's even more pronounced. By their late 40s, 50s or more, men are either (a) Never M - and finding a 55 year old man who's never M is great if you're looking for a GBF or a research subject for your Psych PhD, but not great if you're looking for some action; or (b) D'd, in which case either recently (and still smarting, carrying lots of baggage, bleeding all over the place - fine if you're one of those women who likes to fix broken men - I'm not) or long D'd - in which case, either they're (b) (i) badly or irreparably broken - so no one wants them (unless you're one of those women who likes to fix broken men - I'm not); or (b) (ii) already taken, in which case they're as good as © taken - either M or elsewise partnered. Which, typically, accounts for all the mentally healthy ones So unless you're prepared to take up a second career as a psychiatric nurse (and I'm not), your choice is limited to MMs, pretty much.
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