Justme2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 My stbx and I communicate via email regarding our children, home etc. His OW has been opening his emails before he gets them. I know this because I get a delivery receipt when they have been opened. The times they are being opened are when my husband is no where near a computer such as when he is at the movies or park or hiking with our children. Why would OW been so interested in reading emails that I am sending him? Trust issue or just being nosey?
Chinook Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Uhm with the advent of smart phones, it is possible he can open his mails in all of those places. Has he got a smart phone...? (i.e. iPhone or Blackberry)
Author Justme2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 Not being opened with a smartphone because it gives me the IP address of what was used to open emails. When he uses his phone it comes up as his cell phone provider. These emails are being opened using a computer with an IP address of a internet provider.
Chinook Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 To be honest, you have no way of knowing really whether it's a trust issue or whether she's just being nosey... or whether it's something else entirely. The fact that she could be opening his mails implies that he's given her access to his email account and has said it's okay for her to read your mails - so she could also quite possibly be relaying the information in them to him. He may have given her the details and asked her to do this. You don't really know what the dynamic at play is here. You don't have much information to go on. He may be worried that if he doesn't read your stuff in a timely manner and instigate any required actions, he may be penalised with respect to the kids... I don't know what the dynamic is there, but he could be asking her to open them when he can't get to the computer. You just don't know how it is really. It's also probably not just your emails which are read either. Sorry, I know that's not really that helpful - just a different view maybe.
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 My stbx and I communicate via email regarding our children, home etc. His OW has been opening his emails before he gets them. I know this because I get a delivery receipt when they have been opened. The times they are being opened are when my husband is no where near a computer such as when he is at the movies or park or hiking with our children. Why would OW been so interested in reading emails that I am sending him? Trust issue or just being nosey? You need to talk to him about this and ask him to change his password. She has NO RIGHT to read his emails. She probably feels insecure and wants to make sure that you aren't trying to woo him back. And, because of the way their relationship started, she probably has trust issues with him as well as feeling intimidated by you as the mother of his kids.
Author Justme2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 Well the other day I asked him via text if he had received a certain email and he said he hadn't. This has happened a number of times. So I resend the emails that he said he hadn't received and he answers them on his phone. Finally, after the last lost email he asked me to send them to his work email address.
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 So she was reading and deleting them?? That's not good at all, he needs to talk to her and also change his password to email. Atleast now you can email him at his work address and she won't read and delete them! The fact that she could be opening his mails implies that he's given her access to his email account and has said it's okay for her to read your mails - so she could also quite possibly be relaying the information in them to him. This theory just has been blown out of the water..
You Go Girl Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Well the other day I asked him via text if he had received a certain email and he said he hadn't. This has happened a number of times. So I resend the emails that he said he hadn't received and he answers them on his phone. Finally, after the last lost email he asked me to send them to his work email address. Problem solved. Alerting him to that his OW is sabotaging him isn't your responsibility, and you wouldn't want to get in the middle of that anyway. If she's doing sneaky things, well, he signed up for her, so let him figure it out on his own. Meanwhile, you're focusing on his relationship with her, when you should be focusing on your future...gentle reminder.
Chinook Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 This theory just has been blown out of the water.. Absolutely! Deleting emails which could be important is totally out of line even if he has given her access, which is unlikely in this scenario. Let's hope xH gets a clue about the kind of lady he's involved himself with!
Corporate Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 My stbx and I communicate via email regarding our children, home etc. His OW has been opening his emails before he gets them. I know this because I get a delivery receipt when they have been opened. The times they are being opened are when my husband is no where near a computer such as when he is at the movies or park or hiking with our children. Why would OW been so interested in reading emails that I am sending him? Trust issue or just being nosey? Be playful next time. Say something ambigious. Next time you see your H, flirt (or at least joke) a little. Your next email to him should say something like "The thing that you did to me yesterday at my place, was very nice <wink, wink>."
Author Justme2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 Be playful next time. Say something ambigious. Next time you see your H, flirt (or at least joke) a little. Your next email to him should say something like "The thing that you did to me yesterday at my place, was very nice <wink, wink>." Ha ha! If we weren't in the middle of a divorce I would. He is not trustworthy and is probably spinning tales to tell her. She also cheated on her husband, so the two of them are liars and cheaters. Match made in heaven, right?
Mimolicious Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 Sorry I have to chime in on this... The same was happening to me. I communicate business matters only through email with my xH. He would ask me to make a prosposal, quote, invoice etc... never used to receive it. It occured to me that his OW was checking his emails and perhaps had his inbox set up to her smartphone. Well, I asked my xH and he said NO WAY! She doesn't have access to my email. RIIIIGHHT!!!!!!!!! I didn't buy it and nobody is going to outsmart me. LOL! So what did I do? I emailed him something very very personal and provocative. Called her a few degrading names and TICK TOCK TICK TOCK! Time bomb exploded. I knew it would work and she would blow herself up. She replied. :lmao: hahahahhahahha! ROFTLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! uuummm... password was changed and huge beef. At the end, it basically silver-plate delivered me the cold dish of knowing that she gets what she deserves. Obviously, she is living that same "miserable life full of lies" I once did. To hack his email and have it set up on your iphone, just told me that you are $hitting in your pants and you don't sleep at night because you don't trust him. HAHHAHH! Karma- such a motha****a! I highly doubt that OW was looking for communication from me or his kids. She well knew we existed when she barged into our M... so that tells me that was looking for something or someone else. This can be the same in your case, Justme.
whichwayisup Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Alerting him to that his OW is sabotaging him isn't your responsibility, and you wouldn't want to get in the middle of that anyway. If she's doing sneaky things, well, he signed up for her, so let him figure it out on his own. IT IS when it has to do with the kids. The OW is petty and jealous and has NO RIGHT to read his emails, let alone delete them. (reading emails is one thing, but deleting them is another)
Corporate Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 So what did I do? I emailed him something very very personal and provocative. Called her a few degrading names and TICK TOCK TICK TOCK! Time bomb exploded. I knew it would work and she would blow herself up. She replied. :lmao: Tell us what you emailed him. Tell us, tell us!
RedDevil66 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Mimo is my hero! I would have expected more class from an OW, really now ;-)
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