archivist Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I've been 2 months detached now and it has been strict NC from both sides. I often see a lot of people breaking NC on this board regardless of whether they are the dumper or dumpee and I wonder if I'm the only one who isn't in that kind of situation. But I know we get bits of info from each other's mutual friends. I don't know why I looked, it used to torture me, my heart would sink just looking at her smiling so I stopped. But today I felt nothing, I see pics of her having fun with new and old friends. I don't know if shes seeing someone new or not, there's no evidence of it in her pictures. I was curious and sniffing around, I guess it could have been a lot worse and I should consider myself lucky. I don't know why I did it but I'm glad it didn't set me back. I could be that I'm slowly getting over it, I am both disappointed and proud about myself today. Perhaps full NC is really the way to go? I don't know the answer to that yet.
Treasa Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I think once you stop caring and once you're completely over your ex, you'll see no real reason to check his/her FB. It's good that you didn't feel anything, although I wonder if you would have felt differently had you seen that she was with someone else. I haven't broken NC since I decided to implement it, nor have I felt even the tiniest urge to do so. When my brain decided enough was enough, that was it. I don't change my mind when it comes to some things. I know a lot of others here are the same way. We know when it's time to move on. I've been completely NC (no checking anything of his, and not even caring, really) since June 25th.
teanoranges Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'm lucky cause my ex doesn't have a FB... and very rarely does a mutual friend mention him.. I've just begun to block his new gf and his one roomie (even though the one's profile is private.. she kept coming up on my screen as a suggested friend/person I may know!!?? So I blocked her so that wouldn't happen and if by chance something IS posted about said ex, I won't even know. I'm so done with all the drama of relationships/people/ex... I just want to stay in peace. hahaha! Good luck with you!!
bonpaw2008 Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I've been 2 months detached now and it has been strict NC from both sides. I often see a lot of people breaking NC on this board regardless of whether they are the dumper or dumpee and I wonder if I'm the only one who isn't in that kind of situation. But I know we get bits of info from each other's mutual friends. I don't know why I looked, it used to torture me, my heart would sink just looking at her smiling so I stopped. But today I felt nothing, I see pics of her having fun with new and old friends. I don't know if shes seeing someone new or not, there's no evidence of it in her pictures. I was curious and sniffing around, I guess it could have been a lot worse and I should consider myself lucky. I don't know why I did it but I'm glad it didn't set me back. I could be that I'm slowly getting over it, I am both disappointed and proud about myself today. Perhaps full NC is really the way to go? I don't know the answer to that yet. That is good that you didn't feel anything, but yea you need to think about why you were compelled to do it.... I think you are getting over it, progress is progress, good job!
ResetReality Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 good going dude i haven't looked at my ex's since we split, 2 months ago, sometime i feel im over it and sometimes i feel sad i wont risk looking at her FB im not sure what i'd feel so best to stay away!
This Hurts Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 i haven't looked at my ex's since we split, 2 months ago, sometime i feel im over it and sometimes i feel sad i wont risk looking at her FB im not sure what i'd feel so best to stay away! Same here.
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